Are you overwhelmed, resentful, or carrying everyone else’s chaos? Those are not personality traits, they’re signs you need new boundaries.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 4 common signs it’s time to set new or better boundaries.
• Why resentment is your body’s boundary alarm.
• How over-functioning and people-pleasing (tendencies) keep you stuck.
• The heartbreaking cost of neglecting yourself.
• How boundaries help you separate what’s yours from what’s theirs.

If this episode resonated, join me for my upcoming Boundaries Workshop. Let’s protect your peace and step forwards in a healthy way, together - without the confusion and self doubt.

Other Episodes Mentioned

Ep14 - The Power of the Pause

Ep30 - Why boundaries matter way more than we think

Join Boundaries workshop - Boundaries That Build Connection & Protect Your Peace: Why They Matter, What Works, & How to Set Them Without Guilt. Happening on Thursday 9th October - 4pm PDT / 7pm EDT - sign up here

If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy):

👉 Download the guide

You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now.

👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible

Or join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction.

You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone.

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Ever found yourself holding your breath when the front door opens?

Or Googling at 2am, ‘Is my partner an alcoholic?’ before deleting the search?

You’re not crazy, these are the blurry early signs of addiction. And today, we’re naming a few of them.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• The subtle early signs of addiction you might be overlooking.
• Why denial (yours and theirs) keeps you stuck.
• How behaviours like walking on eggshells or late-night Googling are actually red flags.
• Why you don’t need a label to validate your experience, it’s enough that it’s a problem for YOU.
• A gentle reframe: awareness is the first step toward change.

If this episode resonated, join me for my upcoming Boundaries Workshop. Let’s protect your peace and step forwards in a healthy way, together. Without the confusion and self doubt.

Join Boundaries workshop - Boundaries That Build Connection & Protect Your Peace: Why They Matter, What Works, & How to Set Them Without Guilt. Happening on Thursday 9th October - 4pm PDT / 7pm EDT - sign up here

If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy):

👉 Download the guide

You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now.

👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible

Or join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction.

You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone.

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The middle of the night. The house is quiet. You’re scrolling with the brightness turned down low, Googling questions you never thought you’d type:

“Is drinking every night normal?”

“Why does he lie about it?”

“Am I overreacting?”

If that’s you, this episode will feel like an exhale.

In this conversation, I dive into:

• Why those late-night Google searches are already a sign something’s not okay
• The subtle ways your body knows before your brain is ready to admit it
• Common red-flag searches (and what they really mean)
• How shame makes us clear the history… and silence ourselves
• The simple reframe that turns “I’m paranoid” into “I’m aware”

This isn’t about shaming or blaming.

It’s about recognising that if you’re secretly Googling at 2am, something in you already knows it’s time to pay attention.

🎓 Grab the Discovery to Recovery workshop - a bitesized 3 part workshop to get grounded and clear on what's going on and your next smallest steps forward: get it here

If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy):

👉 Download the guide

You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now.

👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible

Or join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction.

You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone.

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You’re trying to love someone through addiction and you’re exhausted.

Because helping someone you love should feel good… right?

In this episode, I go deeper on the conversation from Episode 19 and talk about the confusing, messy, emotionally-charged reality of trying to “help” someone impacted by addiction.

You’ll hear:

• How to tell if your “support” is actually costing you your health, peace, or wellbeing
• Why the advice you’re getting from others even well-meaning family might be hurting more than helping
• A powerful mindset shift: stop asking “Am I enabling?” and start asking “Is this healthy for me?”
• Real examples from Amanda and the women inside the Pathway to Wellness program about setting boundaries that are loving and firm
• A compassionate reminder that you don’t have to break yourself to help someone else heal

Amanda shares practical, heart-centred questions to help you move from guilt-ridden guesswork… to grounded clarity.

This episode is for you if:

• You’re walking on eggshells around your partner’s addiction
• You’ve been told you’re “enabling” and you feel shamed or confused
• You want to help… but not at the expense of your own wellbeing

🎧 Subscribe and follow to never miss an episode and please share this with a woman in your life who might need this message today.

🎓 Grab the Discovery to Recovery workshop: get it here

🎧 Binge other helpful episodes:

• Episode 19: Debunking the myth of enabling in addiction
• Episode 43: Why everyone has opinions (and none of them help)
• Episode 35: When You’re Scared to Set the Boundary… Start Here

📩 DM Amanda on Instagram @addictionmakesthree to share what landed

If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy):

👉 Download the guide

You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now.

👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible

Or join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction.

You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone.

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When someone you love struggles with addiction, there’s often a voice in your head that says:

“Maybe I’m overreacting.”

“Maybe it’s not that bad.”

“Maybe I’m the problem.”

💥 That, my friend, is self-gaslighting.

In this gentle but truth-filled episode, Amanda explores:

• What gaslighting really is (and what it looks like in your loved one)
• How gaslighting becomes internalised and turns into your own inner voice
• Why we gaslight ourselves (hint: it’s about survival, not weakness)
• How this quiet habit keeps us stuck in shame, silence, and confusion
• What it really looks like to stop gaslighting yourself and start trusting yourself again

If you’ve ever second-guessed your reality or felt like you needed “evidence” before trusting your gut then this episode is for you.

🎧 Tune in now and come back to this one any time you need a reminder:

You're not crazy.

You're not imagining things.

You're not too sensitive.

You're just exhausted from carrying a truth no one else is acknowledging.

And that ends today.

🎓 Grab the workshop: get it here

🎧 Binge previous episodes: What if waiting is the most dangerous choice - 52, Why sobriety isn't the finish line - 48, I'm smart, so why do I feel so stuck - 40

📩 DM Amanda on Instagram @addictionmakesthree to share what landed

If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy):

👉 Download the guide

You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now.

👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible

Or join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction.

You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone.

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Are you stuck waiting for your loved one to drink less, admit they have a problem, or finally change?

If you’ve been whispering “maybe this is just my lot in life”... this episode is for you.

I am getting real about the hidden choices we make every day in addiction-impacted relationships, especially when it feels like we don’t have any choices at all.

Inside this episode:

• The quiet ways women become passengers in their own life
• How addiction can trick you into feeling powerless
• Why both choices might feel hard, but choosing still matters
• What it looks like to set boundaries with love (not ultimatums)

You’ll also hear the story of one woman who stopped waiting for her partner’s rock bottom and reclaimed her own power instead.

BONUS: If you want to start choosing differently but don’t know where to start…

I have created a 3 session self-paced workshop for women just like you.

👉 It’s called Discovery to Recovery and it’s only $77.

Get clarity, calm, and your next small step here: Get the workshop in your pocket

🎓 Grab the workshop: get it here

🎧 Binge previous episodes on boundaries - 35, how to get through a relapse without losing hope - 23, Why sobriety isn't the finish line - 48

📩 DM Amanda on Instagram @addictionmakesthree to share what landed

If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy):

👉 Download the guide

You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now.

👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible

Or join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction.

You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone.

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When you’re living alongside a loved one’s addiction, staying quiet can feel like the safest choice. You tell yourself you’re protecting them, your family, and yourself. You don’t want to make things worse, invite judgement, or fuel the shame that’s already there.

But here’s the truth, silence doesn’t always protect you. In fact, it can keep you stuck. And it can keep your loved one stuck, too.

In this episode, I share why so many capable, intelligent women wear silence like a badge of honour, the hidden cost of that silence, and what can happen when you start speaking up in safe, supportive spaces. You’ll hear personal reflections, relatable stories, and gentle challenges to help you see your voice as a powerful tool for clarity, healing, and change.

Whether you’re in the early days of navigating a partner’s addiction or years into the rollercoaster, this conversation will help you shift from quietly coping to confidently choosing what’s best for you.

✨ For spouses and loved ones who are looking for resources and support:

If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy):

👉 Download the guide

📞 You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now.

👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible

📝 Or join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction.

You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone.

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You just want peace.

Peace in your home. Peace in your relationship. Peace in your body.

But here’s the hard truth no one talks about:

The real peace?

It’s on the other side of discomfort.

In this milestone episode, Amanda gets raw and real about what it actually takes to reclaim your voice and protect your peace when you’re in a relationship impacted by addiction.

We unpack:

• Why the “path of least resistance” keeps you stuck
• What happens when you abandon yourself to keep the peace
• How to start flexing your discomfort muscle (without diving straight into deep-end convos)
• Client stories that show this shift in real life
• And how YOU can start choosing the kind of “hard” that leads to healing

You don’t have to blow things up.

You don’t have to confront every moment.

But you do deserve to stop abandoning your truth.

✨ For spouses and loved ones who are looking for resources and support:

If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy):

👉 Download the guide

📞 You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now.

👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible

📝 Or join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction.

You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.