If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face?

My Adventures in the Art and Science of Relating and Communicating

De: Alan Alda

Narrado por: Alan Alda

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Award-winning actor Alan Alda tells the fascinating story of his quest to learn how to communicate better, and to teach others to do the same. With his trademark humor and candor, he explores how to develop empathy as the key factor.

“Invaluable.”—Deborah Tannen, #1 New York Times bestselling author of You’re the Only One I Can Tell and You Just Don’t Understand

Alan Alda has been on a decades-long journey to discover new ways to help people communicate and relate to one another more effectively. If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face? is the warm, witty, and informative chronicle of how Alda found inspiration in everything from cutting-edge science to classic acting methods. His search began when he was host of PBS’s Scientific American Frontiers, where he interviewed thousands of scientists and developed a knack for helping them communicate complex ideas in ways a wide audience could understand—and Alda wondered if those techniques held a clue to better communication for the rest of us.

In his wry and wise voice, Alda reflects on moments of miscommunication in his own life, when an absence of understanding resulted in problems both big and small. He guides us through his discoveries, showing how communication can be improved through learning to relate to the other person: listening with our eyes, looking for clues in another’s face, using the power of a compelling story, avoiding jargon, and reading another person so well that you become “in sync” with them, and know what they are thinking and feeling—especially when you’re talking about the hard stuff.

Drawing on improvisation training, theater, and storytelling techniques from a life of acting, and with insights from recent scientific studies, Alda describes ways we can build empathy, nurture our innate mind-reading abilities, and improve the way we relate and talk with others. Exploring empathy-boosting games and exercises, If I Understood You is a funny, thought-provoking guide that can be used by all of us, in every aspect of our lives—with our friends, lovers, and families, with our doctors, in business settings, and beyond.

“Alda uses his trademark humor and a well-honed ability to get to the point, to help us all learn how to leverage the better communicator inside each of us.”—Forbes

“Alda, with his laudable curiosity, has learned something you and I can use right now.”—Charlie Rose

It isn't a lot of fun but a lot to think of

I think author used all what he knew about empathy, about need to be a dramatic to sink in brains of your audience — all what this book about in general. It's very nice and instructive.

I prefer a bit boisterous voice but this sounds good enought.

Brilliant

Alan Alda is as fun to listen to as he is brilliant. His ability to craft a story and deliver it as any great scene he has over the many years is remarkable. Great stories and reminders of things we need to attend to for the sake of relationships and happiness.

Alan Alda as author and storyteller- what could be better?

This book was an absolutely delightful way to learn about communication. We had many “aha” moments as we listened. And Alan Alda was a joy to listen to.

Life changing. I will read it again and again. Very enjoyable.

This book confirms what you deeply know and teaches you how to express it and use it. Thank you, Alan Alda!

Alan Alda gives us good info about communication.

Well explained and easy to listen to. Alan Alda has an easy way of speaking and explains things well in this book about communication.