#294: In this episode, Sharif and Kevin explore one of the most psychologically subtle traps people fall into after being wronged: resentment. Kevin opens with a bold claim — that a hyperfocus on wounds is actually an inversion of justice, not an expression of it. Drawing on Augustine and Aquinas, they unpack why real justice is fundamentally outward-directed and rooted in love, while resentment collapses attention inward, keeping people locked in a loop of replaying the offense and waiting for the other person to make things right. They also address the fear of becoming a pushover, the difference between tolerating injustice and acting prudently within it, and practical ways to catch yourself when resentment is taking hold — including how the "prudent person test" from their episode on scrupulosity applies here. The episode closes with a compelling case for why the surest path out of resentment is not distance from the offender, but a renewed commitment to the bond itself.

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#293: In this episode, Sharif and Kevin explore scrupulosity — a form of OCD that targets the conscience itself, trapping thoughtful, well-intentioned people in endless loops of moral doubt. Kevin explains how scrupulosity hijacks the machinery of prudence, replacing genuine moral reasoning with what he calls "sham prudence" and "sham guilt" — feelings that are indistinguishable from real guilt but point in entirely the wrong direction. The conversation moves from vivid real-world examples of obsession, compulsion, and avoidance to a genuinely surprising insight: the cure isn't better moral reasoning, it's bypassing moral reasoning altogether — through imagination, empathic simulation, and a willingness to embrace the discomfort of sham guilt for the sake of love. Equal parts clinical and philosophical, this episode offers a framework that will resonate with anyone who has ever wondered whether their conscience is helping them or holding them hostage.

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#292: In her recent best-seller “Bad Therapy,” Abigail Shrier argues that therapy for children causes more problems than it solves. Shrier critiques the approach many therapists take as based on a flawed understanding of human nature, and she also draws attention to data suggesting that modern therapy is not stopping the increase in rates of anxiety, depression, etc. and may even be increasing them. In this episode, Sharif and Dr. Kevin Majeres explore Shrier’s work, arguing that while much of her critique is valid, it only applies to a certain subset of therapy. The solution to bad psychology is good psychology, not no psychology.

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