Episodios

  • Highlights and Reflections on Series 2: Our Favourite Bits! with Julia and Tessa

    Highlights and Reflections on Series 2: Our Favourite Bits! with Julia and Tessa
    Mar 19 2025
    In this episode, Tessa and Julia shared their highlights of the past 14 episodes including: - the power of circles with children and young people (Roy Leighton, Sophie King-Hill and Nellie Harden) - the importance of embodiment in talking circles for the participants and as a circle facilitator (Henika Patel and Marta Fabregat) - the spectrum of circles from in your living room to an international, decades-old organisation (Nicky Yazbeck and Mike Irwin) - the gift of being authentic as a group facilitator rather than being 100% perfect or professional!
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    13 m
  • Working with Families: Meeting Children's Needs So They Can Thrive with Nellie Harden

    Working with Families: Meeting Children's Needs So They Can Thrive with Nellie Harden
    Mar 7 2025
    In this episode, Tessa and Nellie talk about: • Circles show up in all sorts of places like music groups and choirs • Growth happens in relationship, not isolation, which makes circles perfect for change • Modern life with devices and social media makes it hard for families to do active listening with each other • Get clarity about your child’s learning language so your message gets through e.g. pictures, words, movement • Playing loud music really helped to prepare the 12-18 year olds for listening later – think of your attendees’ needs • A clarity board enables you to write or draw what you hear the other person is saying and check you’ve got it right (up to 5 things you hear) • A facilitator can provide third-party validation where a change in relationship / communication is the goal • Aim is to create a space to develop truth and trust with the circle so that the amygdala doesn’t shut down processing too much flight and fight • Rules for Nellie’s session is ROCKS: Respect, Obedience, Compassion, Kindness, Self-discipline • Can take a break if things get heated to re-establish calm or use ‘square breathing’ (also known as even breathing) with tracing the square on the leg • Make the participants aware of defence mechanisms such as sarcasm, mocking, dismissing, interrupting, ignoring and distraction – these are destructive forms of communication and you need to take a break if it happens • In terms of time keeping, you can put a leeway / buffer for latecomers but also at the end in case you are in something deep and don’t want to interrupt the process • A firm boundary is having phones away • Acknowledging the role of hormones in relationships is important in this age group.
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    44 m
  • Online vs In Person Circle: Which One Do I Choose?

    Online vs In Person Circle: Which One Do I Choose?
    Mar 5 2025
    In this episode, Julia and Tessa covered: - The benefits of both online and in person circles - The challenges of online and additional guidelines you might put into place - The additional work that an in person circle might involve in setting up the physical space - Examples of how both online and in person circles have worked with different demographics.
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    24 m
  • Sharing Sensuality in Circle with Henika Patel

    Sharing Sensuality in Circle with Henika Patel
    Feb 28 2025
    In this episode, Julia and Henika talked about: - How she transformed from a lawyer into a facilitator of sensual arts after reasling she was disconnected from her body - Circle time was a catalyst for the journey: it created a space to talk about taboo topics without shame - Her ‘Shakti Circle’ focuses on the cultivation of power in the body (any body) - Safety in a circle is objective and subjective so it’s important to clearly specify who the circle is for (including in the marketing) and she spends an hour of a 2-hour circle on practices for the self before moving into sharing ie “I” to “we” - One practice she shares is Yang and Yin vision: Yang vision is how you see someone passing by (the colour of their clothes or hair) and Yin vision is looking to connect beyond the surface level - She will talk for 5/6 minutes about the container of the circle, including about any gender being welcome, looking beyond the surface level etc - Circle is a template for the rest of the world and your life: taking time to cultivate listening skills, how to express yourself in a way that feels safe in your body, develop empathy will ripple out into the rest of your day - Circle is an opportunity to educate on these skills - Social media can be a lonely experience – just you and a phone – where you can be left with shame from the gap between reality and expectations, but circle enables those experiences to be shared - Shakti circles address unrealistic expectations from porn that’s not covered by sex ed - Generally we are not taught what ‘No’ feels like in your body to then be able to communicate your ‘No’ - She is a first generation Indian woman who grew up with rituals at home - The association of tantra with sex is a neo-tantra ie a new form, traditionally it is about a whole range of practices focusing on goddesses as a reaction to Hinduism where focus was on men practising and particular castes. Tantra is not a religion, but a counter culture. - A practice she likes to include in circle is a simplified version of Nyasa - infusion divinity into the body by repeating a phrase such as “This is the beautiful hair of Julia” as you touch the hair, working around the body, with permission not to touch or giving other options - It is important when sharing a practice to name the tradition or teacher to honour the teaching and steer towards cultural appreciation rather than cultural appropriation
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    41 m
  • Sex Education and Youth Advocacy Through Circle with Sophie King-Hill

