In this Patreon Only episode: I give advice (and information backed by neuroscience and trauma informed experts) to a Patreon subscriber who wrote a question in the chat community. The themes in this question are so relatable to us ADHD/AuDHD humans like; feeling overwhelmed when we finally have time to ourselves, freezing when it’s time to make a decision, struggling to know what we actually want in the short-term and long-term; feeling ashamed about all of that, and having trouble asking for help.

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SOURCES USED:

• Dr. Russell Barkley - ADHD researcher and author
• Pete Walker - CPTSD expert/psychologist
• Dr. Sharon Saline
• Leanne Maskell – ADHD coach and author
• Dr. William Dodson – Psychiatrist and ADHD expert
• Psychology Today: “Why Some People With ADHD Refuse To Ask For Help”
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In this episode, I am talking about an article in Psychology Today called Why Autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD Students Are Stressed at School that shines a light on a new study that shows that schools place double emotional burdens on neurodivergent students. I talk about how so many of us were overlooked for diagnosis as kids and how our emotional needs weren’t being met and how we carried that emotional neglect from the world into adulthood. This show exists because of my Patreon members — and I’m pushing hard to reach my first milestone: 750 subscribers by the end of the year. For $12/month (with a 7-day free trial), you’ll get the video version, bonus episodes, and the satisfaction of knowing you’re helping me keep creating. Click here to join.

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Sources:

• Why Autistic, ADHD and AuDHD Students Are Stressed at School, Psychology Today

Autistic & AuDHD Humans Do Not "Understand" Hierarchy

This month's Out From Behind The Paywall Episode is a Little Pod bonus episode that until today was on Patreon only. I'm talking about the AuDHD and Autistic tendency to not be motivated by social climbing and not wanting to cooperate with workplace hierarchies. I know what it’s like to feel alone with your brain. That’s why I make this show—and most of the deep-dive, honest stuff lives on Patreon. This episode is just a taste. If it helped you feel seen, come hang out with us. I'm giving listeners 50% off of their first month right now! You get bonus episodes, videos, and access to a private chat community where we all talk about our challenges being neurodivergent. Click this link https://www.patreon.com/c/ALOTADHDPOD to pay just $6 right now and use CODE C1782