In this week's mini-episode, we delve into the needs that can be met when our family steps up to contribute to our lives in meaningful, important ways, and the loneliness and grief that can occur when they are no longer willing to help.

We discover:

• 2:53 My brother-in-law doesn't want to help me anymore and my feelings are hurt
• 7:30 A script for checking things out
• 11:27 Ways to honor freedom and choice

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Having good boundaries is not the same as being violent, and enforcing rules is not coercion.

In this week's episode, we unpack a professor's desire to limit coercion and violence in her classroom and her desire to create a tight container that supports and respects participant sharing.

We consider:

• 2:52 Can mandatory attendance be in line with nonviolence?
• 10:52 How can I create a tight container nonviolently?
• 11:46 Having good boundaries is not the same as being violent.

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It can be hard to enjoy work f you're in a power up/power down situation with a boss who consistently criticizes you.

It is especially challenging if you don't trust the perspective that your supervisor has.

In today's mini-episode, we discuss strategies for handling criticism at work in ways that build understanding and reduce tension.

Although a clean and tidy resolution may not always be possible, it is an option to go to bat for yourself and your needs, while also actively listening to what your boss offers.

In this episode we explore:

• 4:34 My boss' criticism feels like a way to control me
• 5:58 Her criticism tells you about her, not about you
• 10:42 Personalizing - not generalizing - impact
• 13:42 Reflecting her to her
• 14:09 Sitting in the tension of two perspectives

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High self-esteem is important because it influences how individuals perceive themselves, interact with others, and navigate the world around them.

By fostering healthy self-esteem, individuals can cultivate resilience, confidence, and well-being, laying the foundation for a fulfilling and satisfying life.

When our self-esteem is lower than we'd like, there's one fool-proof way to bolster it: by resting in our own goodness.

This week's podcast discusses some practical steps we can take to increase our own sense of self-worth.

We discuss:

• 4:49 When demand energy robs us of the joy of giving
• 13:55 A script for building intimacy by using curiosity
• 21:22 Is it ok to change my mind frequently?
• 25:54 A multi-faceted prescription for deeper connection with others
• 28:04 How do I navigate family gatherings when my relatives say hurtful things?
• 33:40 Tips for increasing self-worth

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It can be really valuable to talk about the difference between anger and aggression.

Although aggression can't exist outside of violence, anger can.

This week's podcast discusses some of the wisdom that can present itself alongside anger, such as clarity surrounding needs, understanding regarding self-worth, insight around boundaries, and awareness concerning relational patterns.

Interested in knowing more? We'll consider:

• 1:30 Unpacking "I don't want to go to school today."
• 8:30 Responding to another's insistence and urgency
• 18:23 Is my fear accurate?
• 24:30 How can I untangle conflicting, overwhelming emotions?
• 28:45 One definition for anger
• 35:23 How can I work at loving myself?
• 38:00 A recipe for gentle self-acceptance
• 41:10 Confidence from the inside out

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These days, it can be so difficult to discuss politics and religion.

Often, people tell me they just avoid those conversations. And honestly, I get it.

However, if we're invested in co-creating a relationship with someone we care about, exploring places where we hold different opinions and beliefs can be exactly the place where we build intimacy.

Looking for a roadmap on how to have conversations around different beliefs? Check this episode out!

We'll discuss:

• 1:17 I'm concerned about my fiancé's political views
• 6:09 A roadmap for connection: begin with observations
• 12:01 Making our invisible lines visible for others
• 22:50 Ways to involve kids in the conversation about their behavior
• 26:22 A tip for helping a child choose healthy strategies
• 39:06 When is it a boundary and when is it coercion?
• 37:26 Prioritizing the relationship above the behavior
• 41:23 What can I do when I'm frozen in an active power struggle?
• 54:13 What about adults who throw tantrums like children?

This episode references two of Yvette's best-selling courses: The Boundaries Masterclass and The Parenting Masterclass. Check them out for more helpful tips!

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This week's episode focuses on how to navigate complex family dynamics - especially when what has previously worked is no longer sustainable.

A common theme on this week's podcast is the importance of checking for alignment. If we're aligned in our needs and our wishes, then designing strategies to meet our goals is easier.

In question number one, a caller is rediscovering his sense of self and discovering the language needed in order to set new boundaries around old family dynamics.

Today's second caller longs for a deeper relationship with his adult son and we explore strategies to reconnect with someone who's choosing to stay distant.

If you're struggling with how to align with family members and reclaim your own boundaries and values in complex family dynamics, then this episode is for you!

We explore:

• 2:08 How do I stay true to what I need and stay connected with my family?
• 6:23 Avoid parenting your spouse.
• 9:48 "I had this delusion that my flexibility was building up some kind of credit."
• 15:20 A script to help check for alignment of family goals
• 24:34 How to pick up what the other person is saying so they feel heard
• 26:54 My eldest child doesn't speak to me. How can I change that?
• 28:21 A script for inviting connection
• 31:23 How to better attune to your adult child
• 35:11 A script to check for alignment
• 36:53 There's no such thing as a bad parent
• 41:18 How to listen to your child's feelings and needs without taking it personally
• 49:48 Three nuggets from The Boundaries Masterclass

The end of today's episode features a brief discussion of The Boundaries Masterclass, one of Yvette's available online courses. Feel free to check it out!

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"Venting" often gets a bad rap.

Even though many people see "venting" as an inherently negative thing, knowing how to vent effectively can actually be an effective way of reclaiming and reconnecting with yourself.

Sometimes, venting is just a pathway to something deeper, and we understand it as a step on our awareness journey.

Other times, we just want to process our experiences out loud with someone who will listen.

Either way, learning how to vent effectively is actually a critical skill to learn so that we can process our experiences in healthy ways without harming others along the way.

In this week's episode, we focus on two main themes:

• 4:29: How to apply NVC when there is little trust in the relationship
• 21:47: How to vent in constructive and life-affirming ways

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