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The Narcissist Next Door Audiobook

The Narcissist Next Door: Understanding the Monster in Your Family, in Your Office, in Your Bed - in Your World

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From an award-winning senior writer at Time, an eye-opening exploration of narcissism, how to recognize it, and how to handle it.

The odds are good that you know a narcissist - probably a lot of them. The odds are also good that they are intelligent, confident, and articulate - the center of attention. They make you laugh and they make you think. The odds are also that this spell didn't last.

Narcissists are everywhere. There are millions of them in the United States alone: entertainers, politicians, business people, your neighbors. Recognizing and understanding them is crucial to your not being overtaken by them, says Jeffrey Kluger, in his provocative new book about this insidious disorder.

With insight and wit, Kluger frames the surprising new research on narcissism and explains the complex, exasperating personality disorder. He reveals how narcissism and narcissists affect our lives at work and at home, on the road, and in the halls of government; what to do when we encounter narcissism; and how to neutralize its effects before it's too late.

As a Time writer and science editor, Kluger knows how to take science's new ideas and transform them into smart, accessible insights. Highly listenable and deeply engaging, this book helps us understand narcissism and narcissists more fully.

©2014 Jeffrey Kluger (P)2014 Penguin Audio

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    Tiffany Thompson Washington D.C., USA 09-24-14
    Tiffany Thompson Washington D.C., USA 09-24-14 Member Since 2015
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    Is there anything you would change about this book?

    This book is dry. Focuses too much on public figures like celebrities and athletes and gives too few examples of how to deal with or deflect the narcissist everyone encounters. The author states in the beginning that only 2% of the population is likely a diagnosable narcissist then goes on to label every CEO, politician, celebrity, or attention grabbing athlete as a narcissist. I found myself continually thinking "well no shit" every time he would outline a person like Hitler or Steve Jobs then label them a narcissist. My intention was to learn how to deal with the narcissist everyone encounters, especially in the work environment, instead I learned all reality stars, convicted violent inmates, politicians and every successful business owner is a narcissist according to Mr. Kluger. The book is well written, but I could have rummaged through some old psychology thesis' and gotten as much information.


    Would you recommend The Narcissist Next Door to your friends? Why or why not?

    Only if someone asked me specifically for a recommendation about a book on narcissism. So yes, I recommended it to my aunt.


    Would you be willing to try another one of Jeffrey Kluger’s performances?

    Yes, the book although the attempts at humor were unsuccessful, it was very well written and organized. The author was a bad choice as the narrator. Not the right type of voice. Grated on the nerves.


    If this book were a movie would you go see it?

    I don't think there is even a remote possibility this will ever be a movie.


    Any additional comments?

    It feels like the author wrote this book as sort of a revenge piece. You learn his background with Time magazine, he outlines his character and the bosses and other journalist that have slighted him in the past and then goes on to talk extremely negatively about very public figures, most he has never met, and label them divas and raging egomaniacs. While it is true in some cases--yes we all know that LeBron James and Miley Cyrus are narcissist. I wish he had written more about what makes a narcissist that way, be it nature or nurture, does narcissism correlate with sociopathic tendencies? When addressing a narcissist what tactics can you use to take the wind out of their sails but not throw them into a state of rage? It's not hard to pinpoint narcissistic behavior, I just want to learn how to deal with it. That was not part of this book.

    6 of 6 people found this review helpful
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    Richard 09-24-14
    Richard 09-24-14 Member Since 2014
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    What would have made The Narcissist Next Door better?

    Any practical advice around how to manage a relationship with a Narcissist that you are obliged to be in.


    What was most disappointing about Jeffrey Kluger’s story?

    The author used the book as a platform to castigate celebrities, professional athletes, business leaders and other public figures. The tone of the comments was hateful. He saved his deepest disdain for Republican or conservative politicians, torturing explanations to find fault with these while excusing Democratic or liberal contemporaries. Without the benefit of direct knowledge, he offered pop-culture psychological diagnosis on these targets more befitting of the National Enquirer than a serious work on this affliction.


