Awake at the Wheel | Ep 98

In this episode, Malini Ondrovcik and Dr. Oren Amitay dive into the rise of “FAFO” (F*ck Around and Find Out) parenting and how it stacks up against gentle parenting. We talk about when kids actually need to feel natural consequences, why accountability and resilience matter more than ever, and how to hold the line—especially with teenagers—without becoming a drill sergeant. We also get honest about what it looks like to stay in charge, earn respect, and still be a human who messes up sometimes.

Takeaways

FAFO parenting emphasizes natural consequences for children.
Gentle parenting may lead to a lack of accountability in children.
Parents should guide children while allowing them to learn from mistakes.
Teaching resilience is crucial for children's development.
It's important to maintain a strong parent-child relationship.
Parents need to present a united front in discipline.
Changing parenting styles can be challenging but is possible.
Authority in parenting should not equate to fear or shame.
Self-respect in children is fostered through respect for parents.
Parenting methods may evolve as children grow.

Sound Bites

"F around and find out parenting."
"Let them learn the lessons when they're younger."
"It's never too late to change."
"You have to slowly work it in."
"It's about self-agency and regulating behavior."
"It's not about creating shame or fear in the kid."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to FAFO Parenting
01:26 The Importance of Natural Consequences
04:26 Navigating Parenting Styles
07:45 Teaching Accountability and Resilience
11:46 The Shift from Gentle to FAFO Parenting
17:57 Implementing Changes with Teenagers
22:18 Maintaining Authority and Respect
28:32 Conclusion: Embracing Imperfection in Parenting

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Awake at the Wheel | Ep 97

In this episode of Awake at the Wheel, we dive into the messy, fascinating question: Can AI ever really replace a human therapist? Using tools like ChatGPT as a jumping-off point, we unpack where AI can be helpful—and where it becomes downright dangerous. We explore why real healing depends on human connection, empathy, and a genuine therapeutic relationship that no algorithm can truly mimic. We also look at the risks of vulnerable people turning to chatbots for support, the ethical and clinical pitfalls of treating AI like a therapist, and why accessible, high-quality mental health care is more crucial now than ever.

Takeaways

-ChatGPT isn't a viable replacement for real-life therapists.
-Humans are emotional and selective in interactions with chatbots.
-Parents should monitor children's online engagement with chatbots.
-AI can provide psychoeducational support but not replace therapy.
-Therapeutic rapport is crucial for effective therapy.
-AI lacks the ability to pick up on non-verbal cues.
-Chatbots can reinforce maladaptive beliefs if not used cautiously.
-AI should be an adjunct, not a replacement, for therapy.
-Proper mental health care access is essential to prevent reliance on AI.
-Human therapists provide empathy and insight that AI cannot.

Chapters

00:00:53 Introduction to AI in Therapy
00:01:19 The Role of AI in Mental Health
00:01:44 Case Study: Risks of AI in Therapy
00:03:33 Limitations of Chatbots
00:05:13 The Importance of Human Connection
00:10:02 AI as an Adjunct, Not Replacement
00:15:00 Future of AI in Therapy

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Awake at the Wheel | Ep 96

Ontario is considering cutting back training and supervision for psychologists. That may open doors, but at what cost? Dr. Oren Amitay and Malini Ondrovcik examine the data logic and clinical realities behind the proposal, separating “more providers” from “better care.” We explore why rigorous standards exist, where supervision truly improves outcomes, and how to expand access without lowering the bar. It’s an honest conversation about public safety, professional integrity, and what evidence-based reform could look like. Tell us your perspective, have you seen standards shift in your setting?

Takeaways:

-Good intentions executed poorly lead to terrible outcomes.
-The mandate is to protect the public, not psychologists.
-Changes in regulation may reduce training requirements.
-Supervision and training are crucial for public safety.
-The importance of maintaining rigorous professional standards.
-The tension between accessibility and professional standards.
-Personal experiences highlight the impact of regulation changes.
-The role of supervision in professional development.
-Concerns about dumbing down the field of psychology.
-Public engagement is crucial in regulatory changes.

