Other self-help books claim to reveal the path to happiness, but F*ck Feelings warns that convincing yourself that there is such a path will actually lead you to feel like a true failure. What the Bennetts can promise you is that you can manage any situation life throws at you if you can keep your sense of humor, bend your wishes to fit reality, restrain your feelings, manage bad behavior, and do what you think is right.
Life is hard. It's not fair. Our feelings cloud our rationality, and we become tangled in our efforts to achieve the impossible or change the unchangeable. In this groundbreaking, entirely sensible, and funny book, the Bennetts open the shrinks' secret solution manual and show you how to find a new kind of freedom by working toward realistic goals and doing the best with what you can control. They address the most common problems Dr. Bennett's patients bring to his private practice and give you a script for going forward.
With no-bullshit advice from a Harvard-educated shrink freed of all jargon and patronization by his smart-ass, comedy-writer daughter, F*ck Feelings is the cut-to-the-chase therapy session you've been looking for. Contains mature themes.
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"The Bennetts administer a highly informative and entertaining smack down to get your head on straight." (Kirkus Reviews)
F*ck Feelings is great at getting straight to the point: how to wear your heart on your sleeve, what you can realistically aim for and actually achieve. The problem is that it reads more as a handbook than a novel. Not every chapter will be applicable to you or your loved ones, and because of this, it's not necessary to read/listen to it cover-to-cover.
Lawlor's gives a high-energy and entertaining read and makes the best out of an oddly formatted text.
I would write it as a book. It typifies the problems with established bloggers writing books. They tend to be very weak at overall structure and flow, having an attention span that's limited to 2000 words. When I'm listening to an audiobook, I don't want to hear mostly unrelated, though often overlapping chapters with the same detailed sections and structures repeated dozens of times over. I have no high-level overview of the material and at any given point I have no idea where the book is going.
Get better recording equipment and an voice actor that doesn't sound like he's reading a script
I hate this book. Although, it does have some redeeming messages that resonated with me, I couldn't get past the over-the-top irreverence (which was originally what drew me to this book) just for the sake of being irreverent. If there is any useful "how to" suggestions, I must have missed it in the sea of sarcasm (which is a language I speak fluently). Friends and I started a book club with this book and at the first meeting decided we all hated it and looked for another. the book would have been more useful if written as 12 bullet points (as is probably true about this review). Total waste of time and money.
I really disliked this book. I agree with many of the points Dr. Bennett makes but the way this book is put together is terrible. It could maybe be a useful pamphlet but I wish I hadn't wasted money on this book. It was unnecessarily drawn out and just very hard to listen to.
Most of the many insights offered here can be summarized as: Realize how little control you have over the things in life you wish were better, and hold your head high anyway.
This is a thinking person's (one might even say, an experienced person's) self-help book. It spends about half its time debunking the popular advice in the thousands of best-sellers that sell "you can have it all if you just tweak a few things." If you are a big fan of "The Secret" or even Tony Robbins, you are probably not going to like this.
The lesson throughout is there are many things, people, family issues and real suffering that you cannot do anything about, no matter what you see on Oprah or read in your favorite blogs. And because the book necessarily deals with pretty negative, even sometimes tragic, life events (unexpected break-ups, addiction, borderline personality disorder, sexual incompatibility to name only four of more than three dozen) it can seem pretty bleak to be told that most of this s*** doesn't have a solution or cure. The authors believe profanity is appropriate for emphasis, so the f-word and other cusswords pepper the prose, which some like me will find amusing and others might find offensive.
But the ultimate message is that you can live a good life, be a good person, and yes, even enjoy yourself from time to time by looking life squarely in the eye and giving a good shrug to the stuff you can't fix. You can feel good about yourself no matter what s---storm is swirling around you.
Two thousand years ago, the Stoics (esp. Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius and Seneca) taught a similar message. The ideas presented here, if not first to appear on Earth, are refreshingly updated for the problems we face today. If you can't figure out why your teen-ager has suddenly stopped talking to you, the hot woman you've been dating seems to want to pick out all your clothes for you, your temporary unemployment has landed you and your husband in the living room with your mother-in-law whom you can't stand, or the guy / girl you love can't keep his / her promise to stay sober even for a day, you might want to give this a listen.
Well done, Bennetts. And thanks for the great reading, Patrick.
This was such a great listen. I respect a psychiatrist that understands the need for profanity and abhors the four letter word f@ir.
I think this book addressed almost every daily life issue. Great professional insight with comedy to soften the very solid blows.
What a great book especially if you are into the self-help book cycle but would like to get a little more in depth and see actual progress with adaptation of never ending changes resulting in new behavior.
Probably not. There are more thoughtful, creative...and tasteful experiences.
It's not disappointing. One donates the time to read a title like this without truly high expectations.
Nothing against Lawlor. He seemed to express the premise pretty well.
It is a notable effort to employ profanity and obnoxious imagery to communicate the profound concepts of divine order and human compassion. Indeed, it may be a good example of such: for inevitably someone with a baser conceptual toolkit will find it very helpful.
I'm one to enjoy flowers. They are pleasant. But this book honors the very unpleasant situation of being stuck in one (or several) of life's impossible situations. That is a rare and valuable quality. I do enjoy and recommend this book.
"Brilliant and funny"
Great book with useful advice on dealing with all kinds of situations and people, delivered with a great sense of humour which really is very heart warming, validating and perspective giving.
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