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  • Redefining “Normal”: Healing, Hope, and Empowerment with Bill Chini of the Mary & Martha House
    Nov 27 2025

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    In this deeply moving episode of Soulful Self-Care Conversations, Pearl welcomes Bill Chini, Executive Director of Mary & Martha House, a nonprofit dedicated to helping women and families overcome domestic violence and homelessness.

    Bill—an Air Force veteran with lived experience of abuse, addiction, and homelessness—shares his extraordinary journey from darkness to leadership. His story of survival, resilience, and faith shows how even the most painful paths can lead to a life of purpose and service.

    Together, Bill and Pearl unpack the concept of “normal,” discuss the cycles of abuse, and explore how love, respect, and healthy communication can rebuild lives. They also shine light on the life-changing work happening every day at Mary & Martha House and the ripple effect of empowerment programs that help women find stability and self-worth.

    This episode is both raw and redemptive—a must-listen for anyone who’s ever questioned their worth, their “normal,” or their ability to start over.

    What You’ll Hear in This Episode

    💬 Bill’s Story: From childhood abuse to homelessness, addiction, and transformation through service.
    💔 Breaking the Cycle: How parental patterns of control and trauma become generational—and how to stop them.
    🪞 Redefining “Normal”: Why everyone’s version of normal is different, and how to create a healthier one.
    🏡 Inside Mary & Martha House: How this nonprofit helps women rebuild their lives through shelter, stability, and empowerment.
    🧠 Understanding Gaslighting: Where the term really came from and how it’s used to manipulate and control.
    💪 Healing Through Storytelling: How sharing your story can release shame, inspire others, and create connection.
    ❤️ Empowerment through Coaching: The impact of female empowerment programs and the importance of believing you’re enough.

    Key Quotes

    • “Normal is what you know—but what you know isn’t always what’s right.” — Bill Chini
    • “Abuse isn’t always punches and kicks. It’s about control—emotional, financial, or psychological.” — Bill Chini
    • “You can’t help someone if they don’t know you exist.” — Bill Chini
    • “We can’t change where we came from, but we can decide what our new normal looks like.” — Pearl
    • “When you tell your story, you don’t just free yourself—you give someone else permission to heal.” — Pearl

    Gentle Guidance & Takeaways

    🌱 Redefine Your Normal: You get to decide what healthy love, safety, and respect look like.
    💡 Abuse Takes Many Forms: Control—whether emotional, financial, or physical—is never love.
    🕊 Healing Takes Work: It’s okay to seek therapy, to talk, and to set boundaries.
    💬 Use Your Voice: You never know who needs to hear your story.
    ❤️ Ask and Listen: Sometimes “How are you?” can save someone’s life.
    🏠 Support Local Shelters: Awareness saves lives—share the work of organizations like Mary & Martha House.

    About Mary & Martha House

    Founded in 1982, Mary & Martha House provides shelter, support, and empowerment programs to women and families escaping domestic violence and homelessness. Their mission: to help women find safety, independence, and stability while breaking the cycles of abuse and poverty.

    • 🌐 Website: marymarthahouse.org

    • 💌 Donations & Volunteer Opportunities: Visit the website

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  • Finding Harmony in Business and Life with Crystal Fox
    Nov 20 2025

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    In this special episode of Soulful Self-Care Conversations, Pearl sits down with her longtime friend and business partner Crystal Fox, founder of Fox Business Marketing AI, a Chicago-based digital marketing consultancy helping small businesses automate, optimize, and grow.

    From meeting on Clubhouse during the pandemic to building powerful collaborations, Pearl and Crystal dive deep into how entrepreneurs can find harmony instead of hustle by creating systems that support both business and life. Crystal shares her inspiring personal story of resilience — from losing her mother at 13 to overcoming fear and finding her voice — and how that shaped her purpose to empower others through digital strategy and marketing clarity.

    This episode is packed with wisdom for entrepreneurs, CEOs, and creatives who are ready to stop playing busy and start growing intentionally.