    Sex Education and Youth Advocacy Through Circle with Sophie King-Hill
    Feb 21 2025
    In this episode, Julia Davis spoke to Dr Sophie King-Hill [(https://www.birmingham.ac.uk/schools/social-policy/departments/health-services-management-centre/staff/profile.aspx?ReferenceId=170453)](https://www.birmingham.ac.uk/schools/social-policy/departments/health-services-management-centre/staff/profile.aspx?ReferenceId=170453) talked about: - Beliefs around sexuality and youth lead to discrimination against teenage parents - Young people are guarded because of the stigma around teenage pregnancy - Work to set expectations (guidelines is too formal) to create a safe space where young people can ask questions without feeling stupid or having the fear of ridicule - She meets parents ahead of group meetings to know their history and potentially upsetting issues - Key is thinking that you're equal to them, that all voices are valid, and facilitator is here to learn and prepared to be wrong - Setting is informal - no need to ask to go to the toilet, whether they can eat something, get up, have a headphone in - ['A Student's Guide to What You Don't Know' booklet](https://www.birmingham.ac.uk/schools/social-policy/departments/health-services-management-centre/research/a-students-guide-to-what-you-dont-know) was produced by young people to give to teachers and educators - Person teaching sex ed has to be comfortable with the topic - Support critical thinking about what they find online and be able to discuss in a safe space without judgement - Important to give space to think through contraception rather than making a last minute decision - Smaller groups for Sex Ed would be ideal and in a circle format - teachers can be transparent about being nervous about trying a new format - Ask anonymously what the young people want to know - same paper, pen for each person so no-one singled out - Need to be ready to be responsive to what comes up - If parents don't want their children receiving Sex Ed, gently share research with them showing how it helps kids to be safe in a highly sexualised environment
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    43 m
  • Peace Circles in Schools with Roy Leighton

    Peace Circles in Schools with Roy Leighton
    Feb 14 2025
    In this episode, Tessa and Roy talked about: *His involvement in Peace Circles being rooted in his childhood with Adverse Childhood Events * How circles can increase inclusion and belonging in schools – in 7 years only 7 days of exclusion across the whole school * Using the framework of the ‘Four Rooms’ – intellectual, emotional, practical and spiritual in every circle – to deal with conflict quickly through structure of ‘When you…’, ‘I feel….’, ‘because….’, ‘what can we do about it?’ * Different levels of circle from senior management – with mixed staff (dinner ladies, ground staff) and mixed year groups * Thrice weekly meetings called ‘family circles’ by children * Staff trained in holding circle and moving through restorative, chaotic and self-organising circles * Circle works to re-educate away from simple hierarchy to transcend and become more inclusive * Circles can hold conflict and prevent escalation * Intergeneration circles build maturity in younger members * Circles provide spaces where people can be called out but lead to change rather than conflict and unhealthy confrontation
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    43 m
  • Yoga Nidra: A Deep Relaxation Technique for Settling in Circle

    Yoga Nidra: A Deep Relaxation Technique for Settling in Circle
    Feb 12 2025
    In this episode, Tessa and Julia discussed the technique of Yoga Nidra relaxations within circle time: - Useful settling technique in circle - Can be used for all different audiences (e.g. pregnancy, kids, perimenopause, fatigue - The participants can lie down or sit for this technique and should be as comfortable as possible - The facilitator stays sitting and alert to deliver the nidra - for the training you do not need to be a yoga teacher - There are different components in a nidra including body mapping, opposite qualities, setting an intention and themes can run throughout, including visualisations. - You can find scripts to read out, but this does not have the same effect as a nidra you have created yourself and are delivering without reading (bullet points are fine as a reminder) - Yoga nidras can vary in length and provide a boost to energy - Circle facilitation can also support your movement / meditation classes: to check-in without the talking taking over the session, build connections, get feedback about practices and check out before the end of the session
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    13 m
  • Listening as Compassionate Leadership with Jenny Burrell

    Listening as Compassionate Leadership with Jenny Burrell
    Feb 7 2025
    In this episode, Tessa and Jenny Burrell (https://www.burrelleducation.com/) covered: - Learning the value of silence - How online circles can be just as powerful as in person ones but guidelines may need to be slightly different - You might think group coaching is about really cool questions but it's mostly about listening - The difference between feedback and reflection in circle - As group facilitators or circle holders we can be human rather than perfect and this makes us into more compassionate leaders and much more!
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    34 m
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