The secret behind France's astonishingly well-behaved children is here.
When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby in Paris, she doesn't aspire to become a "French parent". French parenting isn't a known thing, like French fashion or French cheese. Even French parents themselves insist they aren't doing anything special.
Yet the French children Druckerman knows sleep through the night at two or three months old while those of her American friends take a year or more. French kids eat well-rounded meals that are more likely to include braised leeks than chicken nuggets. And while her American friends spend their visits resolving spats between their kids, her French friends sip coffee while the kids play.
Motherhood itself is a whole different experience in France. There's no role model, as there is in America, for the harried new mom with no life of her own. French mothers assume that even good parents aren't at the constant service of their children and that there's no need to feel guilty about this. They have an easy, calm authority with their kids that Druckerman can only envy.
Of course, French parenting wouldn't be worth talking about if it produced robotic, joyless children. In fact, French kids are just as boisterous, curious, and creative as Americans. They're just far better behaved and more in command of themselves. While some American toddlers are getting Mandarin tutors and preliteracy training, French kids are - by design - toddling around and discovering the world at their own pace.
With a notebook stashed in her diaper bag, Druckerman, a former reporter for The Wall Street Journal, sets out to learn the secrets to raising a society of good little sleepers, gourmet eaters, and reasonably relaxed parents. She discovers that French parents are extremely strict about some things and strikingly permissive about others. And she realizes that to be a different kind of parent, you don't just need a different parenting philosophy. You need a very different view of what a child actually is.
While finding her own firm non, Druckerman discovers that children - including her own - are capable of feats she'd never imagined.
©2012 Pamela Druckerman (P)2012 Random House
I loved this book and found so much practical knowledge within it's pages! So many parents these days are giving into their kids and allowing them to behave badly and become selfish without any consequences! Please read this book...it will change your perspective!
I got hooked on audiobooks when I used to work in a public library. I like that they are much more immersive than physical books or ebooks.
Enjoyable, entertaining & thought-provoking.
Mix of research & anecdotes.
Better French pronunciation than me.
Her description of narrated play in an American playground was one of the moments when I thought "I do this. Why do I do it? For me? To prove I am an attentive mother? Or for her language growth & physical confidence?"
As an expat (in Bangkok) it made me think about parenting differences in different cultures. I would be interested in reading more books like this.
Why three words audible? One word, I can do. Two words is easy. Three is impossible for me.
Other sleeping books or books about raising your kids in other countries.
Good french and english.
I think this is the best book for how to make sure you baby sleeps through the night. This book talks about the "pause", which I think is smart, normal, and maybe obvious. Other sleeping baby books have crazy regiments that can be unhealthy for the baby. My son is 2 months old and sleeps close to 5 hours every night now. Then he wakes up and eats and sleeps for another 3 to 4 hours. I think in another month he will be sleeping a full 8.
Interesting with a humoristic twist, while giving a lot to think about. However, towards the end tends to repeat itself.
All in all, a good listen
Artist, Baker, Intropersonal skills expert, Mom.
Yes, I've told every pregnant friend I have. Be humble enough to question your parenting, willing to improve and grow. So why not learn from other cultures.
French parenting and food. Oh and their take on pregnancy! Hmm most everything.
I thought this book was easy to listen to and intriguing to get another cultures perspective. I was challenged by the idea of kids eating everything and no kid type foods. Also, by the way the french children sleep all night early on and stay on schedules. Though i think some of the ideas may not work with every child I think the heart of the book is that french parents expect more of their children and learn their children's rhythms which i think is important. Overall I liked the book and thought there were some really great things to try.
the story telling was nice and very attractive and not boring at all. but actually not all advises about kids are doable as not all kids are the same, and we can't apply it due to the difference between all countries and France ! :) and there is a culture difference too, but honesty speaking, there are so valuable information in the book that we can take the benefit of it
the french woman :)
no, it was the first time
yes, but it was too long to finish in one sitting, as I'm a working mother, it makes me feel that being a working mother is a good them, and reduce feeling guilty way more. and made me feel good about myself, made me that I have to focus on myself in order to be a good mother, and I shouldn't let my kid control my universe, and I should make my universe as I wanted to be. good tips about Adult time :)
I was listening to the book while driving to my work, or on my way back, or when I go to make padi/mani :) great book, I really recommend it
absolutely. most of it common sense, but it's nice to just hear it in book form.
it's personal. she gives lots of good examples.
the french. i would not have known how to pronounce "cresh"
i will end up listening to it again.
Great plot, great reader, new framework on an old situation and so rational I'd like to start all over- listening to the book and raising my kids.
I'm not a mother or mother to be but I'm interested in how people learn and thought this could be interesting to check out.
I didn't want to stop listening!
I feel like this would be insanely helpful for people with children.
This isn't an American bashing book which is so nice because usually its some kind of 'so and so is better and this is why.' This book isn't like that. It's just a comparison of various aspects of childcare and learning skills of Americans and the French.
This is also a great book for just looking at various cultures and what they view as important.
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