Episodios

  • The 7 Most Frequently Asked Questions About Meditation
    Jul 18 2025

    In today’s episode, I take a deep dive into the meditation questions I’ve been asked the most over the past three decades—as a student, as a teacher, and now, as someone who teaches others to teach.

    We talk about the real stuff. The messy, wonderful, confusing, luminous questions that arise when you sit down on your cushion and meet your own mind.


    Highlights:

    1. “Why can’t I stop thinking?”
      You’re not supposed to. That’s not a failure—it’s reality. Thoughts are not the enemy.


    2. “Why do we keep our eyes open during practice?”
      Eyes open helps us stay here, in
      this life, not some special spiritual realm. We’re not retreating. We’re engaging—with softness and awareness.


    3. “I feel like I’m hyperventilating… or I’m weirdly obsessed with my breath or eyes—what’s happening?”
      You’re just noticing more. That wide open space you’ve created isn’t empty—it’s your awareness. And yes, it’ll settle.


    4. “What if I have a really good idea during meditation?”
      The real answer is: call it thinking, let go, return to the breath. But… I also share my (slightly quirky) workaround involving my thumbs.


    5. “Can meditation help with depression, anxiety, or trauma?”
      This is an important and delicate topic. Meditation is
      not a cure-all, and it is essential to proceed gently, and ideally with guidance from a trusted healthcare provider.


    6. “I’m overwhelmed by feelings when I meditate. Isn’t this supposed to calm me down?”
      Not always. Sometimes the most compassionate choice is to
      not meditate. Or to gently make your feeling—rather than your breath—the object of attention.


    7. “How do I know if I’m doing it right?”
      Because, let’s face it, it feels boring. But the answer is not on the cushion—it’s in your life. Are you more kind? More patient? More real? Then yes, you’re doing it right.

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    Produced by Citizens of Sound

    Music by: Derek O'Brien

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    23 m
  • Four Thoughts that Turn the Mind to the Dharma
    Jul 11 2025

    In this episode, I explore a classical teaching throughout the Buddhist world, The Four Reminders, also known as the Four Thoughts that Turn the Mind to the Dharma. When I first heard them, I thought how can I forget what I just heard?! Turns out, I can’t. Warning: once you hear them, you can’t unhear them either. They are at once brutal and deeply compassionate. Much like life itself.

    Highlights:

    • The Four Thoughts are uncomfortable but essential contemplations that help you see with what truly matters. They are:
      • Precious Human Birth – It's rare and valuable simply to be here. If one person in your line had done something different, you would not be you!
      • Impermanence and Death – Death is real (but only 100% of the time) and comes without warning.
      • Karma is real – Actions have results, whether or not in this lifetime.
      • Samsara is an ocean of unavoidable suffering. Sure, there are also great things, but even they come with suffering because they all eventually dissolve.
    • Remembering these truths can turn your mind toward wisdom, compassion, and a life of generosity.
    • Even if you don't identify as Buddhist, these reflections can offer clarity in how to live more deliberately and kindly.

    With personal stories and my best insights, I hope to share how remembering these truths can shift your priorities and bring you back to what matters most.



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    Produced by Citizens of Sound

    Music by: Derek O'Brien

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    23 m
  • Egolessness, Self-Kindness & the Buddhist Enneagram
    Jun 27 2025

    In this episode, I explore the tension between spiritual teachings on egolessness and the deeply personal need for self-understanding. I talk about how meditation reveals both the illusion of self and the reality of who we are. I also share how the Enneagram—a system of personality types—has been an invaluable tool for fostering compassion and clarity in myself and my relationships.

    Highlights:

    1. The Problem with Egolessness

    • Teachings on “no self” can feel like a shaming of personal identity.


    • Meditation helps us see both our egoless nature and our genuine self.

    2. Meditation as Friendship with Self

    • Encourages self-awareness and emotional honesty.

