National Book Critics Circle Award, Nonfiction, 2013
From the National Book Award-winning author of the "brave...deeply humane...open-minded, critically informed, and poetic" (The New York Times) The Noonday Demon, comes a game-changer of a book about the impact of extreme personal and cultural difference between parents and children.
A brilliant and utterly original thinker, Andrew Solomon's journey began from his experience of being the gay child of straight parents. He wondered how other families accommodate children who have a variety of differences: families of people who are deaf, who are dwarfs, who have Down syndrome, who have autism, who have schizophrenia, who have multiple severe disabilities, who are prodigies, who commit crimes, who are transgender. Bookended with Solomon's experiences as a son, and then later as a father, this book explores the old adage that says the apple doesn't fall far from the tree; instead some apples fall a couple of orchards away, some on the other side of the world.
In 12 sharply observed and moving chapters, Solomon describes individuals who have been heartbreaking victims of intense prejudice, but also stories of parents who have embraced their childrens' differences and tried to change the world's understanding of their conditions. Solomon's humanity, eloquence, and compassion give a voice to those people who are never heard. A riveting, powerful take on a major social issue, Far from the Tree offers far-reaching conclusions about new families, academia, and the way our culture addresses issues of illness and identity.
©2012 Andrew Solomon (P)2012 Simon & Schuster, Inc
"In Far from the Tree, Andrew Solomon reminds us that nothing is more powerful in a child's development than the love of a parent. This remarkable new book introduces us to mothers and fathers across America - many in circumstances the rest of us can hardly imagine - who are making their children feel special, no matter what challenges come their way." (President Bill Clinton)
"This is one of the most extraordinary books I have read in recent times - brave, compassionate and astonishingly humane. Solomon approaches one of the oldest questions - how much are we defined by nature versus nurture? - and crafts from it a gripping narrative. Through his stories, told with such masterful delicacy and lucidity, we learn how different we all are, and how achingly similar. I could not put this book down." (Siddhartha Mukherjee, Pulitzer Prize-winning author of The Emperor of All Maladies)
"An informative and moving book that raises profound issues regarding the nature of love, the value of human life, and the future of humanity." (Kirkus)
The whole tone of the book is whiny and self indulgent. Feel like the author wanted to write an autobiography and just lumped other topics to reach a wider audience.
No just from this author
A different narrator couldn't have saved this awfulness.
I abandoned this after the underlying arrogant assumption that being gay somehow made him an empathetic authority on everything else - race, disability, dwarfism - finally got on my nerves.
This is the best audiobook I have ever listened to.
His voice is incredibly easy to listen to for 40 hours!
Yes! I couldn't put it down, so to speak.
I now know what it means what it means when someone says that something is like "music to my ears". The author's language, storytelling, and insights fed my mind in ways very similar to a beautiful song. My mind and my heart swirled into one as I listened to many of his brilliantly constructed sentences. It's not just a well-researched book on humanity, family, adversity, and courage. It is also an artistic masterpiece that touched my emotions and intellect. Seriously good audiobook.
Really enjoyed this. Solomon interweaves individuals personal stories within the context of the historical and social issues of many different conditions that separate a child's identity from their parents. Very thought provoking and moving at the same time without being preachy. You can't read this without coming away from it a changed person.
If every person in America read this book thoughtfully, we would see far reaching positive repercussions. Solomon delves into hundreds of lives and describes how they manage the lot they were given. He knew each family personally for years as he compiled the book. It is a long book, but the quickest way to appreciate the human experience, central to which is parenting.
I bought this book immediately after watching a TED talk the Author did. If you see the talk, it is easy to gauge the tone of the book and Andrew Solomon's exhaustive research and empathy for the people it is about.
This is not an easy read, children suffering incurable mental and physical illnesses and the exhaustive work of there parents sometimes with no hope of any light at the end of the tunnel is what your in for. Be warned
I was interested in this book, because my 2year old son was born with TAPVR, and was in need of immediate emergency by-pass surgery at birth, to the complete surprise of my wife and I. He is a very happy and healthy boy now and will have a complete and full life the same as any healthy child.
Many of the parents at the hospital we go to for his check ups have children that are no where near as lucky. It is with the realization that these are normal people whom have had a tremendous burden and responsibility placed on them and are doing the best they can with love and strength, There greatest worry is whom will help care for my child when I die?
I would not recommend this book to anyone who is pregnant, it will fill you with unneeded worry about the healthy birth of your child, do not buy this book.
Otherwise it is a great book (indeed it could of been many books) Andrew Solomon is a fantastic writer and thankfully he narrates the book himself, a man of amazing empathy, taking on a subject that society would rather did not exist.
Likes: Cozy mysteries (cats a plus), personal memoirs,not too dark fantasy, books about the brain. Dislikes: Torture, animal cruelty.
Unlike some other reviewers I really like Andrew Solomon as a narrator for his own book. Usually I don't like authors as narrators but it really felt more that he was relating personally. I think a book this long without a good narrator would have been unbearable. I also don't think I could have made it through this in print form, and I am glad I did make it through.