Chapters:

00:00:00 Introduction to Regulation Changes
00:00:41 Background on Psychology Training
00:01:35 Discussion on Regulation Changes
00:03:01 Personal Experiences and Insights
00:05:00 The Role of Supervision
00:09:50 Public Safety and Professional Standards
00:17:03 Historical Context and Future Implications

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Awake at the Wheel | Ep 95

In this episode of Awake at the Wheel, Malini and Oren engage in a thought-provoking conversation with Eric Kaufmann, a professor of politics at the University of Buckingham. They delve into themes of cultural identity, ideological polarization, and the psychology of belief systems. Eric shares his experiences with cancel culture, the impact of social media, and the misconceptions surrounding the concept of 'wokeness.'

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Takeaways

-Eric Kaufman discusses the normalization of hyperbolic language about the right and the threat it represents.
-The conversation explores the impact of ideological polarization on academic freedom.
-Eric shares his experiences with cancel culture and the tactics used against him.
-The role of social media in shaping public perception and discourse is examined.
-Eric emphasizes the importance of thinking statistically rather than emotionally.
-The discussion highlights the misconceptions surrounding the concept of 'wokeness.'
-Eric argues for a more nuanced understanding of immigration and assimilation.
-The conversation touches on the influence of cultural Marxism and humanitarian extremism.
-Eric advocates for a balanced approach to social media consumption.
-The episode concludes with a call for resilience and critical thinking in the face of societal challenges.

Chapters

00:00:00 Introduction to Eric Kaufman
00:00:53 Cultural Identity and Ideological Polarization
00:02:22 Experiences with Cancel Culture
00:46:23 Misconceptions of 'Wokeness'
00:50:13 Social Media and Public Perception

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Awake at the Wheel | Ep 94

In this episode of Awake at the Wheel, host Malini Ondrovcik engages with Lynn Chadwick and Michelle Mackness, advocates for detransitioners. They discuss the complexities surrounding gender identity, the flaws in current medical and legal systems, and the emotional toll of their advocacy work. The conversation highlights the importance of community support, legal representation, and the need for open dialogue in addressing the challenges faced by those navigating gender-related issues.


Takeaways

-Lynn Chadwick and Michelle Mackness advocate for detransitioners.
-Themis Resource Fund connects plaintiffs with legal support.
-Many detransitioners face a lack of medical care options.
-The legal system presents significant challenges for plaintiffs.
-Community support is crucial for those seeking justice.
-Advocacy work can be emotionally taxing for individuals involved.
-There is a growing awareness of the issues surrounding gender identity.
-Legal representation is essential for addressing grievances.
-Parents should be vigilant about their children's education on gender issues.
-Open dialogue is necessary for ethical clinical practice.


Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Detransition and Advocacy
02:45 Personal Journeys and Professional Backgrounds
07:52 Flaws in the System: A Clinician's Perspective
10:02 Parenting and the Reality of Transition
17:01 Legal Challenges and the Path to Accountability
21:06 Funding and Support for Detransitioners
22:06 The Need for Open Dialogue
23:14 Concerns Over Lack of Information
24:09 Ethical Considerations in Gender Care
25:20 Supporting Detransitioners
26:09 The Role of Themis in Legal Support
26:56 Personal Reflections on Heavy Topics
28:10 Application Process for Legal Support
30:08 The Changing Landscape of Legal Representation
32:06 Hope Amidst Challenges
33:58 The Shift in Public Awareness
36:16 Encouraging Clinicians to Reassess Practices
38:52 Taking Action: What Can Be Done?
41:30 Resources for Detransitioners and Parents
44:01 Navigating Legal and Therapeutic Challenges

