Episodios

  • 👮🏼‍♀️🍒 What Nobody Told Me About Loving Someone with PTSD
    Jul 18 2025

    In this raw, unfiltered solo episode, Courtney Nolan shares the real story behind her viral pivot—why she left the police force, how PTSD reshaped her marriage, and the exact moment she realised traditional advice wasn’t cutting it.

    This one’s for the woman who’s doing all the right things… but still feels like no one gets it.

    🔍 Inside this episode:

    – The behind-the-scenes of her career leap from law enforcement to intimacy coaching

    – The podcast search that left her more confused (and angry) than ever

    – The real reason she built a business: to create what didn’t exist

    – Why most support advice sounds good, but leaves women feeling more alone

    – Her first exposure to somatic sexology—and why it shook her more than any crime scene

    – The spicy, neurospicy truth about running a business while being “the village” for everyone else

    – A powerful reframe for any woman navigating relationships, motherhood, or trauma support alone

    💥 Whether you're a CEO, partner to someone with mental health challenges, or just looking to understand your own needs on a deeper level, this one will hit home.

    👂Listen in, and if this episode speaks to you, share it, tag @courtney__nolan, and drop into her DMs with your fav line.

    CLICK HERE >> to join the spicy newsletter thats a whole vibe in itself

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    16 m
  • [THE PATTERN INTERRUPT YOU NEED] Mini Pep Talk: You’re Not Stuck—You’re Just Scared
    Jul 9 2025

    Just a quickie ep - i didn't create this concept but i'm damn sure going to share it' because goddamn it's a goodie!This short and spicy 2-minute episode is your loving slap-in-the-face reminder:

    You're not stuck. You're scared. And that’s normal—but it’s not the whole story.

    Inside this quickie: — Why feeling unhappy and choosing the same thing = a silent loop — How to shift from autopilot to empowered in one thought — The permission slip you didn’t know you needed to choose differently

    This is your bite-sized nudge to stop marinating in “fine” and start choosing something better.

    Because babe, you’re not here to tolerate your life. You’re here to build it.

    🛎 Ready to take the wheel again? Hit play now.

    xCourts

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    2 m
  • 💔 Why You Crave Intimacy But Panic When You Actually Get It
    Jul 1 2025

    You want closeness. You initiate the sex. You start the deep conversation. And then… you ghost. Or pull away. Or shut down. Or spiral and convince yourself he doesn’t really love you.

    Sound familiar?

    In this episode, Courtney dives into the complex, chaotic, oh-so-relatable world of disorganised attachment—also known as anxious-avoidant attachment.

    It’s the style no one talks about… But nearly every high-achieving, overthinking woman secretly lives inside of.

    What you'll learn in this episode:

    • The real reason you flip-flop between wanting deep connection and needing space
    • How anxious and avoidant traits can show up in the same nervous system
    • What early emotional unpredictability teaches us about love, vulnerability, and safety
    • How this shows up in marriage, conflict, and the bedroom (yep, even mid-thrust)
    • Practical signs this attachment style is running the show—and how to start spotting it before it wrecks your connection

    You’ll especially relate if:

    • You open up one day… and feel emotionally hungover the next
    • You initiate intimacy but panic as soon as it starts to feel real
    • You say “I just need space,” then spiral when your partner actually gives it to you
    • You secretly fear that closeness = loss of control

    Key Message: You’re not too much. You’re not confusing. You’re not cold or clingy. You’re just someone who’s never been shown what safe, stable love actually feels like.

    And babe—now that you see the pattern? You can start to change it.

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    22 m
  • Avoidant But Achieving: Why High-Functioning Women Keep Intimacy at Arm’s Length
    Jun 24 2025

    So, you're the strong one. The capable one. The “I’m fine, don’t worry about me” one.

    But here’s the truth no one told you: Avoidant attachment doesn’t mean you don’t want love. It means love feels like it might cost you your freedom.

    In this juicy, note-folding, heart-spilling solo episode, Courtney unpacks what avoidant attachment actually looks like for high-achieving women who are thriving in business… but shutting down at home.

    We dive into:

    • The high-functioning habits masking your intimacy struggles (hello, overworking + emotional distance)
    • Why “I’m fine” is your favourite lie
    • The real reason your nervous system craves independence over intimacy
    • How avoidant attachment shows up in the bedroom (and why it’s not about low libido)
    • Courtney’s proven method for building connection without feeling engulfed
    • Why Afterglow™ is the container for unlearning performance-based love without losing your edge

    If you’ve ever ghosted mid-conflict (emotionally or literally), felt guilty for needing space, or hate being vulnerable unless it’s on your terms—this one is for you.

    ✨ Bonus Nugget: Healing avoidant attachment isn’t about changing who you are. It’s about learning to stay—present, soft, powerful—even when it gets uncomfortable.