    What You’ll Hear in This Episode

    💎 Crystal’s Story: How childhood trauma, loss, and survival mode led to resilience, humor, and a passion for helping others.
    🧠 Stop Chasing, Start Attracting: The mindset shift every entrepreneur needs to make to grow sustainably.
    💻 The Power of Streamlining: How automating and optimizing your systems saves both time and money.
    💬 The Google Game: Why reputation management and reviews matter more than ever.
    📈 The Goal is Growth, Not Busyness: How to focus on ROI, not “look busy” tasks.
    💖 Trust and Teamwork: Why finding the right people for your business (and life) changes everything.
    🎯 Audit, Align, and Level Up: How Crystal helps clients identify leaks, refine processes, and find their “why” behind every goal.

    Key Quotes

    • “You can always stay busy playing business — or you can choose to actually grow.” — Crystal Fox
    • “You have to know your ‘why’ before you can figure out the how.” — Crystal Fox
    • “I want to be remembered for showing up radiant, happy, and present — not just busy.” — Pearl
    • “Systems don’t replace your creativity; they make room for it.” — Crystal Fox
    • “Every entrepreneur needs to stop chasing and start attracting — that’s where harmony begins.” — Crystal Fox

    Gentle Guidance & Takeaways

    💡 Audit Your Business: Review where your time and money are going. What’s serving you — and what’s not?
    ⚙️ Automate What You Can: Free up time for creativity, coaching, or connection.
    🕰 Time ≠ Money: Ask yourself, “Is this worth my hourly rate?” If not, delegate it.
    📬 Consistency Builds Trust: A weekly newsletter, updated Google page, or regular social post matters more than perfection.
    💰 Streamline for Savings: Every unnecessary platform or subscription is money you could reinvest elsewhere.
    Play the Long Game: Systems and storytelling together create sustainable growth — not overnight success.

    About Crystal Fox

    Crystal Fox is the founder of Fox Business Marketing AI, a boutique digital marketing consultancy based in Chicago. She helps small businesses grow by combining technology, automation, and authentic storytelling. Crystal’s mission is to make digital success achievable for everyone, blending strategy with heart and humor.

    • 🌐 Website: foxbma.com

    • 💬 LinkedIn: Crystal Fox 2020

    • 📞 Phone: (309) 922-5216
    • 🎙 Podcast: Crystal Ball Clarity of It All

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  • From Chaos to Calm: Parenting, Purpose, and Possibility with Leonne Sherr
    Nov 13 2025

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    In this beautifully honest episode of Soulful Self-Care Conversations, Pearl sits down with Leonne Sherr, founder of The Wonder Mama, parenting coach, and creator of The Wonder Mama Compass and Calm Before the Monday. Leonne helps parents move from reactivity to calm, confidence, and connection—creating homes that feel steady, safe, and whole again.

    Leonne shares her story of faith, resilience, and motherhood, including her own journey through grief after losing a child. She and Pearl open up about navigating loss, rediscovering identity, and learning that calm is not a luxury—it’s a choice. Together, they explore how to build emotional tools that support the entire family, how to replace guilt with grace, and how to lead with love instead of burnout.

    If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, reactive, or unsure where to start on your journey toward balance and peace, this conversation is the reminder you’ve been waiting for: you have a choice—and it’s possible to build better.

    What You’ll Hear in This Episode

    🌿 Leonne’s Story: From corporate leadership to grief, coaching, and motherhood—how her faith led her to create The Wonder Mama.
    🧘‍♀️ From Reactive to Responsive: How to build calm and confidence in parenting, even when life keeps “life-ing.”
    💬 The Power of Choice: Why emotional awareness and personal responsibility are the first steps toward change.
    💞 Healing and Parenting After Loss: Both Pearl and Leonne share how they continue to honor their children while choosing joy.
    🪞 Breaking Cycles: Recognizing and releasing generational patterns that no longer serve you.
    Calm Before the Monday: How to reclaim time, set boundaries, and start the week from peace instead of panic.
    The Wonder Mama Compass: A step-by-step process to land where you are, meet your inner voice, and create a steady life filled with intention and legacy.

