There are plenty of normal, decent women out there. This book isn't about them. This book is intended for the men who worked steadily over the last 20-plus years, helped their wives raise the kids, attended all their plays and sporting events, mowed the lawn, took out the garbage, fixed the sink, were patient and understanding during that "time of the month", and fully expected to be married for the rest of their lives.
Then out of nowhere and for no discernable reason, the women they'd loved, honored, and cherished for the last two-plus decades couldn't stand the sight of them and would do anything, (yes, and I mean anything) to get out of the marriage. If this is what you're going through, then you need to read this book. Why? Because I have been where you are now and you're going to need to know what to expect, how to react, how to defend yourself, and how to cope with what might very well be the most difficult period of your life.
©2011 Zackary Richards (P)2013 Zackary Richards
The author is funny and makes good light of separation and divorce. But, this is not really a self-help book. There are parts that lifted my mood, but there is not really much practical advice. I still recommend it if you have a good sense of humor even while you struggle.
No matter what this seems to be the core. It may get amplified, or reduced by people and the situations their in, but this is the core string of it all.
This gave me insight and understanding, and made me understand there are things I will never understand, into why after 20 years it has to end. And it made me laugh in the process.
Sad, but oh so true... in so many ways.
Only helpful if you put the overly macho guy attitude away and simply hear strategy.
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Secondly, this book is very poorly recorded. To be fair, the narrator actually has a good voice for the work so I didn't mind that it sounded like he was sitting in a bathroom with a tape recorder. What made this book absolutely un-listenable is that after a point, you start hearing a copy machine or some other machine make a squealing noise once ever minute. Once you begin to hear this noise, its so distracting you can't force yourself to listen to the book.
As for the content... this book really paints most women as money-hungry psychos whose only goal in life is to kill you once they've robbed you of your sperm and your money. This book feels a lot like the guy is talking about himself instead of addressing things in a neutral way. I found very little insight in this and only felt it was propaganda to make you fear what a spouse might do to you.
That's if you even get past the grating copier machine noise that occurs every minute.
Less Pain Thanks:
The only thing thus far that has lessened the pain associated with the ending my 23 year marriage!
The author, because he has already gone thru almost exactly what I am going thru.
Do yourself a favor and get this book. I am serious. It is helping me a great deal.
Its the real deal on what will happen and why. I was blown away , it was as if he was writing about me to the letter.
The opening because it lets you know you are not alone.
Book might be okay for someone who is past the point of no return and needs to prepare their defense against an adversarial soon-to-be-ex. If hope remains, this book is not for you. I was looking a book that was more geared to preparing me in the event that everything went south. Prepared: emotionally, legally, and how to move forward, handle the grieving, help with the grown children, etc.
Story lacked requisite detail to understand how his case is similar or dissimilar to mine but soon into the book it became apparent that his situation was very different than mine.
Definitely a 'Must Read' if you're a guy (of ANY age) who is or has divorced. If you're still 'hoping' to reconcile or even 'unresolved' if the divorce has been filed or finalized, then give this book a try. It's like have five or six sessions with a therapist ... an excellent running-head-start on the road to recovery, healing and moving on!
This book is like talking to that close friend you never had and who walked down that painful and lonely road. No BS here - just a very real look at divorce from the man's view point.
The quality of the recording is not the best - however, the content more than makes up for it.
This is a blue collar flavored tale. Part of the time I thought he was running some sort of Colbert Report, making a character and half the time I thought he was serious. Every time he mentioned "that time of the month" I certainly gritted my teeth.
When someone suddenly can't stand the sight of you and you can't even figure out who this person is and where the person you love went, consider the possibility that they are experiencing guilt at the very sight of you. My mom knew this. She used to say "The thing about mudslinging, mud sticks best to clean skin." Great advice. Wish she had taken it for herself, right at the beginning of my parent's struggles.
Men can deal with the situations described, I'm sure of it. However the women I know are more likely to deal with the problems mentioned. An eye opening look at the savage side of love.
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