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I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not Audiobook

I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not: Successful Living with ADD and ADHD

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Publisher's Summary

Dr. Wes Crenshaw offers thirteen principles for successful living with ADD and ADHD drawn from twenty-two years of experience and 23,000 hours of clinical discussions with hundreds of interesting clients. Written in an entertaining, conversational style for readers aged fifteen to thirty, Dr. Wes pulls no punches in confronting the cognitive, social, emotional, and academic pitfalls people with ADD face every day. He also helps families, friends, and romantic partners understand a diagnosis of ADD not as something to fear or an excuse, but as a first step on the path to a better tomorrow.

His principles include accepting here and now, living intentionally, making mindful decisions, recognizing and taking the right path and not just the easy one, wanting rather than wishing, finding and following life's instructions, managing crises, taking responsibility, attaining character through radical honesty, and creating sustainable happiness through organized thinking and living. Finally, Dr. Wes guides you and your loved ones in how to better manage relationships, seek a good diagnosis, utilize therapy, and become your own expert on medication management.

  • Have you been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD or do you suspect you should be? Do you really want to start solving your many riddles and living a more successful and productive life? This book is for you.
  • Does your partner, child, roommate, or friend have ADD? Do you wonder what's going on in his or her head, and you really want to understand the secret code so you can better love him or her? This audiobook is for you.
  • Are you a little scattered or organizationally challenged? Do you struggle with details, follow-through, or in converting ideas into results? Do your people see you as fun and energetic, but uncommitted and difficult to pin down. Maybe you're an "ADD-leaner." This audiobook is for you.
    • ©2014 Wes Crenshaw, PhD (P)2014 Wes Crenshaw, PhD

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    inid 01-30-15
    inid 01-30-15
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    "Brilliant!"
    Where does I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

    This is by far the best book on the market for ADD today. Dr. Wes breaks down ADD and ADHD in a way that is easy to understand and easy for a person with ADD/ADHD to relate to, follow and absorb.


    What other book might you compare I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not to and why?

    I can't compare this book to anything else out there. I've read a lot of self-help books, and I've never read a book like this before or since. I cringe to call it a self-help book, what with all the hokey, new-age baggage that term brings with it, but I'll call a duck a duck for what it's worth. This book, along with a good deal of therapy, has helped me more than I can say.


    Which scene was your favorite?

    It's so hard to pick just one...but if I had to, I'd have to pick Chapter 5 - "Follow Your Heart?" Not only is the vignette at the beginning one of the funniest in the book, but for me, reading about the perils of following your heart as a person with ADD, changed my life. This chapter was a wake up call, and it came exactly when I needed it. It was not long after finishing that chapter that I finally filled out the FAFSA, enrolled back into school and started getting my life on track for the first time in my almost thirty years on Earth.


    Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    I went through the entire range of emotions relating to the characters in the vignettes. I Always Want To Be Where I'm Not is both hilarious and heart-wrenching, in equal measure.


    Any additional comments?

    I couldn't recommend this book more highly for anyone who is dealing with ADD/ADHD, either personally or with a close friend or relative (or, as in my case, both)! Dr. Wes provides amazing insight into not only the psychology of ADD, but the impacts on a person's job, friendships, love life, surroundings...he touches on every aspect of how ADD affects a person and their ability to deal with, cope with, and interact with life. From the seemingly insurmountable clutter in your living room to the maddening clutter in your mind, he provides advice and strategies to clean up your life and your mind. This book is insightful, thought-provoking, educational, and incredibly inspiring.

    8 of 8 people found this review helpful
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    Curt Siekert 02-21-15 Member Since 2015
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    "great content. impossible reading"

    As someone who needed more info on ADHD, I found the content of this book to be wide ranging and helpful. My only complaint was the narration of the author. Choppy. No rhythm. Annoying really.

    17 of 19 people found this review helpful
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    t 02-03-15
    t 02-03-15 Member Since 2013
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    "Book yes. Narration no."

    I found the book to be extremely informative. However, the pace of the narration was off-putting. I've ordered the book for my ADHD teen because I know if she were to listen to it, her focus would be on the narrator, not the content.

    10 of 11 people found this review helpful
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    Positive1 08-06-15
    Positive1 08-06-15
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    "ADD/ADHD The big picture...."
    If you could sum up I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not in three words, what would they be?

    In Depth over view of ADD/ADHD.


    What did you like best about this story?

    I learn helpful information regarding some magament skill and medication treatment.


    What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

    The different types of medication treatments, how they are use, and how they work.


    Any additional comments?

    The book was very informative. However it seemed to but a negative spin or light on the condition. The case studies examples were, for the most part, focused on the negative attributes of ADD/ADHD.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Peter 06-04-15
    Peter 06-04-15 Member Since 2011
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    "Great content Horrible narration"
    What made the experience of listening to I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not the most enjoyable?

    The content of this book is very interesting and relevant. However..Wes should have got someone else to narrate this book for him. Very choppy narration which is hard to listen to.
    Sorry Wes.


    5 of 6 people found this review helpful
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    Angela Thornburg 01-22-15
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    What disappointed you about I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not?

    The narrator was hard to hear, and overall was not easy to listen to. The content of the material seemed to just tell the listener about the patients. I was expecting to learn ways to help deal with or change ways of thinking or living with ADD and ADHD. It was a bad purchase.


    Would you ever listen to anything by Wes Crenshaw, PhD again?

    No.


    Would you be willing to try another one of Wes Crenshaw, PhD’s performances?

    Only if it were free.


    What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

    Disappointment in the lack of information.


