If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “How did I get back to this again?” — this episode is for you. That question means you’ve just gone through the cycle of gaslighting — and you may not even realize it.

In this episode, we break down what gaslighting in an alcoholic marriage really looks like, why it’s so powerful, and how it keeps you trapped in a cycle of confusion, guilt, and self-doubt. You’ll learn how to recognize the cycle, accept what’s happening, and take your first steps toward breaking free through truth and faith.

We’ll cover: ✅ What gaslighting is and how it works in addicted or alcoholic relationships ✅ Why gaslighting leaves you feeling crazy, confused, and stuck in repetitive arguments ✅ The spiritual, emotional, and psychological impact of gaslighting on Christian wives ✅ How to recognize when you’re back in the cycle ✅ The secret to freedom: awareness, acceptance, and faith-led action

When you finally see the cycle for what it is, you can stop spinning in it. You can protect your peace, rebuild your confidence, and walk in the clarity that comes from God’s truth — not the lies of addiction.

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When your husband is struggling with alcohol use, but life still looks mostly normal… it can be incredibly confusing.

He may be:

Holding down a good job

Active in church or community

Present with the kids at times Charming and “fine” around family and friends

And when you express concern?

He says you’re overreacting.

Or that things aren’t that bad.

Or he can stop anytime.

🎯 This is the world of high-functioning alcoholism — where dysfunction hides behind a polished exterior.

You begin to wonder:

Is he really an alcoholic?

Why does his drinking affect me so much?

Am I the problem?

Is this normal for a marriage?

How do I know if his drinking has crossed a line?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

✅ How alcohol reshapes your husband’s brain around compulsion and denial

✅ Why gaslighting and blame-shifting increase over time

✅ How family members slip into codependency and survival roles

✅ Why emotional safety declines even before a crisis hits

✅ Five clarity questions to help you see addiction for what it truly is

Even in seasons where he is “high functioning,” alcohol always creates:

Spiritual disconnection

Emotional unpredictability

Increased anxiety for the whole family

Loss of trust, safety, and intimacy Subtle — but escalating — abuse patterns

You do not need rock-bottom to validate your pain. If alcohol is affecting your peace, your marriage, or your children — it is already too much. Your intuition is a gift. You deserve to see the truth clearly.

💛 You Don’t Have to Walk Through This Alone

If anything resonated, I’d love to support you.

I welcome your questions, stories, and prayer requests.

📩 Email me: hello@wifeontherocks.com 🗓️ Book a clarity coaching session: https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession

You are not imagining the dysfunction. You are not overreacting. You are not alone.

If your husband is finally getting help for his addiction, you may be wondering: How long should he stay in treatment? 30 days? 60 days? 90 days? Longer? And what does detox have to do with rehab?

Today, we’re breaking down the difference between detox and rehab in a simple, helpful way — and we’ll talk about why staying longer can make a big difference in your husband’s ability to recover well.

Here’s what we cover in this episode:

✅ Detox vs. Rehab — why detox alone isn’t enough.

✅ What actually happens in rehab (it’s not just sitting in a room!).

✅ Why 30 days is often just the beginning of healing.

✅ The brain science behind why staying longer improves recovery outcomes.

✅ How treatment gives wives peace of mind and breathing room.

✅ The tension between missing him at home vs. wanting him to fully heal.

✅ Why this moment is a marathon — not a sprint.

I also share my own experience of what it felt like when my husband was finally in a safe place getting help — the relief, the emotional crash, the grief for my kids — and how I learned to stay focused on the long-term goal, not the quick fix.

Because while it is hard to solo parent and navigate the emotional rollercoaster of treatment… you have prayed for this moment. And now is not the time to rush the healing.

Sobriety isn’t surface-level change. Recovery means going deep enough to face the root. And sometimes… that takes more time.

✨ LAST CALL: Holiday Survival Course

There are 3 live sessions still coming up, and you’ll receive instant access to the first two via recording — plus all the printable resources, homework, and support materials inside the private course hub.

If you want practical support and spiritual strength throughout this holiday season, I’d love to help you stay grounded in God’s peace and protect what matters most.

👉 Join the Holiday Survival Course here: https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/holiday-survival-course.

💌 Have a question for a future episode or want to share what God is doing in your life? Email me anytime at: hello@wifeontherocks.com

Need personal support? 1:1 coaching spots are open now — link in the show notes to schedule! https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession

You’re not alone in this, friend. There is hope — and healing — even here. Take a breath. Let’s walk this together. 💛