She used to make the same mistakes we've all made with men - until she realized that the winning formula to attracting the right guy lay in skills she already had. As a successful saleswoman, Jess has practiced the techniques in promoting a product, finding the right approach, making the pitch, and closing deal after deal. Once she started to apply these same techniques to the dating scene, her love life made a complete 180, and she found herself with more interested men than she knew what to do with.
©2012 McCann, Jess. (P)2013 Audible, Inc.
No-nonsense points that truly hit home. For example: if a man is showing a low or moderate level of interest in you, don't agonize over "why", "what did I do wrong?", "but I thought we hit it off, why isn't he calling?" or any of the other dead-end paths women tend to go down. Simply note that he has a low or moderate level of interest in you, and adjust your expectations accordingly. It seems obvious now but I could have used this advice years ago.
One quibble with the point of view: It felt to me like this book had an underlying tone of the old-fashioned premise that it's women's job to attract / do the right things to get the men to like them, and the mens' job to either be interested (and hopefully lead to marriage proposal) or not. Kind of like men still ultimately hold the cards, which I don't agree with.THAT BEING SAID, I still think there were many, many excellent points and advice in this book. I may be a feminist but I still made MANY of the mistakes she talks about, and she is spot on in her observations.
Listening at 1.5 or 2x speed (don't remember) was absolutely perfect. Her voice had a positive, clear and interesting tone that brought the text to life very nicely. However, I found it to be incredibly slow going at normal speed.
While many of her examples seem to be about quite young women (college / early 20's) which can be a bit of a turn-off for those of us in the 30s, 40s or even 50s age range, there is still great, universal material here for straight women trying to navigate the world of dating and meeting men.
A busy mum who doesnt find much time to read, however the beauty of ebooks is that i can listen while i drive or walk or am on my treadmill to name a few :) awesome!!
I have already recommended this book to a friend? Why? Because she is going through some of the examples the author mentions and even though most of it is common sense it always sounds better coming from someone else...I dont want to be the bearer of bad news....plus its better getting advice from someone who is impartial to the situation..great ideas by the way and an intuitive way of putting across the authors views and observations.
Id highly recommend this book
Read this book while driving 9 hours....loved it...made the trip seem a hell of a lot shorter....but no definitive moment stood out above all others sorry..
parts made me laugh...the inner cynic and the knowledge of having been somewhat in those shoes at one time or another...
where was this book when I needed it?
This book should be taught in school. I wish I had read it sooner.
The dating principles
I hope not. The narrator can be slow. I honestly wondered if it was a computer voice at times.
Don't give away your "bullets" too early in the relationship
Great book to read about dating She uses the techniques of selling to think about how to me et and fall in love with a man. Funny light hearted with good advice and stories. To really perfect techniques would need some practice.
This is an excellent book for single professional women. I had already figured out a lot of these concepts, so the first half didn't give me much, but in the middle is where the really critical perspective changing concepts come in -very worth the annoying voiceover talent.
The most memorable moments are personal revelations for me such as -I know I avert my eyes and look away from men constantly. Not sure where I got this habit except maybe after I'd been married. I don't think I had this problem before my two divorces. Another was that you really do have to date multiple people at any given time until you are in a committed relationship with someone -a concept that I've always struggled with, but it is actually the more healthy way to date.
Anyone would be better than this narrator. I can't stand the constant false inflections at awkward moments throughout each sentence. And the timber, pitch of her voice is annoying as well. I cringe everytime I start listening to it some more and spend at least the first few minutes being distracted by it.
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I wish they would have a different narrator. The content could be a lot more powerful with a strong voice talent. I am a professional designer and we hire voice talent all the time. I don't know if this person was just a friend or what but I do not regard her style as professional. Sound is everything and the way this voice sounds is grating to my nerves but I power through it nonetheless because the content is worth it.
Yes because of the content. It was clearly laid out, logical, and I related to it. I've read a lot of dating books, and this is the first one where I didn't feel chastised as a woman, and it really encapsulated a lof that i have learned about dating through bumps and bruises over the years. I wish I had this when I was younger!
Honestly, no comparison.
Absolutely not. Her voice had an annoying patterned lilt to it that seriously made me consider returning the book.
I loved her part about comparing yourself to a product - know, love, and package it accordingly. I also love what she said about gauging interest and acting accordingly, all the strategies (e.g., SEE, prospecting, icebreakers), and even in the end when she aid that you are the only one who knows who the right guy is for you. There were several A-HA! moments for me throughout the book. Explained a lot about my past dating faux pas.
If you are a woman who has ever heard "You are so *insert compliment here* why are you single?" If you have ever wondered why you just can't seem to get it right in dating, get this book! Jessica McCann, let me know when you decide to have a class. I am a talented learning professional and would love to help!
The realistic approach to the dating topics
This book has some of the best advice I have heard. I have read and listen to many books and by far her tips make the most sense
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