    Key Quotes

    • “We have to know where we are before we can make any change.” — Leonne Sherr
    • “Life is going to keep ‘life-ing.’ The work is learning how to stay grounded while it does.” — Leonne Sherr
    • “You don’t have to wear every title at once—your worth isn’t in your roles.” — Pearl
    • “You are allowed to be calm. You are allowed to be confident. You are allowed to be you.” — Leonne Sherr
    • “Healing doesn’t mean forgetting. It means learning how to walk with both grief and joy.” — Pearl

    Gentle Guidance & Takeaways

    💫 Start where you are: You don’t have to have it all figured out—just begin.
    🕊 Replace “have to” with “get to”: Every task can become a choice instead of a burden.
    🌷 Meet your inner voice: Teach it to be your ally, not your critic.
    👣 Break the cycles: Generational habits don’t define you—you get to decide what stays and what ends.
    🪶 Land where you are: Comparison steals peace. Be present in your own story.
    💖 Build your legacy: Every small act of calm and connection becomes part of what you pass on.

    About Leonne Sherr

    Leonne Sherr is the founder of The Wonder Mama, parenting coach, and creator of The Wonder Mama Compass and Calm Before the Monday. She helps parents worldwide replace reactivity with calm and confidence, build connection within their families, and lead from peace rather than pressure.

    • 🌐 Website: thewonderm

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  • Finding Resilience, Releasing Grief, and Rediscovering Yourself with Stacey Johnson
    Nov 6 2025

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    In this heartfelt and inspiring episode of Soulful Self-Care Conversations, Pearl sits down with Stacey Johnson, a grief coach, resilience mentor, and founder of Anchor Resilience, to talk about healing, identity, and rediscovering yourself after loss.

    After losing both her stepfather and husband just weeks apart, Stacey found herself navigating deep grief, emotional burnout, and the overwhelming pressure of keeping everything together. Through her own healing, she discovered how to regulate her emotions, shift limiting beliefs, and rebuild a peaceful relationship with herself. Now, she helps other women do the same through her Spiritual Behavioral Shift Method, guiding them to stop over-functioning, reconnect with their emotions, and rise as confident leaders in life and family.

    Whether you’re grieving a loved one, a lost version of yourself, or an unfulfilled dream, this episode will remind you that healing isn’t about “getting over it”—it’s about coming home to who you are.

    What You’ll Hear in This Episode

    💔 Stacey’s personal journey of losing her stepfather and husband within weeks—and how she learned to survive and rebuild.
    🌱 Why grief is not only about death—it can also mean the loss of identity, purpose, or self.
    🧘‍♀️ The importance of emotional regulation and connecting with your feelings instead of burying them.
    💬 Why saying “I’m fine” keeps us stuck—and how to truly express what we’re feeling.
    💫 Understanding that we can hold both joy and sadness at the same time.
    🌈 How to release limiting beliefs and rewrite your internal story.
    🕊 The Spiritual Behavioral Shift Method: a grounding, mindfulness-based practice to reconnect with your true self.
    ❤️ How to create peaceful relationships—with others and with yourself.

    Key Quotes

    • “Grief isn’t just about funerals. It’s also about losing who we thought we were.” — Stacey Johnson
    • “You can feel joy and sadness at the same time. Healing doesn’t mean you stop missing them.” — Stacey Johnson
    • “Every time we say ‘I’m fine,’ we’re just stuffing emotions that need to be seen.” — Stacey Johnson
    • “When we regulate our nervous system, our body and mind finally start believing the healing words we tell ourselves.” — Pearl
    • “You don’t have to do it all alone. Letting go of control makes room for peace.” — Stacey Johnson

    Gentle Guidance & Takeaways

    🌷 Feel it to heal it: Don’t rush your grief or minimize your emotions.
    🪞 Rewrite the story: Replace limiting beliefs like “I’m not enough” with new truths rooted in love and grace.
    🫶 Ground yourself: Use mindfulness or breathing practices to reconnect with your body.
    💬 Speak honestly: When someone asks how you are, let them in—authenticity builds healing.
    🪶 Release control: You don’t have to carry everyone’s emotions; prioritize your peace.
    💖 Reconnect with self: You’re not just someone’s wife, mom, or daughter—you’re you.

    About Stacey Johnson

    Stacey Johnson is a grief coach, resilience mentor, and founder of Anchor Resilience. She helps women regulate emotions, heal after loss, and rediscover who they are beyond their titles and roles. Through her Spiritual Behavioral Shift Method, she teaches women how to anchor themselves in peace, confidence, and purpose after life’s biggest storms.

