Those of us facing the common challenges of blending often feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or discouraged. It’s easy to drift into survival mode and settle for “not that bad.”

In this episode, we'll share a clear plan to move forward in a simple way that's not about the pressure of big, dramatic New Year's resolutions.

Here's the truth: transformation doesn’t happen overnight, and there are no easy fixes to the complex dynamics stepfamilies face. But change can happen with small, faithful shifts practiced over time.

You'll Discover:

• The difference between information vs. transformation and why “insight without action” keeps couples stuck
• How to set process goals (not vague intentions), and capture the “gold nuggets” you want to apply to your family's current struggles
• How to “work your plan” and experience real WINS in 2026!

Resources from this Episode:

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Find your Focus & Choose your Path:

Bonding:

• For specific episodes on building healthy Bonds, CLICK HERE
• Building Love Together in Blended Families by Ron Deal & Gary Chapman

Understanding Kids' Perspectives:

• For specific episodes to gain insight & support your kids, CLICK HERE
• In Their Shoes: Helping Parents Better Understand and Connect with Children of Divorce by Lauren Reitsema

Safeguarding your Relationship / Marriage:

• For specific episodes to grow a deeper connection and reduce conflict, CLICK HERE
• Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts: Nine Questions to Ask Before -- and After -- You Remarry by Drs. Les & Leslie Parrot

Parenting & Stepparenting:

• For specific episodes to develop your parenting partnership and align family expectations, CLICK HERE
• Stepparenting: Keeping It Sane by Dr. Charles Fay
• Parenting Under Fire: How to Communicate with Your Hurt, Angry, Rejecting, Distant Child by Dr. Amy J.L. Baker

Effective Co-Parenting:

• For specific episodes to discover best practices and improve cooperation between homes, CLICK HERE
• CoParenting Works! Helping Your Children Thrive After Divorce By Tammy Daughtry

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Do you ever spend time reminiscing?

We seem to think back a lot from our current empty next vantage point. It can be great to recall some of those funny moments in our history. And it's meaningful when we recount the tough seasons we've endured together as well.

As we head into the holidays, we thought it would be fun to pull an interview with our kids out of the archives. So, in this episode, you'll listen in on a conversation with our family reminiscing over some of the ups and downs of our Holiday experiences over the past 20+ years.

We wonder if it might stir up a bit of hope for your own future as you hear the authenticity straight from all three of our adult children. We've experienced some high points and low points as a family over the years — and your family will too. But as you navigate it together, we believe you can experience closeness, gratitude, and joy as a family. We hope our discussion blesses you this season.

In this episode, you'll discover how our kids answered these questions as they share their holiday experiences living in our blended family:

• What are your favorite memories (including funny ones)?
• What might have been a negative experience for you?
• What things made you feel sad, annoyed, or frustrated?
• What are you grateful for?
• What do you wish we (as parents) might have done differently?
• PLUS you'll catch some of their encouragements for YOU!

Resources from this Episode:

• Episodes that focus on Kid's Perspectives: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/podcast/category/Kid%27s+Perspectives/#filter
• Episode 71: How to Help Kids Cope with Painful Holiday Disappointment
• Episode 10. 8 Practical Tips for a Successful Holiday Season
• Episode 149. How to "Blend" Holiday Traditions and Create Meaningful Connection this Season
• Episode 151. What Has The Potential to Steal Your Joy - And How You Can Hold Onto It (Part 1)
• Episode 171. How to Experience More Fun, Connection, and Joy this Holiday Season [with Rich and Stacy]
• Episode 173. Expert Guidance for Holiday Success [with Lauren Reitsema & Joneen Mackenzie]
• Episode 222. Step-by-Step Guide: Facing Painful Pushback Without Making Things Worse
• Episode 224. Holiday Negotiations That Work: 5 Tips to Reduce Tension and Disappointment

Ready for some extra support?

We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help. You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home. Schedule your free call here: https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

Questions to Ask Yourself

1. Am I continuing to engage in “first-family” activities with my ex (even though we’re divorced), mainly because I’m trying to guard my children from experiencing any disappointment or discomfort?
2. Have I noticed any confusion or resentment from my children when they observe our Perfect Pal relationship and compare it to what’s actually happened in their lives?
3. Do I feel compelled to continue as Perfect Pals because I’m worried that if I don’t, my ex will react poorly, possibly lash out, turn the kids against me, or punish me in some way? And so I keep showing up as a close friend and confidant just to avoid retribution?
4. Because of our Perfect Pal dynamic, do I sometimes abdicate or agree with my ex, even when I have a different opinion?
5. Do you (or your new partner) harbor resentment toward your ex because they seem to have a lot of power and control over parenting decisions? Do you end up feeling unheard, devalued, or dismissed? Does maintaining your Perfect Pal relationship seem like it's more important than having an equal voice in your children's lives?