    How could the performance have been better?

    No issues, well read.


    Any additional comments?

    One particularly amusing section of the book was the authors tortured logic in excusing the "Baby-Boom" generation from the Narcissist label. I'd guess this originates from the fact that he is one.

    7 of 8 people found this review helpful
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    serine 01-23-16
    serine 01-23-16 Member Since 2011
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    "Read Martha Stout instead"

    Pros:
    - Kluger took an integrated global and local approach to understanding narcism. For example, ingroup/outgroup thinking in war, sports teams, personal relationships.
    - He did a great job at times of using critical thinking and writing skills when discussing twin studies, as well as some other studies.
    - The chapter on relationships was fantastic.
    - One main point from the relationship chapter was that ongoing self-centered and exploitive behavior is as damaging as many other types of recognized abuse. I have been lucky enough to have avoided this in my own life but have seen others obliterated by such behavior. It was nice to see him so clearly name it. I would like to see that more in books.
    - His perspective on how narcissist fiercely love their ingroup (don't hurt my kid. they are the most important person in the world) while having zero empathy for outgroup (narcissists don't realize other people are actually humans with feelings or they don't care. If the person is not important to the narcissist, then that person is not important to the world) was great.

    Cons:
    - Kluger ripped of the title of his book from Marth Stout's The Sociopath Next Door. Dude, get your own title.
    - He indulged in too many unsupported opinions (ie., kids these days need to play outside more.) He needs a refresher on control factors in studies and how they affect results.
    - Clearly entertainers can be narcissists but dressing provocatively doesn't seem as much a sign of narcissism as it reflects what image sells. That said, his take on many public figures was pretty entertaining.

    Even with the cons, it is without question one of the better books about narcissists I have read.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Edward 02-11-15
    Edward 02-11-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Interesting book!"

    If you have an interest in learning more about personality disorders I recommend this book especially if your interested in the dramatic disorders.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Ronald E. Newlon NEW YORK, NY, US 01-14-15
    Ronald E. Newlon NEW YORK, NY, US 01-14-15 Member Since 2016
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    "Not the book that I thought it was"
    This book wasn’t for you, but who do you think might enjoy it more?

    The book is a collection of stories about the great narcissists throughout history. Not what I wanted but I think others would like it


    Would you be willing to try another book from Jeffrey Kluger? Why or why not?

    Yes - - I would just have to make sure that I got a more research based book


    Any additional comments?

    He read the book well. My only issue with the writing is I believe he sensationalized the columbine school killings. He got into more detail with the killings than he did with other murdering narcissists - I did not like that

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    NicMach 02-25-16
    NicMach 02-25-16
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    "Great stories of insight into a widespread problem"
    What made the experience of listening to The Narcissist Next Door the most enjoyable?

    Interesting vignettes of a condition best described that way.


    What other book might you compare The Narcissist Next Door to and why?

    Mistakes Were Made (But not by Me). Consideration of the hubris born of narcissism that have frustrated great promise.


    What does Jeffrey Kluger bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    Living memorable examples of all persuasions. He is brutally frank and not PC about any politician (which are visible easily known examples) or situation of any persuasion. Thin skin listeners will not be able to accept when their ox is gored, and all oxes are gored.


    Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

    Descriptions of Lyndon Johnson which recalled my Father's distaste of the man.


    Any additional comments?

    In the pervasive plague of obsession with persona, narcissists and the chumps who are blindly devoted to them, Kluger provides insight every reader should consider thoroughly.

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    Gordon 06-05-15
    Gordon 06-05-15 Member Since 2008
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    "Interesting material and a great reading by the author"

    Great performance and great writing. I suspect the author has overreached a bit in his generalizations. But there is truly interesting research in here

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    Laureana 06-04-15
    Laureana 06-04-15
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    "Lost the thread..."

    Started out great but by the end, became more about the psychology of US presidents than narcissists, unless the author meant to presume that all presidents are narcissists.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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