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Those Who Leave and Those Who Stay Audiobook

Those Who Leave and Those Who Stay: The Neapolitan Novels, Book 3

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Publisher's Summary

The incredible story continues in book 3 of the critically acclaimed Neapolitan novels!

In this third Neapolitan novel, Elena and Lila, the two girls whom were first introduced in My Brilliant Friend, have become women. Lila married at sixteen and has a young son; she has left her husband and the comforts her marriage brought and now works as a common laborer. Elena has left the neighborhood, earned her college degree, and published a successful novel, all of which has opened the doors to a world of learned interlocutors and richly furnished salons. Both women are pushing against the walls of a prison that would have seen them living a life of misery, ignorance, and submission. They are afloat on the great sea of opportunities that opened up during the 1970s. Yet they are still very much bound to each other by a strong, unbreakable bond.

©2015 Elena Ferrante (P)2015 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

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    RI in Canada 04-28-16
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    "Hooked on the series"

    The story of Elena and Lila is addictive. This volume focuses more on Elena and her marriage, and her struggle to find a voice as a woman apart from men -- something she resolutely fails to do despite her emerging feminist longings. Lila's life in the violent world of working-class Naples provides a physical counterpoint to the emotional resistance in the world of Elena. Captivating. Don't start listening unless you have the hours to devote to it.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Paula 11-10-15
    Paula 11-10-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Decent novel ruined by narration"
    What could have made this a 4 or 5-star listening experience for you?

    All my friends who read the books have devoured them. But I found that listening to Huber's dispassionate narration ruined much of the atmosphere. Her voice is overly refined and lacks nuance--- these are passionate hardscrabble Neapolitans, telling a story of friendship, political turmoil, betrayal-- and the narrator sounds as if she could be reading Peter Rabbit.


    How would you have changed the story to make it more enjoyable?

    Change the narrator


    What didn’t you like about Hillary Huber’s performance?

    See above. She is too cultured, too even a voice for the turmoil of the novel.


    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    RDP 11-02-15
    RDP 11-02-15
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    "Can't relate"

    The main character of this novel and narrator has lost my interest. She whines and obsesses, and her relation with her friends and family has gotten more inexplicable. I hope the tetralogy recovers in the fourth novel the candor, compassion, and narrative spark it had in volume one, which I found masterful.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    CHET YARBROUGH LAS VEGAS, NEVADA, United States 07-30-15
    CHET YARBROUGH LAS VEGAS, NEVADA, United States 07-30-15 Member Since 2015

    Faced with mindless duty, when an audio book player slips into a rear pocket and mini buds pop into ears, old is made new again.

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    "DOING AND THINKING"

    “Those Who Leave and Those Who Stay” reflects on the difference between doing and thinking. “Those Who Leave and Those Who Stay” is the last book of a trilogy by an author, known by the pseudonym of Elena Ferrante. It is a book about Italy in the 1960s and 70s. As in the United States, this is a time of social upheaval in Italy. Student revolution and class warfare headline Italian media. In Italy, neo-fascists and communist parties compete for Parliamentary seats at opposite ends of the political spectrum. A neo-fascist’ party presses to capitalize on economic prosperity of the 50s while communist sympathizers rail against economic disparity between owners and workers.

    The author reflects on how formal and street-wise education impacts social change. The protagonist Elena Greco is a lower class Italian that rises to fame and fortune by being the first in her family to graduate from college. She is a writer. She is a thinker. In Ferrante’s story, Greco’s first book is published to wide acclaim for its depiction of a girl growing into a woman. Greco is struggling to find her way through middle life by writing a second book. She has a tumultuous relationship with her mother who secretly admires her daughter’s accomplishment and ability. She becomes engaged, marries a rising college professor, and bares two children. However, she grows to resent her husband’s intellectual beliefs and dominating self-interest.