What's your next step in moving toward 'Cooperative Colleagues'?

Resources

• Episode 226. How Two Homes Raise Kids that Thrive: A Co-Parenting Blueprint for Caring Parents [with Jay & Tammy Daughtry]
• Episode 71. Helping Kids Cope with Painful Holiday Disappointment
• Co-Parenting Works! Helping Your Children Thrive After Divorce by Tammy Daughtry
• Connect directly with Jay and Tammy: CoParenting International
• CLICK HERE to get FREE resources from CoParenting International
• CLICK HERE for more Episodes on Healthy Co-Parenting

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If you’re co-parenting between two homes, you already know: your kids are watching everything. How you talk about their other parent, handle handoffs, respond to schedule changes, and react when the ex sends that text. These everyday issues impact and shape your children’s well-being.

In this episode, we sit down with co-parenting experts Jay & Tammy Daughtry, who are both adult children of divorce and co-parents themselves. They share their TEAMM mindset: The End Adult Matters Most. It's a powerful reminder that your co-parenting relationship today is shaping the adult your child will become tomorrow.

As marriage and family therapists, Jay and Tammy deeply understand the long-term impact of post-divorce dynamics on kids. They offer compassionate guidance to help you move from feeling stuck, reactive, or alone and instead adopt a calm, intentional, “business partner” approach to co-parenting.

You’ll walk away with hopeful, real-life tools to steady your own emotions, protect your kids from unnecessary emotional burdens, and take small, intentional steps toward a healthier co-parenting partnership so your kids experience stability, security, and are free to love both of their parents.

You'll Discover:

• Practical ideas for building alignment, handling hand-offs, and honoring your child’s divided heart
• Why “The End Adult Matters Most” changes everything
• Why “emotionally baby-proofing” is essential for children of divorce
• The benefits of a business-meeting approach to co-parenting (TEAMM meetings)
• How to approach an uncooperative ex

Resources from this Episode:

• Co-Parenting Works! Helping Your Children Thrive After Divorce by Tammy Daughtry
• Connect directly with Jay and Tammy: Co-Parenting International
• CLICK HERE to get FREE resources from Co-Parenting International
• Episode 84. How to Cope with Sadness, Anxiety and Longing While Your Kids Are Gone
• CLICK HERE for more Episodes on Healthy Co-Parenting

Ready for some extra support?

We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help. You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home. Schedule your free call here: https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

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You want this season to feel special for your blended family. But instead of joy, you’re feeling grumpy, anxious, or even a little hopeless. Schedule changes, empty chairs at the table, tension with an ex, and slow bonding in step-relationships can make gratitude feel out of reach. Deep down you might be wondering, “How am I supposed to be thankful when life really hurts?”

In this episode, we'll sit with you in that question. And we'll introduce three simple “gratitude lenses” that will help you focus on what’s good without denying what’s hard.

Through honest stories from our personal journey, including Kim’s long season of walking with Annika through addiction and into recovery, you’ll see how gratitude can keep you anchored so that you can show up well as you face tough realities.

You’ll also learn how to hold grief and gratitude at the same time while guarding against three common negativity traps that quietly drain hope and resilience. By the end, you’ll have one small, clear next step to begin practicing gratitude in real life, right where you are, in this season and beyond.

You'll Discover:

• Three gratitude lenses tailored for real life, you can start using today
• Simple gratitude habits that can make a positive difference
• How to hold grief and gratitude simultaneously - without having to pretend
• The 3 “P” traps that crush resilience—and how you can resist them

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 42. Our Challenging Story of Parental Alienation - And 6 Tips for You
• Episode 84. Coping with Sadness, Anxiety, and Longing when the Kids are Gone
• Episode 154. What practical and Emotional Shifts Can You Expect as You Blend a Family?
• Episode 14. 3 Helpful Steps to Overcome Your 'Perfectionist' Ideals and Disappointments
• Episode 202. How to Break Free From Painful Cycles and Enjoy Deeper Levels of Intimacy [with Ron and Nan Deal]
• Episode 189. Bringing Hope to the Realities of Grief: A Path to Understanding and Healing [with Krista St-Germain]
• Episode 187. Basics for Blending: How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 1 of 2)
• Episode 51. Overcoming Discouragement (Part 1 of 3)
• Episode 99. Moving Beyond Painful Guilt and Regret
• Episode 160. A 4-Part Framework for Achievable Expectations and How to Live Them Out
• Episode 220. From Marginalized to Mainstream: How to Reclaim Confidence
• Episode 215. Does your Relationship Feel Hopeless? Why Giving Up Might Not be the Answer?

Ready for some extra support?

We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help. You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home. Schedule your free call here: https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

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