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Awake at the Wheel | Ep 93

In this compelling episode of "Awake at the Wheel," hosts Malini Ondrovcik and Dr. Oren Amitay delve into the complex world of gender ideology and medicine with guest Mia Hughes, a British journalist and researcher. Mia shares her journey from a politically left-leaning teacher to a prominent voice in the gender debate, highlighting her work with Genspect Canada and the MacDonald-Laurier Institute. The discussion covers controversial topics such as pediatric gender medicine, social contagion, and the challenges of evidence-based practices. They also explore the recent fiasco involving Dr. Gordon Guyatt and the startling admission by Chase Strangio in the U.S. Supreme Court that there is no evidence of a suicide epidemic among transgender youth. Tune in for an eye-opening discussion that questions the status quo and seeks to uncover the truth behind the headlines.

Takeaways

-Understanding the fraudulent and corrupt nature of certain medical practices requires extensive research.
-Blocking puberty based on self-declared identity lacks common sense.
-The narrative of 'transition or suicide' is based on exaggerated statistics.
-Chase Strangio admitted there's no evidence of a suicide epidemic in the U.S. Supreme Court.
-The WPATH files exposed internal communications revealing fraudulent practices.
-Social contagion significantly impacts adolescent girls.
-The field of gender medicine lacks a solid evidence base and diagnosis.
-Activism often overrides scientific reasoning in gender medicine.
-The concept of the 'Oedipus trap' explains the inability to acknowledge harmful practices.
-Public exposure and discussion are crucial in challenging established narratives.

Sound bites

"Fraudulent and corrupt medical practices"
"Blocking puberty lacks common sense"
"Transition or suicide narrative debunked"
"No evidence of suicide epidemic"
"WPATH files reveal fraud"
"Social contagion impacts girls"
"Gender medicine lacks evidence"
"Activism overrides science"
"Oedipus trap in medicine"
"Public exposure is crucial"

Chapters

00:00:00 Intro: Framing the Gender Debate & Women’s Spaces
00:04:47 WPATH Files Explained: What the Leaks Indicate
00:09:35 Activism vs Standards: The WPATH Files Controversy
00:14:23 Ethics in Gender Care: Compassion vs Clinical Duty
00:19:11 False Beliefs & ‘Field Medicine’ Risks
00:23:37 Guyatt Admits He Signed Without Reading (per interview)
00:23:58 Viral Thread Analysis: Cognitive Dissonance
00:28:46 Evidence-Based Claims in Gender Medicine
00:33:34 ‘Medically Necessary’: Definitions, Data & Policy
00:38:22 How Activism Shapes Clinical Guidelines
00:42:11 Strangio Admits No Basis for Suicide-Prevention Claim (per cross-exam)
00:43:09 Social Contagion? Culture, Peers & Identity
00:47:57 Adolescent Girls: Vulnerabilities & Comorbidities
00:52:45 Gender Medicine Today: Assessment & Safeguards
00:57:33 Media Case Study: Hayley Cropper’s Impact
01:02:20 What History Might Say About Gender Medicine
01:07:08 Wrap-Up: Key Takeaways & Next Steps

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Awake at the Wheel | Ep 92

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In this conversation, licensed marriage and family therapist Stephanie Winn discusses her journey from traditional therapy to focusing on advocacy for parents of children experiencing gender dysphoria. She shares her experiences in clinical settings, the cognitive dissonance she faced, and her eventual shift to coaching parents. Winn emphasizes the importance of understanding rapid onset gender dysphoria (ROGD) and the unique challenges parents face. She also introduces her online course, ROGD Repair, and discusses the use of AI in providing support to parents. Throughout the conversation, she highlights the complexities of family dynamics, the importance of perspective in communication, and the need for a nuanced approach to gender identity issues.

