She Comes First

The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

By: Ian Kerner

Narrated by: Ian Kerner

Length: 4 hrs and 35 mins

Publisher's summary

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.

Find out what else is on Ian Kerner's mind in this interview with the author.

©2004 Ian Kerner (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Critic reviews

"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)

Great listen. Very educational, descriptive, and entertaining.

I wasn't sure how much an comprehensive an audio book would be on this topic, but Ian is very descriptive in his dictation and the enthusiasm and tone he uses in his instruction definitely reinforced the joy of cunnilingus and left me looking forward to my next tasty meal.

Bit hard to follow

Learning how to keep your woman happy in bed os something I I firmly believe in and this book is a great starting point when it comes to foreplay and oral. I did wish it went into penetrative sex than just oral. The language could be a bit flowery at the point where I rolled my eyes at some of the more ridiculous lines. Its hard for me to imagine some of the visuals without actually seeing them or having a reference. The book also repeats a lot of the same points and is kinda confusing to follow at times. Overall I think this is a book that might need more than one listen to fully understand what it wants you to do.

A nuts & bolts detail explanation

Finally a book that actually gives you hands on (tongue) on details of how to go about pleasing your lady. I actually believe everybody is different and to 'rock your boat' can be different for everybody but this book is so detailed, if you don't pick up some idea, then you shouldn't be down there. Learn, explore and enjoy.

very thorough

lots of good techniques and tips to take your love life to the next level.

Needs a diagram

Great book. I wish it had supplemental materials including a diagram of the vaginal area with labeled parts, and perhaps a series of videos explaining the basis routines in an integrated audiovisual way.

All men hould read (or listen to) this book!

I thought I knew the female body and how to arouse a woman fairly well before listening to this.

I was wrong.

This has changed how I think of women and of making love forever.

A must read for all men!!!

notice to all who listen: there's going to be a few out and outright wow I didn't know that moments and there's going to be a few yeah I knew that moments, however ignore the bad reviews this book is very informative and anyone who says I didn't get anything from this regard as a dolt. I have had a number of partners and thought myself very well versed in the art of making a woman orgasm. needless to say I learned a lot! I have read a few reviews that specifically stated that the book was so bad that he couldn't find anyone to read it other than the author himself after the first chapter I highly doubt the guy wanted anyone to read it other than himself. the pure and unabridled honesty of the beginning of this book tells me that this guy knows his stuff. as like most men I always believed that intercourse was the key to getting a woman off after trying the techniques in this book I most certainly believe otherwise. if you have an education and it tells you that this book is foolishness you might want to get another education because everything he says is true do not believe the naysayers!

good book

was insteresting to hear how important this is for my partner to get this accurately right

Perfectly informational

The substance of the book is excellent. It values women and sex in a positive, possibly idealistic way, but why aim for second place? It is informative and instructional, which is why a person would read a book like this. My one negative complaint is a personal preference: there were a large number of puns and quotes that added nothing substantive.

Stimulating!

Very interesting! Can't wait to try out all my new info on my mistress! ;)