Steven Carter and Julia Sokol's seminal relationship book offers a thorough, penetrating examination of the complex behavior and psychology of commitment-phobic males who, as stated in the book, can go from "attentive and caring to distant and hurtful for apparent reason".
Kevin Young's accomplished, measured performance reflects the high esteem with which these groundbreaking interviews and case studies are held in the field of relationship therapy, and his genial, conversational tone keeps the listener interested throughout this thought-provoking work.
The million-copy New York Times best seller and classic relationship book.
Featured on Oprah and Sally Jesse Raphael, this definitive look at the dynamics of male-female communication gets to the heart of the all-too-common phenomenon: women who are ready and willing to commit, and men who back off just as the relationship moves toward the next level.
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I have never written a review on any book before, however, I highly recommend this book for anyone that has a habit of getting involved with men that come on very strong in the beginning to win you over and then decide that they don't want a serious committment. If you have been left confused by this in the past, believe me, this book will help you to see the signs of a committment phobic man from the very first date and help you to set the ground rules for the relationship right from the start. No more confusion or broken hearts for me. Now they play by my rules. And I can finally say that I can spot a player a mile away and know now what a healthy relationship is.This is seriously the best audiobook I have ever listened to and I am now buying the second book....He's Scared She's Scared. I will write a review on that one when I finish it.
Say something about yourself!
Yes, I am on my second listen.
Attached. These books explain the personality traits of men who are incapable of loving truly and genuinely
Stay independent and don't trust too quickly or easily.
I wish I had heard this book sooner!
Set me free.
This book helped me to put together all of the pieces of the puzzle. The puzzle being, I just ended a relationship with a commitment phobic. A man that treated me so badly, but that I was sitting around crying for. I thought I was going crazy. How could I yearn to be with someone that treated me so badly. Someone so mean and cruel and heartless. But this book helped me to understand it all. The beginning, the middle, the end and the bitter end. It helped me to understand what to look for in the future so that I never become involved with a commitment phobic man again.
I related more to the stories in "The Bitter End".
I will be much more cautious of a man that comes on so strong in the beginning. I will never allow the relationship to proceed too quickly. I will never compromise my needs for the needs of any man again. I will never allow a man to treat me badly again. I will love myself enough to trust my instincts. Instincts that I know God gave me, but I didn't listen to with this man. If I had listened to my instincts, I could have saved myself a great deal of pain and heartache.
I can't begin to tell you how much this book helped me. Being in a relationship with a commitment phobic created so much confusion, and self doubt. I got to the point where I couldn't even focus on my own needs. It is a paralyzing relationship. But this book restored my sanity and it restored my belief in myself and my self worth. I don't think I would have ever have found closure without this book. Also, I found the narrator's voice to be so caring and soothing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for writing this book.
Insightful, helped me see what was really going on in my life and now I can truly let go because I can see that he is a commitment phobic and it wasn't me. I'm stepping off that roller coaster.
True to life. To the point and helpful.
It served as preventive medicine for me and it was also healing.
Highly recommend it.
Tells it like it is, point by familiar point. Clear, no nonsense. I appreciate the emphasis on saving one's self. I will be listening to this audio book many times. Thank you.
This book is a must read for all women regardless of the stage you are in in your relationship!! Complete eye opener on what goes on in a mans mind through REAL men testimonials.. Women have got to be careful and we must take care of ourselves and not rely on a man to create and support our emotional well being!! The narrator was awesome in his ability to take you on a journey through the many scenarios and stories throughout the book.. I definetely recommend this book to ALL women!
This books offers several helpful tips for a woman struggling with a undiagnosed commitmentphobe. Funny is this book was recommended by my boyfriend at the time - now ex - and I now have a much more eyes wide open approach to relationships.
I purchased the book & became so intrigued by its context I couldn't put it down. That's when I looked into audio version & am I glad I did.
I'd love it even more if I could gift this to a few men in my life. I felt I was going crazy with different emotions, mixed signals, I even broke up with my boyfriend of 6 yrs. when my friend of 20+ yrs. strongly pursued me....
Not realizing he's commitment phobic. I wish I'd know sooner. Now our friendship has suffered tremendously, I regret getting involved with him. Honestly this. Book was a huge and complete eye opener. I'm going to follow my instincts and to & pay attentions to a man's behavior patterns, their attitude, and their engagement.
Definitely recommend this to women out their going through a relationship where you feel your giving more than you are receiving, allowing a man to disappear and reappear with no questions asked, any woman feeling like she's always walking on egg shells afraid to say anything when mistreated, a guy that never called you back when he said he would. A guy that said he'd change & beg for another opportunity. Even someone going through a breakup. It will definitely give you fulfillment after listening/reading this book that we the women did nothing wrong. Loved it. Now want to get into reading "he's afraid, she's afraid "...
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