Dr. William Glasser offers a new psychology that, if practiced, could reverse our widespread inability to get along with one another, an inability that is the source of almost all unhappiness.
For progress in human relationships, he explains that we must give up the punishing, relationship-destroying external control psychology. For example, if you are in an unhappy relationship right now, he proposes that one or both of you could be using external control psychology on the other. He goes further. And suggests that misery is always related to a current unsatisfying relationship. Contrary to what you may believe, your troubles are always now, never in the past. No one can change what happened yesterday.
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The only person whose behavior we can control is our own. Go from criticizing, blaming and complaining to supporting, encouraging,listening and trusting. It makes all the difference!
I learned a lot from the book..I can see how I can apply much of what was shared to my life. I still struggle a little with the idea of how to implement it in my life with my children. In a perfect world, I can see how wonderful it would be if everyone adopted choice theory, but that is not the case. My children are still attending schools that do not offer such thinking..I still interact daily with people who are attempting to deal with me using external control. I will be a work in progress 😊
An educator and senior who listens to his books from his phone through his hearing aids.
Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom by William Glasser, M.D. is an excellent guide for building strong relationships in your marriage, with your children, in education, and in business. Using basic principles fleshed out by detailed case studies, Glasser leads the reader to effective strategies in these and other situations where building relationships will resolve problems. Glasser contrasts external coercion based with choice based approaches to building and maintaining relationships. He suggests that humans have five inherited needs which vary genetically in their importance to us. These varying needs in those with whom we have or need to have relationships are at the heart of conflict. Dr. Glasser's principles are easily understood, but are counter intutive to the external coercive models of relating to which we are accustomed. I intend to add this book to my reread regularly list. I highly recommend this book to anyone who struggles to relate to those in his or her life.
Tremendously interesting and enlightening. Much about USA though which I couldn't relate to as I'm Irish.
I couldn't recommend this book highly enough in terms of enlightenment.
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