    Afterglow™ is where we do exactly that. → DM “AFTERGLOW” or apply directly [CLICK HERE]

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    20 m
  • The Anxiety Loop That’s Wrecking Your Relationship (and How to Break It)
    Jun 17 2025

    Let’s be real—your partner’s short text reply shouldn’t make your heart drop. But if your brain spirals, your chest tightens, and you’re suddenly convinced he’s falling out of love with you, this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale.

    Today’s chat is all about anxious attachment—why high-achieving, hyper-capable women like you can lead a boardroom but fall into panic when he forgets the 😘 emoji.

    Inside this episode:

    • What anxious attachment really is (no textbook snoozefest, promise)
    • How your nervous system got wired for “earn your love” energy
    • Why texts, tone, and timing can feel like life-or-death signals
    • The secret sauce to going from panic to power (in under 3 minutes)
    • Courtney’s spicy personal rituals to get out of overfunction mode
    • A behind-the-scenes peek at Afterglow™ and how to become secure AF in love and intimacy

    If you’ve ever asked:

    💬 “Why do I know I’m loved, but I don’t feel it?”

    💬 “Why does silence feel like punishment?”

    💬 “Why can’t I stop refreshing his Insta story views?” …this episode is your permission slip to stop performing and start healing.

    ✨ Wanna go deeper? Join the AFTERGLOW™ waitlist or DM Courtney “AFTERGLOW” to apply. You’re not too much. You’re just finally feeling everything. → [CLICK HERE]

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    20 m
  • The Overthinker’s Guide to Feeling Safe in Sex + Love
    Jun 12 2025

    Feel like a total badass at work but fall apart over a one-word text from your partner? Yeah—this one’s for you.

    In this episode, Courtney breaks down anxious attachment in a way that actually makes sense—no therapy jargon, just real talk for high-achieving women who are sick of spiralling in silence. Learn why you overthink, shut down, and keep chasing emotional safety in all the wrong places—and how to finally get off the anxiety rollercoaster.

    This is your no-fluff, luxe AF guide to understanding the emotional wiring behind your bedroom blocks. And the best part? You don’t have to stay stuck.

    You’ll learn:

    • What anxious attachment really means (and how it shows up in texts, sex, and silence)
    • Why high-performing women are wired for over-functioning and fear of abandonment
    • Tools to calm your nervous system in the middle of a spiral (aka The Reset Loop™)
    • How to feel safe, sexy, and seen—without needing him to text back instantly

    If your love life feels like a game of emotional ping pong, it’s time to change the rules.

    🔥 Mentioned in This Episode:

    💌 AFTERGLOW™ — Courtney’s 4-week, high-touch group experience for women ready to break their anxious patterns and create confident, grounded intimacy. Only 4 spots. No fluff. Full transformation. ✨ Apply here → [CLICK] Or DM “AFTERGLOW” on Instagram to learn more.

    📌 Connect with Courtney:

    • Instagram: @courtney__nolan
    • Website: www.courtneynolan.com
    • UNCUT Weekly Email: Subscribe [here]
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    24 m
  • The Real Reason Sex Feels Like a Performance (Hint: It’s Not Just Porn Culture)
    Jun 4 2025

    You’ve got the candles lit, the laundry folded, and maybe even the lube nearby… So why does sex still feel like something you’re performing instead of something you’re enjoying?

    In this unfiltered, juicy AF episode, I take you on a real-talk car ride (yep, nips freezing and all) to unpack the truth most women never get taught:

    If you’re obsessing over your angles, your sounds, or whether you’re “doing it right”—you’re not broken. You’re conditioned.

    We dive into:

    • The link between performance-based love and your bedroom confidence
    • What childhood praise (or the lack of it) has to do with your moaning habits
    • Why so many high-achieving women over-function in the bedroom just like they do in business
    • The anxious spiral when he skips a “good morning” text—and how that’s your attachment style talking
    • How to spot (and stop) performance sex patterns before they wreck your pleasure

    Whether you’re the “praise me or I panic” type, or just sick of overthinking sex like it’s a bloody KPI, this episode will help you pause, unpack, and actually start to enjoy intimacy again.

    It's cheeky. It’s vulnerable. And it might just be your bedroom breakthrough.

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    9 m
  • 🚨How to Tell Him What You Want in Bed (Without Hurting His Ego)
    May 27 2025

    Ever tried to give feedback during sex and it totally backfired? You're not alone. In this refreshingly honest episode, Courtney breaks down one of the most common intimacy blocks for couples: when feedback in the bedroom feels like criticism… and suddenly, your partner shuts down. Whether you’ve been left wondering “Did I just ruin the vibe?” or you’re tired of tiptoeing around your own pleasure, this one’s for you.

    Courtney shares:

    • Why good communication sometimes still doesn’t land mid-thrust
    • How your childhood attachment style plays into your adult sex life
    • The exact questions to ask your partner after a bedroom flop
    • What to say (and NOT say) when asking for something different in bed
    • How to rebuild trust and desire when intimacy goes awkward

    If the phrase “slow the fuck down” has ever left your lips and killed the mood—you’ll feel deeply seen in this one.

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    10 m