As a parent of a special needs child myself, I was really interested in the personal stories of the families, particularly those facing issues I considered more challenging than mine. The stories in the chapters about schizophrenia and MSD I thought were particularly good. Though autism is a topic near and dear to me, that wasn't my favorite chapter. I didn't dislike it I just had stronger feelings on that subject and therefore it was easier to find things I disagreed with him on about it. However, with all the media attention that falls on high function autistics, and with how it is easier to get information from such people, I was glad to see Solomon provide examples of families facing the more severe forms. I saw reviewers object to repetition in the stories, but I did not object. I felt it helped drive home the point of the relentlessness of some people's issues. I felt less connected to some of the other chapters. I was not entirely convinced, despite Solomon's persuasive arguments, that all these chapters formed a cohesive whole. I found the chapter on musical prodigies particularly out of sync with the rest of the book and it held my interest the least. A lot of what went on there was more about abusive parent behavior than about a child's identity. The chapter on children of rape also felt out of sync and did not feel as inspiring to me as many of the others. It was certainly tragic and sad, but also had a lot of child abuse in it. I felt the strongest parts related to the traditional disabilities. However, I also found the chapter on Transgender people to be very informative and it did highlight a prejudice I wasn't even aware I had and helped me get passed that.
I did cry at several points over moving stories.
All in all, I would and did recommend it, particularly for people who are inspired by people facing challenges.
author of books for teens and children
I learned a lot about disabled children and their parents. Much of it was very heartwarming. The book presented wonderful life lessons in love, acceptance, and struggling against the odds.
However, it could have been a stronger book it if had been edited down. Many of the examples were repetitive (for instance, showing many different families similarly affected by schizophrenia), and there were entire chapters that didn't seem to fit within the topic of the book (for instance, children conceived from rape). It was as if the author felt compelled to use every bit of research he'd done, and no one at the publishing house stopped him.
Also, sometimes the author didn't allow much room for alternate viewpoints.For instance, the idea that it is beneficial for children to change their genders if they desire, no matter their age, was accepted with little argument.
That said, the book was emotionally affecting and I know that much of what I learned about people in difficult circumstances will stay with me a long time.
An unforgettable book.
As the parent of a severely disabled child, I knew I would identify with some of the chapters. What surprised me was the commonality between many of the parents of these diverse offspring. The author's commitment to these people over many years is astonishing, and I'll always be thankful for it.
Newly retired, I am a reading fiend! I like many types of books, both fiction and non-fiction, with the exception of romance and fantasy
First let me say, this is a very worthy read packed full of new information for me. I am rating it with 4 stars although I almost stopped reading in Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3. I have decided, after much mulling over and much thought, that the positives largely over weigh the negatives. It is a book I would recommend if the subject matter interests to you.
I was glued to my mp3 player for three days, listening for hours at a time. I never got bored and felt I learned a great deal about the various child disabilities/problems that the author presented, some of which include deafness, autism, Down syndrome, transgender issues, prodigies (musical only), mental illness (schizophrenia) and homicidal/criminal behavior. I like the way each issue was described in detail, case histories were presented, and the related controversial and collateral issues were described.
In addition, this book helped me to explore and address my own biases and prejudices toward certain issues that were featured.
At the start of this book, I was taken aback by the author's narration, to such an extent that I wondered if I would be able to keep reading the book. The subject matter greatly interested me and I did not want to quit. What I found so distressing about the narration was the monotone with which it was read. The speech sounded terribly affected, and I imagined the author as a British "wannabe." Because he attended Cambridge University, he had to get rid of his New York accent and start talking like a Brit? His pronunciations, along with his voice, made me cringe repeatedly. It was really distracting me from the subject matter and I wondered whether I might purchase the book for my Kindle, in order to read the remainder of the book. Somewhere in Part 4 or so, I somehow got the the point where I could ignore the annoying speech patterns and pronunciations (or he may have gotten tired and let go of some of the affectations). From that point on, I knew I would finish the audiobook.
Other off-putting things occurred in the first chapter, where he discussed his homosexuality and I worried it would be the entire focus of the book, and in the last chapter, where he discusses his choice to have children. I couldn't help but chuckle when he described looking for the egg with the most perfect genes for his own child, and how he considered that if the newborn was defective, he could put it into care. Maybe I am being too hard on him but he did just write a 40 hour tome on exceptional, non-average children! I am sure many of us would have gone looking for perfect genes and may have had the same thoughts when faced with the possibility of having a disabled child.
Additionally, I wonder whether homosexuality can be put in the same category along with what I consider more serious "differences" such as deafness, mental illness, autism, transgender issues, and children who have criminal behaviors. Perhaps this is my own bias showing through.
Nevertheless, I did enjoy the book and it gave me much to think about. I learned a great deal and would recommend this particularly to parents of exceptional children or anyone who may want to explore the subject matter. Listen to the sample first to decide if you want it on audio or paper/Kindle.
Maybe, if I needed to learn more about a particular group of people.
Very deep book and it was not one to be listened to in one sitting--especially considering it is over a thousand pages long.
One can learn much from all of Solomon's research that he did in this book interviewing so many families.
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