The Perfection Trap

Embracing the Power of Good Enough

By: Thomas Curran

Narrated by: Sid Sagar

Length: 7 hrs and 55 mins

Publisher's summary

“Offers a hopeful beacon and a steady path for anyone struggling to find their footing in a world of impossible standards.” —Daniel H. Pink, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Drive and The Power of Regret

In the tradition of Brené Brown’s bestseller The Gifts of Imperfection, this illuminating book by an acclaimed professor at the London School of Economics explores how the pursuit of perfection can become a dangerous obsession that leads to burnout and depression—keeping us from achieving our goals.

Today, burnout and depression are at record levels, driven by a combination of intense workplace competition, oppressively ubiquitous social media encouraging comparisons with others, the quest for elite credentials, and helicopter parenting. Society continually broadcasts the need to want more, and to be perfect.

Gathering a wide range of contemporary evidence, Curran offers “a clear-eyed look at how perfectionism and its capitalistic ‘obsession with boundless growth’ has contributed to mass discontent and insecurity” (Publishers Weekly). He shows what we can do as individuals to resist the modern-day pressure to be perfect, and in so doing, win for ourselves a more purposeful and contented life.

Filled with “many useful lessons and valuable insights…This book offers an alternative path to a fulfilling, productive life” (Kirkus Reviews) and the relief of letting go to focus on what matters most.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2023 Thomas Curran (P)2023 Simon & Schuster Audio

great until he went political

I'm a 30 something moderate, I don't agree with his political views which is fine. Liked 3/4 of the book about perfection which is what I was after. last third is more of a liberal political view on socialism just an fyi more than a critique.

Enjoyable Listen

Really enjoyed listening to this book. The narrator is excellent and the author does a thorough job of raking through the research in an accessible fashion. In fact, it's very well written for an academic. He also lays out the options to tackle the problem, although this section is not as strong as the groundwork at the beginning. Overall, a thoroughly enjoyable and eye-opening listen.

The Answers I Didn’t Know I Needed

In a good way, this is a frustrating book. I heard the interview on NPR this week and immediately bought the book. I’m struggling to get through it because it is so spot on, and I can’t stay with it too long without having to force my mind elsewhere. I’m hoping there are some effective coping tools at the end, so I can come back for a more comprehensive review. I’m reviewing it now because, even if it doesn’t provide solutions, it at least has provided me with a diagnosis. I saved the NPR story with the intention of sharing it with my wife and daughter as an explanation of sorts. I haven’t had the courage to share it; I’m frankly scared to provide too much insight into the vast range of thoughts/emotions that I deal with in my head. There’s no need for this review to have taken so long. No one I know is going to read this and know I sent it, so no one is going to judge my choice of words or grammar. Likewise, a text that can’t be answered with an emoji shouldn’t require a google search to make sure I’m using a word properly. At least now I know why.

Even though I haven’t completed the book, I’m giving 5-stars across the board because it is so insightful. I hope someone else who’s struggles like me will see the review and give it a chance. Perhaps I’ll get up the nerve one day to admit to a therapist what’s going on, and this book will help me give him/her a head start on my treatment.

I would be farther along in my listening now, if I didn’t have to rewind it every few minutes to make sure I understood the point(s) being conveyed. That’s not the narrator’s or author’s fault. I’m typically tinkering when listening to audiobooks, so it’s easy to miss stuff.

Great insight of the problem, less of the solution

Great book if you want to understand perfectionism.

I thought the author's synthesis of the research that addresses the underlying issues was spot on. I'd say he really knows perfectionism inside and out and his insights on the topic are worth your time. I took one star off for the proposed solutions at the end. Many of his bandaid-like suggestions are useful and fit well with his research. Furthermore, I agree that a socially systemic problem will take a systematic approach. However, his lack of evidence to stand on for his socioeconomic solution at the end makes his grandest proposal feel like a flight of fancy more than anything else in the book and that knocks this down to a four star book for me. He's a professor of psychology trying to completely rewrite a global socioeconomic system for us all. That section just doesn't feel as well within his expertise as the rest of the book.

Still though, it's a great book to read if you want to understand perfectionism.

Good overview of problem but poor solution

Enjoyed the first five chapters giving an overview of the problem. However, beyond that it got boring and anecdotal. Last 3-4 chapters were too political. Proposing shared jobs, universal income and that everyone has the same. Praising young liberals and bashing older conservatives. Then has the nerve to say this is democracy. When this is quite the opposite. This is not the psychological solution I was looking for. I agree more could be done to promote work life balance in government and corporate but this was extreme.

Author mentions correlation versus causation but ignores his own advice.

The author’s sweeping judgment against the current system is a gross oversimplification of the problem of “what constitutes a good life”. There are myriad ills in the world - just as perfectionism can cause many problems, so can apathy. The offered remedy of “just accept good enough” is a dissatisfying answer. The author’s jump from high correlation of anxiety and “perfectionism” behaviors is certainly notable and worth considering. However prescription of rejecting the system and accepting your own personal status quo is not justified by the evidence cited. Figuring out a “good life” is hard and changes each day.