    • Website: stacyjohnsoncoaching.com




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  • Reigniting Intimacy: Healing, Pleasure, and Partnership with Xanet Pailet
    Oct 29 2025

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    In this powerful and deeply honest episode of Soulful Self-Care Conversations, Pearl sits down with nationally recognized sex and intimacy educator Xanet Pailet, bestselling author of Living an Orgasmic Life and creator of Passionate Intimacy Retreats.

    After leaving a 26-year sexless marriage and a high-powered legal career, Xanet helps couples reconnect emotionally and physically by healing the wounds that block true intimacy. She shares her personal story of shame, trauma, disconnection, and rediscovery — and how that journey now fuels her mission to help others build relationships rooted in trust, passion, and safety.

    This conversation opens the door to topics too often left unspoken — sexual trauma, performance anxiety, healing communication, and reclaiming pleasure at any age.

    What You’ll Hear in This Episode

    ❤️ How childhood shame and emotional neglect can create lifelong intimacy barriers
    💔 What it’s like to live in a sexless marriage — and how to rediscover desire afterward
    🧠 Why anxiety, trauma, and disconnection can shut the body down physically
    💬 How honest communication and emotional safety are the foundation of great sex
    🌹 The healing power of vulnerability, repair, and forgiveness in relationships
    🔥 How Xanet’s Passionate Intimacy Retreats help couples rebuild connection and pleasure
    💫 Why pleasure isn’t just a luxury — it’s a birthright

    Key Quotes

    • “You can’t talk your way into better sex — you have to feel your way there.” — Xanet Pailet
    • “Pleasure is your birthright. When we believe that, everything begins to change.” — Xanet Pailet
    • “The difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships is the ability to repair.” — Xanet Pailet
    • “Healing sexual trauma begins with creating safety in the body — and in the relationship.” — Pearl
    • “We are never too old to reconnect to passion, play, and pleasure.” — Pearl

    Gentle Guidance & Takeaways

    • Start with safety: Emotional connection comes before physical intimacy.
    • Speak your truth: Honest, blame-free communication is the foundation of repair.
    • Heal the body: True sexual healing is somatic — felt, not forced.
    • Forgive yourself: Shame and guilt keep you from enjoying the love you deserve.
    • Learn together: Intimacy skills can be taught, practiced, and strengthened — at any stage of life.

    About Xanet Pailet

    Xanet is a sex and intimacy coach, author, and retreat leader who has helped thousands of couples transform disconnection into deep emotional and physical closeness. She specializes in helping couples move beyond shame, trauma, and avoidance to rediscover authentic connection and passion.

    • Website: howtoimprovemylovelife.com
    • Free Gift: Seven 3-minute intimacy tools to improve your love life
    • Book: The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit — pre-order now
    • Retreats: Private couples retreats in Asheville, NC, and group retreats in Costa Rica

    Journal Prompts

    1. What conversations about intimacy am I avoiding — and why?
    2. When do I feel most emotionally safe with my partner?
    3. How does my body respond when I think about pleasure or desire?
    4. What stories from my past still shape how I approach intimacy today?


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  • Healing Through Forgiveness: Restoring Health and Harmony with Hanna Kok
    Oct 22 2025

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    In this deeply insightful episode of Soulful Self-Care Conversations, Pearl sits down with Hanna Kok, a transformational coach, educational kinesiologist, medical intuitive, and creator of the I Thrive app. For over 30 years, Hanna has guided people to heal through the mind-body-spirit connection, teaching how emotional stress and unresolved trauma affect the body—and how the science of forgiveness can restore health and harmony.

    From her home in South Africa, Hanna shares the powerful link between emotions, hormones, and healing. She explains how holding grudges can physically inhibit energy flow, why forgiveness is a private act of freedom, and how releasing resentment can improve overall well-being—without medication or surgery.

    This conversation will leave you reflecting on what’s really eating at you, how self-forgiveness changes everything, and why letting go may be the healthiest choice you’ll ever make.