    3. The Enneagram as a Spiritual Tool

    • Describes 9 personality types; not limiting but illuminating.


    • Helps identify personal patterns and build self-compassion.


    • Integrated with Buddhist values like loving-kindness.

    4. Three Enneagram Frameworks to Understand Yourself and Others

    • Centers of Intelligence:

      • Mental: Thinkers → anxiety under stress.


      • Gut: Intuitive types → anger under stress.


      • Heart: Emotional types → neediness or withdrawal under stress.

    • Instinctual Drives:

      • Self-preservation: Focused on safety and comfort.


      • Social: Motivated by group belonging.


      • One-to-One: Seeks deep personal connection.

    • Stress Responses (Karen Horney’s model):

      • Toward: Seeks harmony.


      • Against: Confronts conflict.


      • Away: Withdraws from tension.

    Understanding your own wiring—how you think, feel, relate, and react—is not a detour from spiritual growth, but part of its foundation. Tools like the Enneagram, when combined with meditation, become powerful aids in cultivating compassion for yourself and others. True spiritual insight begins with self-acceptance.

    For more on the enneagram from a Buddhist perspective, check out my book, The Buddhist Enneagram: Nine Paths to Warriorship.


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    Produced by Citizens of Sound

    Music by: Derek O'Brien

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    28 m
  • Five Suggestions for Primordial Confidence
    Jun 20 2025

    In this very, very crazy world, it’s easy to feel powerless. But from my decades of Buddhist practice, I've learned that it’s not just an inside job– you can actually arrange your outer world to give you strength.

    1. Clean Up Your Space I know this sounds like a scold but it isn’t. When you walk into chaos, you feel chaotic. When you walk into a space that's been tended to—not perfect, just cared for—you feel elegant. Your care then perfumes the environment.

    2. Wear Nice Clothes Not fancy or expensive—just clean clothes that you actually like. When you pick something off the floor (and we all do this sometimes), you're already starting your day feeling a little defeated. But when you choose something you love—the color, the fabric, how it makes you feel—you're clothing yourself with respect.

    3. Eat Good Food This isn't about being vegan or gluten-free or whatever diet advice everyone's shouting about. It's about getting the best quality you can afford and eating it with kindness toward yourself. If you want smoothies, get good ingredients. If you want a cocktail, make it carefully. Appreciate the details that go into preparation and clean-up. Most important, as best you can, relax aggression (from self or others) about food.

    4. Spend Time with People Who See You Clearly We all have people who make us feel small—your boss, that difficult sibling, the friend you don't know how to break up with. Minimize time spent with such people, as you are able to do so. Maximize time with people who, when you look at yourself through their eyes, you see someone lovely and smart and kind. That's very empowering.

    5. Connect with the Natural World When I swim at Barton Springs here in Austin, even in the midst of Texas political insanity, I remember that there's a power at work that has its own logic, that doesn't care what I think. Being part of something larger—even feeling small in it—is actually delightful.

    Friends, these aren't just good habits. They're ways to create a world that holds you, that gives you strength instead of requiring you to manufacture it from scratch every single day. And right now, when everything feels shaken, that might be exactly what we need.



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    Produced by Citizens of Sound

    Music by: Derek O'Brien

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    27 m
  • The Problem with Egolessness
    Jun 13 2025

    In this episode, I take a deep dive into a topic that a lot of people (myself included) find confusing; what does it mean to be egoless? Drawing from my 30+ years of experience, I share my own issues with the call to transcend ego within the Western cultural backdrop of individualism, shame, and self-judgment.

    Key Points:

    "Ego as the enemy" can reinforce cultural self-shaming: Broadly speaking, we are wired to monitor, scrutinize and “fix” our flaws and mitigate our failings. This kind of self-focus in our culture makes it easy to see so-called ego as a problem to solve and our very own self as an obstacle on the journey.

    Relating to our wounds and pursuing spiritual insight are not mutually exclusive: Both are essential and can coexist.

