A groundbreaking argument that perversions are more common than we think, from everyone’s favorite provocateur.
In his eye-opening new book, Perv, the award-winning columnist and psychologist Jesse Bering argues that we are all sexual deviants on one level or another. As Bering takes us into the lives of a woman who falls madly in love with the Eiffel Tower, a young man addicted to seductive sneezes, and a pair of deeply affectionate identical twins, among others, he challenges us to move beyond our judgments and attitudes toward "deviant" sex and consider the alternative: What would happen if we rise above our fears and revulsions and accepted our true natures?
With his signature wit and irreverent style, Bering pulls back the curtains on the history of perversions, the biological reasons behind our distaste for unusual sexual proclivities, and the latest research on desire. Armed with reason, science, and an insatiable appetite for knowledge, he humanizes deviants while asking some very provocative questions about the nature of hypocrisy, prejudice, and when sexual desire can lead to harm.
A groundbreaking look at our complex relationship with our carnal urges and the ways in which we disguise, deny, and shame the sexual deviant in all of us, Perv brings our hidden desires into the light.
©2013 Jesse Bering (P)2013 Macmillan Audio
Lover of a great memoir, far more interested in unusual stories. Prefer to read people of color, LGBT, women authors.
Probably not. It is read by the author. He is a scientist and rushes through many concepts. It is dense in some sections and light in others. I think it is probably better read than heard.
Not sure there is a comparison. It's is pretty unique.
Generally yes. There were places it felt too quick.
I found the fact that women's arousal and sexual functioning aren't connected in order to protect their internal organs fascinating. He lays out a variety of paraphelias that I'd never heard of and why we need to be more tolerant of them. He also makes a great case for defining pedophelia better so we can actually distinguish between the many different kinds of pedophiles and protect those who are most vulnerable and have much more sensible laws around the subject.
I think his summary on this topic is a must read for anyone interested and we should be incorporating this into our curriculum in schools to dispel stigma, reduce harm and help to educate folks about some of the more marginalized sexual minorities out there.
Loved this book. Love the author and his delivery is exquisite. While the subject matter can have an 'eww' factor, it is something I have wanted to see both studied and then brought out of the crawl spaces since I read the Kinsey report a hundred years ago or so. Get off your judgement plank and consider what it must be like to be one of the 'new' pervs.
Well done, Mr. Bering; and thank you.
Psychologist, nuclear researcher, runner
The author read the material in a way that added to the informational and entertainment value of the message itself. I had the feeling at the start that I just had to swallow the message whole, and lie back and enjoy the book.
There were many interesting facts and data. Often, they touched on sensitive areas that too few are willing to approach
Being better informed will help me be less instantly judgmental, I hope, and to base things on facts and actual harms or benefits
Avid audiobook addict!
I listened to this author on Dan Savage's podcast and was immediately compelled to get the book. It was extremely well-written by a very clever author who is also an excellent narrator. Very interesting, entertaining, and memorable.
This book is amazing as it pushes boundaries and provides historicity and facts around taboo subjects. Overall the takeaway for me was to be more open-minded, accepting of sexual deviancy, and encouraged me to not shame people for having non-traditional feelings toward sex. The author definitely made me want to spark up conversations on sex to diminish the taboos surrounding sex in general and furthermore deviant sex.
Although full of jargon and technical terms Jesse reads and forms the book in a way that is easily understood. A must read for anyone who is in charge of anyone else's sexual future i.e. parents!
Yes, this a good book in regards to looking at the science and the mentality of why we like what we like and why we do what we do when it comes to self satisfaction. And definitely clarifies distinctions that are misguided by new media.
It explains that the most people are are stated as "Pedophiles" are not actually "Pedophiles" But a different classification. It is a book of understanding, and explanation.
Very good listen, and very intriguing,
Speaker, Leader, innovation consultant, kilt-wearer, South African.
I like it when authors read their own work. He gets his own jokes and delivers them well.
The book reminds us there is probably something sexual about us we wouldn't want the neighbours to know; and explains why disgusting things are incorrectly seen as immoral. Very worthwhile read
Say something about yourself!
Yes. I would not want to be seen carrying the book around work.
The passion the author/narrator has for the subject matter.
There were a several, most involving scenarios that scared and/or scarred me... the twin brothers... wow.
Again, there were a several, most involving scenarios that scared and/or scarred me...
It really makes you think. If you've listened to Loveline as I have, not much will surprise you and you won't learn a whole lot, but this book will bring it all together for you.
bath time listening
the endless reminder that we are all as human as each other
he is very enthusiastic, and a little self deprecating
really easy listen and lots of great stories of humanity, well worth the time and money
PLEASE PUBLISH HIS BOOKS ON BELIEF
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