Here is an essential manual for creating a positive, respectful, and rewarding relationship with a strong-willed child. Based on proven techniques and procedures, parents and teachers alike will welcome this book.
©2001 Robert J. MacKenzie (P)2011 Tantor
"This book should be a part of every parent's and school's reference library." (Judy E. Hunt-Brown, principal)
The advice in this book is the only advice I've gotten from a parenting book (and I've read quite a few) that has been effective almost from the moment I started to try it out with my strong-willed daughter.
It espouses, among other things, time-outs and natural consequences which are frowned upon by the more modern books I've read. But it stresses that this type of discipline must NOT be meted out in a punitive, angry, or mean-spirited way. And that, I believe, keeps this kind of effective discipline from crossing the line into cruelty.
I HIGHLY recommend this book if you have a strong-willed child. But do read other, newer books that set out very different but still very valuable approaches. No one book has all the answers or the one right approach, but this one works both well and fairly quickly with the kids who are less naturally compliant.
Note that it's approach might be a bit over-the-top for compliant children. Still, meaning what you say and using less words with compliant children probably won't hurt...
The content was good and I think overall it gives you tools to be a better parent. In my case, I'm a father, I don't have that big of a problem with any of my kids but the themes discussed here are very applicable.
I've already had a chance to apply these things in real life, and they work! I feel so happy to handle a situation very different of the ways I'd have used in the past, and obtained the desired results: kids do better, I feel much better, and we all communicate better at the end.
I've read reviews where they criticize the narrator and for me it has never been an issue... but for this particular book I felt some tension and I felt that the voice didn't help. I can say that I was tired while reading the book, I think the narrator has a good voice, but it's just that the book was slower and it felt monotonous, repetitive ... I've been on the other side, also tired and hearing a super cheerful voice but didn't like it either. I'd have preferred a different voice, less deep.
I almost stopped hearing the audiobook, but I'm glad I finished it. It does have good applicable content. In my case it was a hard listen, but in the end I'd totally recommend if you have a strong-willed child.
I am already half way through listening to this book a second time! It is packed full of information and I am only beginning to put Roberts advice into action! I am so thankful for this book!
Alan is a great narrator and helped bring the book to life!
I often find myself becoming angry with my children and losing my temper! I have found that by keeping cool and just setting boundaries as Author Robert MacKenzie advises, my children are able to make good choices or live with the consequences of their bad choice! No reason for me to become angry! (I am still working on this!)
An outstanding book for all parents, not just parents of strong willed children, since all children need to have boundaries! I have recommended this book to many of my friends and will continue to tell people about this book and its great advise! Thank you Robert MacKenzie! God Bless you!
This is the first book I have read that outlines the problems AND the solutions step by step, no matter if you have a compliant or strong willed child, if you are a parent this is for you.I found this book to be the instructions on How to be a good parent! If you want to help new parents or struggling parents give them this book.If you feel you cant connect to your child because it seams you are not speaking the same language, this book will make you understand why and best of all how to change it step by step. Its a life saver! you will understand once and for all your child's behavior and the best of all embrace it and love him even more when you see him progress. I have read this book 3 times already just because I need to be reminded or encouraged or redirected back to a good parenting.I have applied the strategies here with both of my sons: the compliant (which was easy of course) and the strong willed (which worked miracles!). I have seen my son transform before my eyes! No more yelling and frustration, if I feel that something is not working I go back to the book and find the problem and apply a solution. this book has changed my life and my kids life! no more angry mom everyday. Now they know the drill: 1) Calm voice clear message 2) Either they obey or take the consequence and then obey (lol) they are learning really fast to obey without the consequence = Happy proud mommy!
When I accepted the fact that my strong willed child's job is to test over and over and over and mine as a parent who knows better to guide him to take better choices, that changed my life.Also when I understood finally my sons character and I felt I could finally communicate with him in a way that would bring results, that gave me hope and motivated me to keep on trying. Now I see the results and love my son more than ever! appreciate his unique character and embrace his stubbornness! (yea I know! I never thought I would say that either! If you have one you know what I mean!)
I love the way he changed the tone of voice making stories come to life.
This book is full of examples and that is awesome cause not only you can identify with the example but it tells you how to apply in real situations the techniques you are learning. I also loved the fact that on the examples it tells you what the parent is doing wrong and not only that but how to fix it step by step.
I found super helpful the guide of techniques by age and the reference on the chapters that you should go back to for each age/stage.
I found this book to be very helpful. I even tried some of the techniques with great results. I come from the southern way of discipline and the tools illustrated in this book are more effective.
He voice was very soothing and clear. I felt like he was teaching me with patience and understanding.
No extreme reaction but I did have quite a few "AH-HA" moments.
Yes, it has great examples, explanations and ways on dealing with your stronged willed, even if you have a compliant child the book wil help you how to communicate with your child in a better ways.
After listening "Never be sick again" also excellently performed by Alan Sklar, I searched for other audiobooks performed by him.
This was the one I chose, and I was very lucky!!
Not only the performance was excellent, the content largely surpassed my expectations.
The book is plenty of examples, which makes it entertaining, funny, in parts emotive and very profound.
Thank you both Robert MacKenzie and Alan Sklar for this great job!
All of the different examples of how the strong willed child acts and the different roll plays of how you should respond to each strong willed child's act. This helped extremely!!!
"The Dance". This hit home for me. My 5 yr. old is constantly trying to talk his way out of things. I assumed he would turn out to be a great attorney :) This book is the only reason I have learned to put a stop to "The Dance" which was so exhausting!
Every day that I woke up and every night that went to bed I stressed over how I could get my child to listen. I did not understand what I was doing wrong. I thought I was faulted for my parenting skills. This book lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. It gave me a greater understanding off my strong willed child's thought processes which in turn helped me understand the author's approach. And his approach for my son's strong-willedness was spot on! At the end of the day the author taught me how to be consistent and to the point. You can hear those words and think I don't need a book, I can do that. But, the book provides so many examples of approaches on almost every situation which gives you an amazing head start!
Of course, this is very practical and realistic. Very well crafted. I haven't finished listening but I have learned so much. It's so easy to understand and follow and the narrator is very good, I don't know why the other reviewer characterized it as a difficult listen. He read it the way it should have been read, even the dialogues were so appropriate and intonation just perfect!
I bought that Scream-Free Parenting, returned it because it beat around the bush too much. Not practical at all, I have been a child care provider for more than 40 years and I should know.
This is my first time.
Consistency, firmness and respect are essential in dealing with difficult children.
Yes. I have already listened to it twice. I know that this book will be at the top of my listening list. Each time I listen, I pick up new points that I missed before.
This book produced immediate results both in me and my strong willed child. It was amazing the change.
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