    What You’ll Hear in This Episode

    🌿 The Science of Forgiveness: How emotions like resentment and anger create stress in the body—and how letting go can heal it.
    💫 Mind-Body Connection: Why unresolved trauma shows up as physical illness or hormonal imbalance.
    🧘‍♀️ Forgiveness as Freedom: Understanding that forgiving isn’t condoning—it’s choosing peace for yourself.
    💞 Health Without Hormones: How forgiveness and stress relief can naturally balance the body after menopause or surgery.
    💭 Changing Your Inner Dialogue: The role of beliefs and self-talk in shaping our reality.
    🌸 Self-Forgiveness: Why forgiving yourself is the first step toward restoring energy and health.
    📲 The I Thrive App: How Hanna helps people reprogram limiting beliefs for better health and self-esteem.

    Key Quotes

    • “Health isn’t only about what you eat—it’s about what’s eating you.” — Hanna Kok
    • “Forgiveness is not about condoning others. It’s a private affair—it’s for your peace.” — Hanna Kok
    • “We teach what we most need to learn ourselves.” — Hanna Kok
    • “When we start taking care of ourselves, people begin treating us differently too.” — Hanna Kok
    • “Self-forgiveness is where true healing begins.” — Pearl

    Gentle Guidance & Takeaways

    • Forgive to Heal: Resentment restricts energy flow through the body; forgiveness restores it.
    • Honor Emotions: Feel them, don’t bury them. Suppressed feelings become stress in the body.
    • Reprogram Beliefs: Your subconscious determines what you attract—rewrite those stories.
    • Let Go of “Shoulds”: Health isn’t about strict diets or perfection; it’s about peace with yourself.
    • Forgiveness ≠ Reconciliation: You can forgive without inviting someone back into your life.
    • Listen to Your Body: Stress, sleeplessness, or illness often point to what needs emotional release.

    Resources & Support

    • Hanna Kok – I Thrive App & Coaching
      Free Self-Esteem program available at hannakok.com (works with or without the “h” at the end).
      When Hanna’s new book Better or Bitter: The Choice Is Yours is released, you’ll receive the first three chapters free when you sign up.
    • Work with Pearl
      Coaching sessions and retreats to help you forgive, heal, and rediscover joy:
      wsliving.com | wslivingretreats.com

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  • Soulful Self-Care Conversations: Retreat Update — Transformation, Harmony, and Saying Yes to Yourself
    Oct 16 2025

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    In this inspiring update episode of Soulful Self-Care Conversations, Pearl reflects on the incredible success of her 9th Annual Soulful Self-Care Pajama Retreat and Summit — a transformative weekend where women showed up authentically, released their masks, and shared their deepest stories, some for the very first time.

    Pearl shares how her vision of creating a safe, makeup-free space for women to heal, grow, and reconnect with their true selves has blossomed into something beyond what she imagined. From powerful breakthroughs and personal testimonies to clients launching their dream businesses, this retreat continues to embody the mission of her coaching: helping women say yes to their lives.

    Pearl also reveals exciting updates about the 10th Anniversary Retreat, new VIP offerings, and a touching personal story from her bucket-list trip to Greece that reminded her of the beauty of doing something for yourself.

    What You’ll Hear in This Episode

    ✨ Heartfelt moments from the 9th Annual Soulful Self-Care Pajama Retreat & Summit
    ✨ How two women—Angie Grimes and Mia Hanks—found the courage to share their untold stories
    ✨ Why Pearl’s “no makeup” rule helps women release their inner masks and connect soul-to-soul
    ✨ The ripple effect: how clients like Monnie turned retreat inspiration into thriving businesses
    ✨ What it really means to find your joy list and why identifying your “why” behind joy matters
    ✨ A behind-the-scenes look at the upcoming 10th Anniversary Retreat, held at a beachfront home perfectly named The Pearl
    ✨ How Pearl’s bucket-list trip to Greece brought a powerful spiritual sign from her late son
    ✨ Why women today are seeking harmony instead of balance — and how to find it
    ✨ Tips for communicating realistic expectations with your family and creating more peace at home

    Key Quotes

    • “When we take off our makeup, we’re not just revealing our skin — we’re revealing our souls.” — Pearl
    • “This retreat isn’t just about self-care. It’s about rediscovering who you are beneath the titles.” — Pearl
    • “Saying no to others is really saying yes to yourself.” — Pearl
    • “Women don’t want balance. They want harmony — a rhythm that honors every part of who they are.” — Pearl

    Retreat Highlights

    • Mia Hanks shared her story publicly for the first time — a moment of courage and healing.
    • Angie Grimes felt called to reveal her life journey in front of the group, turning vulnerability into empowerment.
    • Natalie Kim helped women reshape their money mindset and confidence around financial wellness.
    • Trish Decker guided attendees in rekindling romance and embracing menopausal transitions with grace.
    • Ocean Sands Events curated a “fill your cup” experience through self-care and creative reflection.

