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Scary Close Audiobook

Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy

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Publisher's Summary

After decades of failed relationships and painful drama, Donald Miller decided he'd had enough. Impressing people wasn't helping him connect with anyone. He'd built a life of public isolation, yet he dreamed of meaningful relationships. So at forty years old, he made a scary decision: to be himself no matter what it cost.

From the author of Blue Like Jazz comes a book about the risk involved in choosing to impress fewer people and connect with more, about the freedom that comes when we stop acting and start loving. It is a story about knocking down old walls to create a healthy mind, a strong family, and a satisfying career. And it all feels like a conversation with the best kind of friend: smart, funny, true, important. Scary Close is Donald Miller at his best.

©2015 Thomas Nelson Publishers (P)2015 Thomas Nelson Publishers

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    Tex Warren Houston, Texas USA 03-25-15
    Tex Warren Houston, Texas USA 03-25-15 Member Since 2015

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    "Outstanding book frustrating recording"
    What made the experience of listening to Scary Close the most enjoyable?

    honesty


    Any additional comments?

    The book is outstanding but the producer(?) cut all the pauses and silent space out of the recording. Clearly, the narrator didn't do this in his performance, so I can't imagine why someone would do this on purpose? Please! Please! Please rerecord this book or remaster it from the original narration.

    7 of 7 people found this review helpful
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    drewrob19 03-15-15
    drewrob19 03-15-15
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    Don't read (or listen) often, but I was hooked. This one had me. Addresses so many key areas of life and made me think of many people who could also benefit from the book. Scary Close is scary good.

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    Mel 02-23-15
    Mel 02-23-15 Member Since 2014
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    "Editing was poor"

    The content was great, the narrator was good, but it's the editing that needs work. There are no pauses between chapters or profound thoughts! Give the listener a chance to soak in truths. There are so many in this book.

    6 of 7 people found this review helpful
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    Natalie Dallas, TX 08-05-15
    Natalie Dallas, TX 08-05-15 Member Since 2014
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    "Good but don miller should have narrated"

    It was a slow start but worth finishing. A book like this I probably would have preferred to read a physical copy. It requires some reflection that is hard to accomplish with an audio version.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Stephen 06-24-15
    Stephen 06-24-15 Member Since 2014
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    "Great Book, Iffy Editing"

    The book was fantastic, but the editing of the audio itself was a little iffy. Sometimes he would finish a very profound sentence and thenChapter2We were on the dock by the river...the lack of spaces and pauses was a little annoying, but not enough to ruin it for me. Still worth a listen!

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    drgardner Leesburg, VA, United States 05-13-15
    drgardner Leesburg, VA, United States 05-13-15 Member Since 2013
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    "Folksy, Religious Memoir"

    It's unfortunate I didn't notice this is categorized as a personal memoir as I could have skipped it and saved myself the time and money. The description suggests the book will deliver guidance on improving intimacy. If you're Christian and in reasonably good mental health you'll probably find the string of anecdotes heart-warming, and you can likely tease out some guidance in the author's experiences that may be applicable to your life. Otherwise, not so much -- there's little in the stereotypical stories that's relevant. Probably fine for most, but personally disappointing. (And, as others have mentioned, the editing work is annoying. No breaks, and at least a few repeated sections.)

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Michelle Santoro 09-21-16 Member Since 2015
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    "excellent book"

    this book was simple but to the book. I will re listen to it. excellent

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    Ken Staffey Bridgeport, CT United States 09-06-16
    Ken Staffey Bridgeport, CT United States 09-06-16 Member Since 2011

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    "Definitely the worst audio book I've listened to.."
    What disappointed you about Scary Close?

    I thought that this was a book on learning how to achieve intimacy, instead I got hours of name-dropping and bragging. After the twentieth time, I didn't need to be reminded that Donald Miller was a best selling author. I had never heard of the guy, but all of his girlfriend's friends had read his books, of course. Instead of tips on being more intimate, you get a lot of corny lines. Donald doesn't want Betsy to like some houses, so he lies and says there were murders or some nonsense. He worries about having children and whether they would tie him and his wife to the coffee table, but sees his friends' kids don't steal the silver ware. I think this is all said to be humorous, but it all falls flat, very flat.

    Bizarrely, we are told of Donald's friend who had an affair who then confesses to his wife and children. Some aren't old enough yet, so he tells each of them as they get to the 'right' age to hear of their father's transgressions for whatever reason. When it comes time to tell the daughter, she flips and says if he cheated, he must have abused her, too, and runs away to her brother's house. After much weeping in the rain, a rainbow appears and all is well with the world. All of this is to say that this gives the reader no help whatsoever in finding the 'true intimacy' touted by the book's title.


    Would you ever listen to anything by Donald Miller and Bob Goff again?

    No


    What didn’t you like about Webb Wilder’s performance?

    The narration did not help improve anything.


    Any additional comments?

    Save your money, please.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    Grace Peddler 08-30-16 Member Since 2013
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    "Men: Read this book"

    This was an excellent book on intimacy written in a way that men can grab onto. I appreciate the Miller doesn't offer "seven steps" or "three principles" but rather, he tells a story.

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    EmmaLeeann 07-31-16
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    "I got a lot out of it, and yet . . ."
    Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?

    There is so much good to be gleaned from this book. Basically, Donald Miller knows his stuff. I just wasn't entirely on board with the deification of his new wife, and the utilization of her presumed perfection as the benchmark for all he learned. She sounds like an amazing woman, and I kind of want to be her best friend, but I got sick of hearing him gush about her at a certain point. The narrator didn't do the book any favors. His voice takes on a folksy, down-home affect. This affect didn't seem to fit a personal tale of a single man in his 40's, who, after focusing on career, and many failed relationships; finally learned how to give and receive love. It sounded like it was being narrated by cartoon longhorn bull, or cowboy on the range.


    What did you like best about this story?

    So much great content, many important lessons learned.


    Who would you have cast as narrator instead of Webb Wilder?

    Donald Miller should narrate his own books.


    Was Scary Close worth the listening time?

    Yes


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  • Sara
    2/28/15
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    "Great book!"

    Great book. I didn't feel I related to the first half of the story as much (although I enjoyed it for the the author's insights and gift for storytelling), but I really feel that I learned some valuable nuggets from the second half that I can apply to my own relationships. The author writes so candidly-- full of great insights. Enjoyed the narrator, too.

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  • C
    2/14/15
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    "Very Good, thoroughly enjoyed it."

    Hit home on quite a few issues for me! Still single at 42 and I'm aware of my need to be more open and vulnerable with people. He accurately picks on many issues preventing people from intimacy. An enjoyable read.

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