    The author’s counter-culture character, Lila. comes from the same neighborhood as Elena but, in contrast to Elena, escapes poverty by marrying a relatively successful merchant, whom she later divorces. The divorce can be explained in different ways and for different reasons but the immediate consequence is Lila’s return to poverty. Lila did not pursue a formal education but is educated by the street. She is a doer. She is tough, insightful, and independent. She has two children, a daughter who stays with her former husband, and another, a boy, that she is pregnant with when she divorces. She, like Elena, has a tumultuous relationship with her mother. The relationship appears irreconcilable because her mother believes her a whore who left a husband that gave her security and extended family respectability. To survive, Lila breaks with her extended family, goes to work in a sausage factory, and lives with a male friend to reduce living expenses. Partly out of necessity, Lila leaves her boy with neighbors when working. Lila resents the un-shared single-woman’ burden of motherhood.

    Ferrante shows life is an exercise in doing and thinking. The struggle is in balancing those two ways of dealing with the world; whether a man or a woman.

    5 of 6 people found this review helpful
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    Lori Michele Kelley 12-17-15 Member Since 2015

    As long as I have my Audible, I'm content.

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    "It's finally picking up a bit in book 3"

    This is the 3rd in the 4 book series and so far, this is my favorite one (though I'm still not as enamored as most of the reviewers here). It gives more insight into Lila and why everyone thinks she's so fabulous. It also gives a glimpse into the feminist movement in the 70s in Italy- the thoughts and actions of women breaking ground for the future freedoms of female sexuality, and men's reactions having to come to terms with strong women. We still find Elena insecure and envious and Lila is still mean, so I wonder how they stayed friends throughout the years. I guess because it takes place before the "get rid of the toxic people in your life" mantra. Again, Ferrante has a way of writing that gives the characters authenticity and the scenes a reality and feel I don't get from most books. Not that it's over the top description; that's not it at all. But it's one of those books that imprints itself somehow, even though, or perhaps because the stories of these lives hit very close to home. As for the narrator, I don't know that I'll ever be able to listen to this narrator again. It's too slow and lacking feeling, though it is starting to seem to fit the character of the books. I listen on 1.5 so as not to go crazy or fall into a stupor.

    4 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    A. M. Hopkins Eureka Springs, AR USA 04-10-16
    A. M. Hopkins Eureka Springs, AR USA 04-10-16 Member Since 2015
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    "Strangely addictive, BUT ..."

    While a few of the main characters are explored in depth, the vast majority of the series is spent in their heads. Lots of angst, little momentum. Too much telling, not enough showing. The stories provide a very up-close and personal view of two damaged women growing up without seeming to learn much or grow from their constant pain. I am very confused about why they are critically acclaimed. Seems like lazy storytelling to me.

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    lucia 08-06-16
    lucia 08-06-16 Member Since 2011
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    "Listen to the whole series."
    Would you listen to Those Who Leave and Those Who Stay again? Why?

    Yes. I have already. You'll know why when you hear it.


    What other book might you compare Those Who Leave and Those Who Stay to and why?

    The only comparisons are the other books in this series by Elena Ferrante


    What about Hillary Huber’s performance did you like?

    Deep.


    If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

    "Based on the stunning series of bestsellers"


    Any additional comments?

    You will be moved by the depth psychology, emotional insights and revelation of the truths locked in human relationships. Impossible to put down.

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    Inji 07-12-16
    Inji 07-12-16 Member Since 2016
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    "What's all the fuss"

    I don't think I will go through another long book of Ferrante anytime soon.
    I couldn't even finish this one.

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    janet 07-02-16
    janet 07-02-16 Member Since 2014
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    "Excellent plot insightful"

    This third book in the series had an excellent plot and provided an interesting insight into the period and the social upheaval of the 60s and 70s. The reader was very good but I found the American accent very off putting.

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    Deborah 05-24-16
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    "Better all the time"

    The first book was a challenge but the series has just continued to build in strength,creativity and enjoyment. For those just starting stick with it. The rewards are enormous.

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    "An Amazing Quartet"


    I love these books. I came to them reluctantly, hating to follow the crowd, but I would, and frequently do, wholeheartedly recommend them to friends. The writing is wonderful without being self-conscious.

    These are truly wonderful books. Weeks after reading them I am still in that Neapolitan neighbourhood, surrounded by squalor and violence to witness the palpable yearning of two little girls whose ambitions could not be contained within its boundaries.


    2 of 2 people found this review helpful

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