When Men Behave Badly

The Hidden Roots of Sexual Deception, Harassment, and Assault

By: David M. Buss

Narrated by: Tom Parks

Length: 10 hrs and 47 mins

Publisher's summary

“An exceptional book” (Helen Fisher) by a leading evolutionary psychologist and sex researcher that lays out a new theory of sexual conflict, exposing the roots of the dangerous dynamics that underpin men’s predatory behavior - and what can be done to address it.

Sexual conflict permeates ancient religions, from injunctions about thy neighbor's wife to the permissible rape of infidels. It is etched in written laws that dictate who can and cannot have sex with whom. Its manifestations shape our sexual morality, evoking approving accolades or contemptuous condemnation. It produces sexual double standards that flourish even in the most sexually egalitarian cultures on earth. And although every person alive struggles with sexual conflict, most of us see only the tip of the iceberg: dating deception, a politician's unsavory sexual grab, the slow crumbling of a once-happy marriage, a romantic breakup that turns nasty.

When Men Behave Badly shows that this "battle of the sexes" is deeper and far more pervasive than anyone has recognized, revealing the hidden roots of sexual conflict - roots that originated over deep evolutionary time - which define the sexual psychology we currently carry around in our 3.5-pound brains. Providing novel insights into our minds and behaviors, When Men Behave Badly presents a unifying new theory of sexual conflict, and offers practical advice for men and women seeking to avoid it.

©2021 by David M. Buss. (P)2021 Brilliance Publishing, Inc., all rights reserved.

Important, informative, and interesting

A well-researched book on the far-reaching consequences of sexual conflict. Understanding these dynamics can actually make your life better.

Exceptional effort to present unbiased data

The effort here to avoid bias and expose bias in studies in order to assess current understandings of real world problems is astounding.

Sam Harris interviewed the author, which provided a brilliant glimpse into the "mating strategies of Earthlings." Reading this particular book illuminates the struggles that women face now and historically in that "strategic" landscape.

The insights in this book will help our if the right people are listening. --> Change makers/leaders, advocates, outspoken community members, or witnesses of men in the act of behaving badly can all look to this book for direction.

Incredible book

I had compassion for women before, but after hearing this audio it just went up much higher. This book shed so much light and perspective on the way we interact with women and what they go through. There’s so much facts and history in this book. Will definitely recommend

This should be required reading in schools

Great pacing and incredibly informative. The beginning is full of interesting insights applicable to both sexes. But subtly inviting to males who may be less interested in hearing about the dangers they pose. Then by the time you’re hooked you’re learning about sexual coercion and it’s many forms and damages.
I hope many women start putting this book as “read this before you match with me” suggestion.
It would also be lovely to see a law in place for dating apps to put together behavioural data for analysis of individuals that show signs of dark triad traits.
It may feel troubling to many to be psychologically evaluated by an AI or data science team. But if people read this book and still feel against the idea; they’re likely exact people to be wary of.

Thanks Dr. Buss and team! The world needs more of this!

EVERYONE NEEDS TO KNOW THIS INFO

I talk about this book a lot in my coaching business. I know a lot of men don't think they need to read this because they're a "nice guy" but you need to understand what women go through on a regular basis. Being a good person means having empathy for others. This book will teach you, both men and women, so much about unhealthy relationships.

Perhaps the most useful work on evolutionary psychology

Buss has written a work that comprehensively explores the origins of human sexual conflict. When Men Behave Badly makes excellent use of scientific research - much of which he conducted- to demonstrate the need to view human sexual behavior from an evolutionary perspective. Doing so not only elucidates the origins of many barriers to intersexual compatibility- like intimate partner violence, infidelity, and sexual jealousy- but provides a basis to address these problems. Overall, worth reading twice.

Reality, Research, and Unfortunate

This is an absolute fantastic compilation and mesmerizing read....and...also sad, unfortunate, and scary in its reality. If you can peaceably hold these two realities this book is a must read!

Fascinating and informative!

Amazing! Written so everyone can understand it. Answers some fundamental questions I had about differences between men and women. Highly highly recommend this book.

Another great book!

Mr. Buss has delivered many great books over the years. His work gives us important information in easy to understand ways. Huge fan!

Evolutionary psychology for feminists. Sequel?

David Buss is a pioneer in Evo psyc. Here he gives an evo-psyc explanation of the minimal to vial behaviors of men and does a decent job putting things into perspective. I wonder if he would be willing to write the companion; "Women Behaving Badly", or "Men Behaving Excellent"?