Sovereignty On today’s episode, I discuss personal power and sovereignty, not as abstract ideas but as lived experiences that shape how we navigate identity, roles, and relationships. I explore the difference between positional power and personal power, how trauma impacts our ability to trust ourselves, and what it means to reclaim our sense of self in the context of kink dynamics and beyond. Whether you’re Dominant, submissive, Switch, or something else entirely, this conversation is about learning to live in alignment with who you are, without apology, without performance, and without giving that power away.

References

Freyd, J. J. (1996). Betrayal trauma: The logic of forgetting childhood abuse. Harvard University Press.

Herman, J. L. (1992). Trauma and recovery: The aftermath of violence—from domestic abuse to political terror. Basic Books.

Siegel, D. J. (2010). The mindful therapist: A clinician’s guide to mindsight and neural integration. W. W. Norton & Company.

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Does trauma cause BDSM desires? Is kink just a reenactment of old wounds? Or can it be something more, a form of healing, reclamation, or simply joy? I break down the difference between influence and origin, explore what it means when kink feels familiar, and offer a path forward grounded in choice, consent, and self-understanding. This is not about shame. It’s about clarity. Whether you're a survivor, a practitioner, or simply curious, this episode invites you to explore where your desires come from and what they mean to you now.

📚References (APA Style)

• Li, S. (2024). The psychology of kink: A cross-sectional survey investigating the association between adult attachment style and BDSM-related identity choice in China. Archives of Sexual Behavior. Advance online publication. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-024-02829-1
• Schuerwegen, A., Morrens, M., Wuyts, E., Huys, W., Goethals, K., & De Zeeuw-Jans, I. (2022). The psychology of kink: A survey study investigating stigma and psychological mechanisms in BDSM. European Psychiatry, 64(S1), S620. https://doi.org/10.1192/j.eurpsy.2022.1566
• Speciale, M., & Khambatta, D. (2020). Kinky & queer: Exploring the experiences of LGBTQ+ individuals who practice BDSM. Journal of LGBT Issues in Counseling, 14(4), 341–361. https://doi.org/10.1080/15538605.2020.1827476
• Sprott, R. A., Vivid, J., & Lev, E. M. (2020). The structure of kink identity: Four key themes within a world of complexity. Journal of Positive Sexuality, 6(1), 1–8. https://journalofpositivesexuality.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/Structure-of-kink-identity_key-themes-within-a-world-of-complexity-Vivid-Lev-Sprott.pdf

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On this episode, I discuss a topic that continues to challenge kink communities everywhere: should individuals on the Sex Offender Registry be allowed into public events or dungeons? I explore the emotional and psychological impact these decisions have, not just on survivors but on entire communities. From leadership accountability to the erosion of trust, I take a hard look at what happens when safety, consent, and transparency are sidelined. This isn’t about personal attacks. It’s about the behaviors, policies, and silences that shape the spaces we claim to keep safe. It’s a hard conversation, but it’s one we need to have.

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If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠

I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!

#BDSM #Psychology #Consent #Safety

On this episode, I discuss coercion, boundaries, and consent, not as buzzwords, but as lived realities inside power exchange relationships. We break down what these terms actually mean, how they get confused or manipulated in kink spaces, and why that confusion causes real harm.

I speak to the ways coercion can be disguised as Dominance or devotion, how internalized guilt keeps people silent, and why accountability is not a threat to the lifestyle. It is essential to it.

This episode is a call back to clarity, to personal agency, and to the kind of kink that builds people up, not breaks them down. Whether you are questioning something in your own dynamic or supporting someone else through theirs, this one is for you.

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If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠

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#BDSM #Psychology #Coercion #Consent #Boundaries

On this episode, I discuss people-pleasing behavior and how it shows up in the lifestyle. I break down what it really is, where it comes from, and why it’s often mistaken for consent. I talk about the difference between saying yes from a place of choice versus saying yes out of fear, and why that difference matters so much in kink. If you’ve ever found yourself agreeing to something just to keep the peace or avoid conflict, this one’s for you.

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If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠

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#BDSM #Psychology #PeoplePleasing #Behavior #Fawning

On today's show, I discuss how military personnel and veterans navigate power exchange in BDSM. The structure, discipline, and leadership developed in service shape both Dominance and submission, influencing how they engage in D/s relationships. Some embrace the authority and control of a Dominant role, while others find submission as a way to release responsibility in a structured and intentional way. I explore how military training aligns with high-protocol dynamics, the challenges of balancing strength with vulnerability, and the unique ways service members adapt to BDSM.

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If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at https://enhanced-mind.com/

I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!

#BDSM #Psychology #Military #Strength

On today’s show, I discuss the difference between loneliness and solitude, and why understanding both is essential for personal growth and deeper connections. I dive into how loneliness can show up even in the kink and BDSM community, and how it affects our relationships with ourselves and others. I also explore how embracing solitude can be a powerful tool for reflection, healing, and understanding our desires and boundaries. It’s a conversation about how these feelings shape our lives and how we can use them to better connect with ourselves and the people around us.

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#BDSM #Psychology #Solitude #Loneliness

On today’s episode, I discuss the fine line between validation and dependence in D/s relationships. While praise and approval are natural parts of power exchange, they shouldn’t become the foundation of self-worth. When one partner relies too much on the other for validation, it can create emotional instability and strain the dynamic. I explore how this happens, the impact on both submissives and Dominants, and what each can do to foster a healthier, more secure connection.

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If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com

I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!

#BDSM #Psychology #Validation #PowerExchange