    Upcoming 10th Anniversary Retreat — The Pearl

    🌊 Location: Gulf Shores, Alabama
    🏠 Beachfront house called The Pearl
    🗓 Dates: Fall 2026 (exact dates announced soon)
    💎 Features:

    • Private beachfront setting
    • VIP oceanfront suites with exclusive perks:
      • Early arrival day
      • Reiki and massage session
      • Professional photo shoot
    • Only 8 spots left

    Reserve your spot now at wslivingretreats.com

    Finding Harmony After the Retreat

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  • How Embracing Hair Loss Leads to Empowerment & Self-Acceptance with Kellie Rhymes
    Oct 8 2025

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    In this heartfelt episode of Soulful Self-Care Conversations, Pearl welcomes Kellie Rhymes—a confidence coach and founder of Limitless Mindset Coaching—who helps women navigate hair loss with courage, authenticity, and radical self-acceptance.

    Kellie shares her journey from the first pea-sized bald spot to a scarring alopecia diagnosis (CCCA), the shock of being told “there’s nothing you can do,” and the day an adverse salon reaction led to shaving her head—ready or not. With honesty and grace, she walks us through denial, wigs, learning curves, and the turning point: rebuilding confidence from the inside out.

    If you or someone you love is facing hair loss—from alopecia, autoimmune issues, chemo, or hormonal shifts—this episode offers practical perspective, the power of community, and a path back to feeling beautiful, worthy, and free.

    What You’ll Hear in This Episode

    • Kellie’s Origin Story: From late-20s thinning to a scarring alopecia (CCCA) diagnosis common among Black women due to historic styling practices/products.
    • When “There’s Nothing To Do” Isn’t the End: Why clinical answers aren’t always emotional answers—and where personal agency begins.
    • The Shave Day: An unexpected cut, a closed barbershop, and friends who stayed all day—what true support looks like.
    • Wigs, Learning, and Letting Go: Navigating early wig missteps, quality upgrades, and the difference between hiding and choosing.
    • Mindset > Mirror: How releasing negative self-talk and fear of others’ opinions created real, embodied confidence.
    • Being Seen (Without Hair): Receiving compliments as a bald woman—and learning to believe them.
    • The Balcony Test: Curating your support system—who gets a front row seat to your healing?

    Powerful Quotes

    • “A diagnosis can tell you what’s happening to your hair. It can’t tell you who you are.” — Kellie Rhymes
    • “I wasn’t prepared to shave my head—but my friends were prepared to love me through it.” — Kellie Rhymes
    • “Hiding and choosing can look the same on the outside. Only you know the difference.” — Pearl
    • “Confidence didn’t come from hair. It came from the way I talked to myself.” — Kellie Rhymes

    Gentle Guidance & Takeaways

    • Feel your feelings: Denial is human. So is grief. Make room for both.
    • Get informed—get support: A dermatologist’s input matters; so does advocacy, especially for CCCA and Black women’s hair health.
    • Try, test, choose: Wigs, scarves, bald, buzzed—your body, your decision. Choice restores power.
    • Rewrite the script: Replace “What will they think?” with “What do I believe about me?”
    • Curate your balcony: Surround yourself with people who help you feel safe, seen, and strong.

    Resources & Support

    • Kellie Rhymes – Limitless Mindset Coaching
      Coaching for confidence, authenticity, and navigating hair loss
      (Add link or social handle if available)
    • Alopecia Awareness & CCCA Info
      • National Alopecia Areata Foundation: naaf.org

      • CCCA advocacy/education (provide your preferred org/resource if applicable)
    • Work with Pearl
      • Mini coaching session: wsliving.com/shero

      • Retreats & community: wslivingretreats.com

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