Episodios

  • Stop Needing A Witness For Your LIfe

    Stop Needing A Witness For Your LIfe
    Oct 17 2025
    Somewhere along the way, we started believing that if no one saw it, it didn’t happen — that joy requires an audience and meaning needs proof. In this episode, I talk about the psychological cost of living life through a camera roll: how documenting our memories actually weakens them, how performance has replaced presence, and why so many of our “best days” — including my wedding — end up feeling hollow when we live them for others. From weddings to friendships to social media validation, this is about reclaiming your life from the witnesses. Because the moment doesn’t become real when you post it — it becomes real when you let it belong only to you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    24 m
  • Everybody Wants A Piece of You

    Everybody Wants A Piece of You
    Oct 10 2025
    I’ve ghosted more people this year than any other year of my life — and I don’t feel bad about it. The truth is, when you start building something of your own, people come crawling out of the woodwork. Old acquaintances suddenly want to “catch up,” but what they really want is a favor, a contact, a shortcut. For a long time, I said yes to everyone because I thought it made me kind. I thought giving without limits was the price of being a good person. But generosity without discernment isn’t kindness — it’s self-abandonment. In this episode, I talk about the difference between being needed and being wanted, and why it’s okay if people think you’re a “shitty person” for having boundaries. Because sometimes protecting your peace means disappointing everyone who only showed up to take a piece of you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    25 m
  • The Art of Dining Alone (and Redefining Community)

    The Art of Dining Alone (and Redefining Community)
    Oct 3 2025
    This week I’m talking about the art of dining alone, and why sometimes community is just you, your fork, and the courage to sit there unapologetically. Spoiler: I went out for sushi by myself, got seated in the middle of strangers’ dates, and somehow ended up in an accidental fake date with a man named Brad. We’ll also get into why friendships fade, why I don’t want a “big circle,” and why a Friday night on the couch with Dave, Sawyer, and Dateline might be the ultimate dinner party. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    23 m
  • Everybody's Dying - Here's How It Taught Me To Live

    Everybody's Dying - Here's How It Taught Me To Live
    Sep 26 2025
    It’s been a couple months since I dropped into your ears, and I wanted to be honest about where I’ve been. I hit pause on podcasting to rethink my career, launch my Substack (maybe both), and figure out if this mic was really the best place for me to share. In that break, I realized two things: one, I hate editing video clips more than anything in the world, and two, I still love the freedom of just talking to you like this. So, I’m back for an eight-episode run—no promises beyond that, but I’ll be upfront with you when we get to the end. Today’s episode is about death and how losing people too soon has reshaped the way I live. I talk about stripping away the performance in friendships, birthdays, even social media, and focusing on the quiet, un-Instagrammable parts of life that actually make it worth living. If you’ve ever felt caught in the grind of “what’s next,” this one’s for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    24 m
  • Why Women Stay Too Long—and How to Stop

    Why Women Stay Too Long—and How to Stop
    Jul 16 2025
    This week, I respond to a listener who knows her marriage is over—but can’t shake the guilt of being the one to end it. We talk about why women are taught to feel like the villain when they choose themselves, how shame is inherited, and what it really means to leave a life that was never built for you. If you’ve ever thought, “But he’s not that bad,” or “Who will I be if I walk away?”—this one’s for you. Also: why toilet paper holders are a metaphor for personal growth. Sort of. Just listen. ALL MY CHANNELS Newsletter: https://maybeboth.substack.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maybeboth TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@maybeboth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    17 m
  • He’s Great—Except for the Part Where He Lies to Me

    He’s Great—Except for the Part Where He Lies to Me
    Jul 10 2025
    This week’s episode is brought to you by: the delusion that a man who lies to you repeatedly is still somehow “99% amazing.” In this episode, I unpack: Why 99% perfect still isn’t enough when the other 1% is gaslighting What it really means when you say “he’s so great, except…” Why “second chances” are often just “I’m scared to be alone” in a trench coat The emotional equivalent of playing a rigged slot machine with your self-worth And how to know when you’re not actually confused — you’re just stalling If you’re currently debating whether to leave a man who keeps texting other women — this episode is for you. Because you deserve more than 99%. You deserve 100%, or at the very least, a boyfriend who doesn’t flirt with married women behind your back. ALL MY CHANNELS Newsletter: https://brutalbanter.beehiiv.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maybeboth TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@maybeboth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    28 m
  • Life’s Too Short to Be Uncomfortable, Emotionally or In a Thong

    Life’s Too Short to Be Uncomfortable, Emotionally or In a Thong
    Jul 2 2025
    Let’s talk about thongs, grief, people-pleasing, and the radical act of not going to the damn party. In this episode, I unravel why I stopped molding myself into someone else’s ideal — whether it was for a man, a friend, or an aesthetic. I also talk about loss, what a photographer taught me about timing, and why your “no” doesn’t need an excuse (or a follow-up text). If you’ve ever contorted yourself to be chosen, approved of, or invited — this one's for you. Also, RIP to the thong I wore once in 2014. ALL MY CHANNELS Newsletter: https://brutalbanter.beehiiv.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maybeboth TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@maybeboth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    26 m
  • Stop Begging to Be Chosen And Go Where You’re Wanted

    Stop Begging to Be Chosen And Go Where You’re Wanted
    Jun 25 2025
    This week, I’m talking about what it feels like to be unwanted—by men, by friendships, by jobs, by the popular girls with the trendy names who never wanted to sit with you at lunch. I share what growing up as the daughter of Chinese immigrants taught me about invisibility, advocacy, and watching my mom try to return a pot to Kmart in broken English while I stood there, 7 years old, already learning what it means to feel small. I talk about how I’ve slowly learned that just because someone doesn’t want you doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. It might just mean they’re not the right person, not the right door, not the right moment. I also get into rat metaphors, George Eliot, and why sometimes the bravest thing you can do is stop running and let what’s meant for you catch up. If you’ve ever felt like you had to shrink to be chosen—this one’s for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    35 m