©2007 Dr. Gary Chapman; (P)2007 Oasis Audio LLC
34 year old, married +2 wonderful kids. Like fantasy and self development: moral, humility, listening, relationship, kids education etc
I listened to it a while ago and I don't remember the specific techniques I liked.I do however remember that I was fascinated by every word and I felt like I never want the book to end.It talks mainly about listening which is something that I'd like to do more and better in life and in my marriage. It shows many examples of how conflicts that at first look unresolveable are being resolved by having the couple listen to each other.I also liked that the book is not repeating the well known principals of the 5 love languages (tough I think they are mentioned) but it gives new insights from totally new perspective,overall it is a must for everyone who likes to hear more of Garry Chapman.
It gets a little churchy after a while &, he goes back to the god thing over and over. So if you're into that, kudos, you'll love it. But if you're not, don't be turned off, the advice is still legitimate. When he says, "with God's help," just hear, "with human effort."
The anecdotal stories used in the various sections. They're hokey, even corny and annoying.
Honestly, I can't recall anything that was most or least interesting. It's a fairly vanilla, straight-forward, common sense pile of ideas.
I like his easy going vibe, but the way he told some of the stories, specifically how he narrated the voices of the couples Dr. Chapman worked with, was quite irritating. Just a little too country for me.
Not really. As I mentioned earlier, it's basic information and common sense ideas. There were some good reminders. It's just not in need of a sequel.
Enjoying every listen.
Yes to refresh myself with the concepts & stories. Learning to work together so the outcome is satisifying for both parties.
Couple learning to compromise on painting the bathroom walls different colors.
You would think he is the author.
It's not about winning, it's about compromising and listening.
I thought this audiobook offered a few really helpful suggestions in how to work through conflicts in romantic relationships. However, I found them really difficult to swallow with the incredibly religious overtones in almost everything recounted in the examples. The writer seems to know everyone through a church, there is a lot of talk about God's love, praying, etc -- just a constant, unnecessary theme of religion running through the otherwise helpful insights.
I might not have minded it as much had I been warned in the audiobook's description, but since I'm not very religious myself, I found it very difficult to relate to, and thus, not really worth my money.
Clear and applicable advice. Totally worth the price of the audio book.
Practical advice and relatable.
I'm so glad I listened to this book. Just hearing the ideas presented hear brought me to tears more than once because I could see how many fights in my marriage would have turned out differently had I implemented these tools and attitudes. I would highly recommend this audiobook to anyone who can't seem to get what they want in their communication with others or who finds themselves arguing with their spouse.
I'm not religious, but I don't have a problem reading books from a religious point of view. This book was written from, about, and for ultra-religious people. I listened for about 30 minutes before I had to turn it off, after it became clear to me this was not a professional who wrote a self help book. It was a religious person acknowledging that even the most pious people have relationship woes.
It was a book on religion, not relationships.
It was fine.
If you are semi- or quasi- religious and thought this book would be helpful and you could overlook or work in spiritual thought--move on. This book is for very religious people who want a few tips on how to work in a relationship. You simply cannot 'work in' spiritual principles to a relationship strategy from this book. The 'relationship strategies' ARE religion. Gross.
That it stands alone from The Five Love Languages.
His ideas on conflict resolution sound very good.
Yes. A lot of information in a short time without being overwhelming.
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