    Meditation fosters receptivity, not self-improvement: Rather than fall into the trap of using meditation to solve your problems, allow your practice to make the space for the wisdom that’s already a part of you. It will arise naturally.

    Egolessness is about openness, not self-denial: Genuine egolessness is not about prioritizing everyone else and abandoning yourself entirely. Our practice of letting go, being present; this is more helpful when it comes to realizing egolessness. It’s not about forcing yourself out; rather, it’s about being with what is (you are a part of what is) and receiving the love, wisdom, and insight that reveal rather than force egolessness.

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    Produced by Citizens of Sound

    Music by: Derek O'Brien

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    29 m
  • The Four Noble Truths of Love
    May 23 2025

    In this episode, I share my personal adaptation of Buddhist principles for relationships, "The Four Noble Truths of Love." Drawing from my own 26-year marriage and moments of deep disconnection, I talk about how Buddhist wisdom helped me navigate challenges.

    Key Points include:

    Love Affairs vs. Relationships: There is a fundamental difference between love affairs (characterized by romance, intensity, desire, and perhaps some drama) and relationships (characterized by intimacy, closeness, deep knowing, and sometimes irritation).

    The Buddha’s Four Noble Truths

    1. Life is suffering/unsatisfying
    2. Grasping causes suffering
    3. There is a cessation of suffering
    4. The Noble Eightfold Path

    The Four Noble Truths of Love (made up by me)

    1. Relationships never stabilize (what?!)
    2. Thinking they should stabilize creates instability
    3. Meeting the instability together is love
    4. Viewing all disconnects (barring abuse of any kind) as ways to deepen intimacy helps

    For more on this topic, check out my book, The Four Noble Truths of Love

    NOTE: We'll be taking a two-week break. The Buddhism Beyond Belief Podcast will return with a new episode on June 13. Mwah!



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    Produced by Citizens of Sound

    Music by: Derek O'Brien

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    19 m
  • Buddhist Cosmology: The Six Realms of Being
    May 16 2025

    Which one are you in right now?

    In this episode, I explore the six realms of Buddhist cosmology which can be understood as both literal places of rebirth and psychological states we all experience. I also mention how this might help us contextualize the chaos and cruelty of our current political situation in the US. The realms include:


    The God Realm - A place of complete abundance where beings have everything they desire but no motivation to seek enlightenment


    The Jealous God/Asura Realm - Beings with power and resources consumed by covetousness and aggression, always fighting for more. And more. (Sound familiar?)


    The Human Realm - The most fortunate realm with the right balance of suffering and ease for spiritual development. Yay us!


    The Hungry Ghost Realm - Represents insatiable desires and cravings that can never be fulfilled


    The Animal Realm - Characterized by basic survival needs and limited spiritual capacity, yet capable of love and connection


    The Hell Realm - A place of constant suffering with no relief, glimpsed through our experiences of heartbreak and witnessing suffering


    Resources Mentioned:

    • "A Guided Tour of Hell" by Sam Bercholz - Featuring descriptions and visual depictions of the hell realms
    • Join my meditation community, the Open Heart Project Sangha, to practice together and learn how to apply these teachings to everyday life. Would be great to see you there!



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    Produced by Citizens of Sound

    Music by: Derek O'Brien

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    18 m
  • Meditation, Rage, and Other Strong Emotions
    May 9 2025

    Why do we turn to meditation when things fall apart—and what are we really supposed to do with all these overwhelming emotions?

    In this short episode, we explore three powerful ways to relate to difficult feelings like anger, fear, and anxiety: as afflictive; as bridges to compassion; and as hidden forms of wisdom. All three ways are accurate, though usually only the first is described in Buddhist writings.

    In this episode, you’ll hear about how to work skillfully with emotional intensity, not necessarily by escaping it, but by uncovering the fierce clarity and deep humanity that may lie beneath.



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    Produced by Citizens of Sound

    Music by: Derek O'Brien

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    12 m