Takeaways
-Stephanie Winn transitioned from traditional therapy to advocacy due to concerns about gender-affirming care.
-Cognitive dissonance played a significant role in her journey of understanding gender ideology.
-Winn emphasizes the importance of understanding the unique challenges faced by parents of children with gender dysphoria.
-She highlights the need for cultural competency in addressing gender identity issues.
-Winn's work focuses on providing guidance to parents through her course, ROGD Repair.
-The conversation underscores the complexities of family dynamics in the context of gender identity.
-Winn discusses the role of AI in supporting parents navigating these issues.
-She advocates for a nuanced approach to communication with children experiencing gender dysphoria.
-The importance of perspective in understanding children's experiences is a key theme.
-Winn encourages parents to create space for their children's ambivalence about their identities.

Sound Bites
"I went down the rabbit hole of D-Trans stories."
"I have to find out everything I can about this."
"I have a combination of humility and courage."

Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Stephanie Winn and Her Work
01:05 Journey into Advocacy and Podcasting
04:01 Tipping Point in Gender Affirming Care
09:38 Cognitive Dissonance and Questioning Beliefs
17:27 Transitioning from Therapist to Parent Advocate
22:34 Understanding ROGD and Its Impact
24:22 The Unique Niche of Parent Coaching
29:28 Utilizing AI in Parental Guidance
34:18 Navigating Complex Family Dynamics
42:53 Empowering Parents Through Understanding
44:45 Navigating Parental Rights and Activism
46:59 Understanding Vulnerability in Children
48:59 The Role of Family Dynamics
50:20 Exploring Regret and Transition
53:50 The Impact of Gender-Affirming Care
57:54 Debunking Myths in Gender Identity
01:01:09 The Complexity of Life Choices
01:05:29 The Importance of Open Dialogue
01:10:28 Standing Firm on Principles
01:15:16 Actionable Steps for Parents

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Awake at the Wheel | Ep 91

In this thought-provoking episode of "Awake at the Wheel," hosts Malini Ondrovcik and Dr. Oren Amitay delve into the complex world of social justice messaging and its influence on young minds. They explore the challenges of biased educational materials and the importance of fostering critical thinking in children. Through candid discussions, they highlight the potential dangers of indoctrination and the need for parents to engage in open conversations with their children about differing worldviews. Join them as they navigate the fine line between awareness and indoctrination, and the role of education in shaping the next generation.

Key Points

-Children’s books marketed as “anti‑racist” can carry subtle biases that amount to indoctrination rather than genuine education.
-Framing a single worldview as the only “correct” one stifles critical thinking and labels dissenters as immoral or “racist.”
-High‑profile authors like Ibram X. Kendi promote race‑conscious messaging that, if taken literally, teaches kids to constantly judge by skin tone.
-The concept of the “useful idiot” describes well‑meaning individuals who uncritically adopt and spread extreme ideologies, only to be discarded when no longer useful.
-Emotional appeal and fear (e.g., lumping microaggressions with hate crimes) replace nuanced discussion, teaching children to police their own thoughts.
-“Wokeism” in schools can mirror Orwellian thought control, penalizing students and teachers who question the orthodoxy.
-Exposure alone isn’t enough—parents must debrief and equip kids with critical‑thinking skills to navigate biased materials.
-Practical parental strategies include: obtaining all teaching materials, engaging other like‑minded parents, and fostering open family conversations about differing viewpoints.

00:00   Introduction: Problematic Messaging Disguised as Social Justice
00:55   Episode Framing: Bias in Educational Materials
01:49   Clip Analysis: “Anti‑Racist Baby” Controversy
02:25   Deep Dive: Ibram X. Kendi’s Race‑Conscious Approach
03:31   “Useful Idiots”: Ideological Pawns Explained
06:17   Impact on Kids’ Critical‑Thinking Skills
10:15   Thought Policing & Emotional Reasoning
13:30   Colorblindness Debate in “Anti‑Racist Baby”
16:55   Paradoxes of Race Vigilance
21:28   Orwellian Parallels: When Feelings Become Facts
25:13   Critique of Anastasia Higginbotham’s “Whiteness” Book
29:07   Brainwashing vs. Good Intentions
34:16   Parental Action Plan: Expose, Discuss, Empower
37:54   Outro & Next Steps

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