    5 of 6 people found this review helpful
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    Deb 02-17-15
    Deb 02-17-15
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    "Great Book Overall, But Could Be More Encouraging"

    Before I begin my review, I think its important to know a little about me. I have been diagnosed and treated for ADD since I was 6 years old and I am now 28. I was tested three times throughout my life and all three times it was concluded that I have ADD. My father and younger brother are also diagnosed with ADHD. Since, I have been treated pretty much all my life and have made considerable steps to overcome my ADD tendencies, I have achieved great success and life accomplishments. Some of these accomplishments include graduating college, going on to earning a Master's degree with a 3.7 GPA, earned two professional licenses, maintained a well respected career and getting married to a wonderful man. However, none of my accomplishments came easy; it took A LOT work and a very strong support system to get to where I am today. Although, I made tremendous strides in overcoming my ADD tendencies...my work is far from finished. I still need make a conscious effort everyday to overcome my tendencies and I do take medication during the work week to help me accomplish daily mundane tasks.

    I decided to read the book "I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not: Successful Living with ADD and ADHD" by Wes Crenshaw as I really want to make a stronger effort in regulating my ADD...Especially since I plan to have children in the next few years. Overall, I found the book to be beneficial. Dr. Wes highlighted from the beginning that the book will address a variety of issues that ADD and ADHD people may or may not struggle with. Hence, I related with some stories and chapters much more than others. Knowing his clientele, Dr. Wes made his book ADD friendly by providing a checklist on what each chapter will cover so that readers can decided whether or not the chapter is for them. I personally read every chapter out of curiosity even if I didn't necessarily relate to the chapter or story. I found the book to be very eye opening to listen to how the rest of the world sees people with ADD/ADHD. The book was difficult to listen to at times as it hit on some touchy issues. However, It was good for me to hear so that I can continue to address these issues. I also did think he gave some great feedback in addressing some of the negative tendencies that comes with ADD/ADHD.

    I recently read one review on this book that said that they felt that Dr. Wes was condescending. Although, I did not feel that he was condescending throughout this book, I would have certainty felt that way 10 years ago. Growing up with ADD can take a significant toll on your self-esteem and self-worth. I think if I were to have read this book as a teen, I would not receive this book very well. I would have felt worse about my diagnosis and hopeless. I believe positive encouragement and a strong support system is key for a teen with ADD/ADHD. Since this book wasn't just a informational book about ADD/ADHD and it was geared specifically to people with the diagnosis, I felt that it should have been a little more encouraging to inspire positive change. Although, with that said, it was nice to hear some of positive endings of the stories throughout the book in the epilogue. However, since the book is geared for the ADD/ADHD audience, who has a quick attention span, they may not read to the end so I think it may be better to put the ending of these stories in the chapters which they started.

    Overall, I think this was a good book and I would recommend it to people who have loved ones with ADD/ADHD and adults who have ADD/ADHD who are committed to treatment.

    10 of 13 people found this review helpful
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    DAVE 04-24-15
    DAVE 04-24-15 Member Since 2014
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    "Let this be your roadmap"

    I've never written a review for anything...ever but here it goes.

    Dr. Wes provides a gentle, humorous and honest path to consider...for anyone with or without add. This audiobook is by far the best in my library on this topic. If you are suspecting, diagnosed already, struggling or not, listen to this book. I hope someday to give this dude a big hug! Thanks Dr. Wes!

    4 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    janice pronstroller 08-02-15 Member Since 2015
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    "The author reads his own book to you! Great buy!"

    He is insightful and sensitive to his reader's feelings. Read it over and over to fully grasp his testimony.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Chris 12-29-14
    Chris 12-29-14
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    "Great listen, very helpful"

    Great info, I wish there was more on relationships and ADHD. This just might allow my wife and I to save our marriage.

    5 of 7 people found this review helpful
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  • Simplissimo
    9/8/16
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    "Okay-ish"

    I found the tone of the book to be very patronising and written in a parent-child communication style (despite the stories) which did not work for me. Not sure I got that many ideas/techniques from it either. The story is quite focused on pushing the point that one has to accept rules, systems etc., they are good for you in the long run etc. Barely managed to listen to the end. I don't doubt thought that the author helps a lot of the people with ADHD/ADD looking for a stable parental figure. My main take-away from the book was that there are two polar conditions: anxiety and ADHD and that many people can lean more or less either way and that anxiety is the motor behind wanting to get things organised, done on time etc. So that bit was interesting.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Kyle
    3/18/16
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    "Learnt too much about myself"

    First, the way he reads is clear and easy to listen to. Not too slow!

    I learnt so much about myself, literally felt like this guy knew me and he's never met me!! crazy.

    definitely reccomend this book, it really makes you realise what holds you back and how to deal with it.

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  • Jeff
    3/6/16
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    "Very practical and helpful"

    Thirteen principles are useful are approach and has some pleasantly progressive and innovative views on solving some issues e.g monogamy might not suit everyone

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Fionnuala Phippen
    5/24/15
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    "Excellent book for any reader who wants to improve"
    Would you consider the audio edition of I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not to be better than the print version?

    As someone with ADD it is an excellent way to get the info by listening


    What was one of the most memorable moments of I Always Want to Be Where I'm Not?

    listening to other people's stories and relating to them


    Which scene did you most enjoy?

    ADD is an explanation not an excuse


    Did you have an emotional reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    It may me feel human


    Any additional comments?

    Everyone should read this book! It has wonderful down to earth practical advise

    2 of 3 people found this review helpful

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