If you feel like you keep ending up in the same relationship with a different person, this episode explains why.

In the Season 12 premiere of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica breaks down the real reason relationship patterns repeat after divorce. Not because you’re broken, unlucky, or choosing the “wrong” people, but because unhealed wounds, nervous system responses, and unconscious expectations are still running the show.

This episode explores the space between rushing back into dating and avoiding it altogether. Erica walks through the three core lessons that determine whether you’re actually ready for a new relationship. She explains how partners become emotional stand-ins, why asking someone else to regulate your happiness creates resentment, and how to tell the difference between a “me problem” and a “we problem.”

You’ll also hear why even the right person can trigger you, how old wounds from betrayal and infidelity resurface in new relationships, and why triggers are information, not proof that you’re failing at healing.

You’ll learn:

• Why repeating relationship patterns after divorce is common and preventable

• How to tell the difference between a personal trigger and a real relationship issue

• What “jumping through hoops” looks like and why it destroys connection

• How divorce rewires your nervous system and impacts dating readiness

• Why asking a partner to make you happy creates resentment

• How unhealed wounds from betrayal show up in new relationships

• Why triggers are data, not red flags

• How to stop outsourcing emotional regulation to a partner

• What it means to enter a relationship whole instead of looking to be completed

• How divorce can become a blueprint for healthier relationships moving forward

We talk about:

00:00 Wondering if you’re ready to date again

02:00 Why people rush back into dating or avoid it completely

04:00 Divorce as a nervous system reset

06:00 “Me problem vs we problem” in relationships

08:00 How relationships mirror unhealed wounds

10:00 Why expecting a partner to complete you creates pressure

12:00 Jumping through emotional hoops and resentment

14:00 Self-imposed expectations and burnout

16:00 Cleaning up your side of the street

18:00 The stories your mind creates when triggered

20:00 Infidelity wounds and anxiety in new relationships

22:00 Communicating triggers instead of assuming meaning

24:00 Why even good partners will trigger you

26:00 Using triggers as information, not danger

28:00 Recognizing repeating conflict patterns

30:00 Choosing new responses instead of old reactions

32:00 Why divorce gives you tools to never let it get that bad again

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Dating after divorce can feel like standing in the middle of a wide-open field with no map, no rules, and a nervous system still recovering from impact. Some people jump right back in, others swear off dating forever, and many find themselves repeating patterns they thought they’d already healed.

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica is joined by relationship coach and fellow divorcee Anna Howerton for a deeply honest, grounded conversation about what dating after divorce really requires. Not strategies, not swipes, but self-awareness, clarity, and the courage to choose differently.

They unpack why divorce can actually be one of the greatest gifts for future partnership, how to recognize red flags versus yellow flags, why “manifesting the perfect partner” can backfire without inner work, and how unmet needs from your first marriage often show up in disguised ways the second time around.

This episode is for anyone who wants partnership again, but refuses to lose themselves in the process.

You’ll learn:

• Why divorce gives you the rare opportunity to choose again with wisdom

• How to tell the difference between red flags, yellow flags, and growth edges

• Why dating too soon can turn you into an “energetic mess”

• How unmet needs from your first marriage shape who you’re attracted to next

• Why clarity around your core emotional needs matters more than chemistry

• How independence, attraction, and compatibility can clash if you’re not honest

• Why trying to change a partner often signals inner work that still needs doing

• How to stay whole in a relationship instead of looking to be completed by one

• What it really means to choose someone “warts and all”

• How to date with intention instead of chasing validation or potential

We talk about:

00:00 Dating after divorce, jump back in or stay out

02:00 Why most people aren’t taught how to choose a partner

04:00 The gift of divorce, choosing again with self-awareness

06:00 Why many first marriages were right at the time, but not forever

08:00 Losing yourself in marriage and rebuilding identity

10:00 Dating too soon and becoming emotionally reactive

12:00 Boundaries, swiping fatigue, and dating with intention

14:00 Codependency patterns that surface after divorce

16:00 Manifestation, clarity, and calling in the wrong container

18:00 Seeing people as they are, not as potential

20:00 Red flags vs yellow flags and why they’re personal

23:00 Why surface-level deal breakers can sabotage connection

26:00 Choosing someone with complexity, not perfection

29:00 The danger of trying to change your partner

31:00 Accepting someone exactly as they are today

34:00 Emotional needs, attraction, and long-term fulfillment

37:00 Why second marriages can feel harder but more honest

40:00 Staying whole inside partnership instead of outsourcing happiness

43:00 Using divorce as a blueprint for a healthier future

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Divorce doesn’t come with a single moment of grief.It arrives in waves, quietly, loudly, and often long after the paperwork is signed.

In this deeply validating episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica is joined by therapist and author Oona Metz, whose new book Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women reframes divorce not as failure, but as a profound emotional restructuring.

Together, they unpack why divorce grief is often misunderstood, why women feel “crazy” for still hurting months or years later, and why traditional grief models fall short when applied to divorce.

Oona introduces her five-phase model of divorce grief, heartbreak, the emotional rollercoaster, mending, letting go, and moving on. A framework built from decades of clinical work with women navigating divorce. This conversation normalizes the emotional chaos, identity loss, and nervous system overwhelm so many women experience, while offering a grounded roadmap forward.

This episode is not about rushing healing. It’s about understanding it, honoring it, and trusting that rebuilding happens one stabilizing step at a time.

You’ll learn:

• Why divorce grief is different from bereavement grief

• Why healing after divorce is never linear

• The five phases of divorce grief and what each one actually feels like

• Why hope keeps women stuck longer than they expect

• How emotional rollercoasters are a normal part of divorce recovery

• Why legal processes intensify emotional dysregulation

• What “mending” really means after emotional depletion

• How self-love restores nervous system safety

• Why letting go includes releasing identity, myths, and future fantasies

• How to rebuild traditions without forcing old ones

• Why moving on doesn’t mean forgetting, it means re-investing energy

• How community accelerates healing when friends and family can’t relate

We talk about:

00:00 Why divorce grief shows up in unexpected ways

03:00 Why Oona wrote Unhitched after 30 years of clinical work

06:00 Why women feel isolated even though divorce is common

09:00 Why traditional grief models don’t fully apply to divorce

12:00 Phase one, heartbreak and the loss of hope

15:00 Why women hold on longer than they want to

18:00 Phase two, the emotional rollercoaster explained

22:00 Why feeling “crazy” is actually a healthy response

25:00 How the legal process amplifies emotional instability

28:00 Phase three, mending and reclaiming emotional energy

32:00 Why loving yourself changes how you parent and relate

35:00 Divorce as family restructuring, not failure

38:00 Phase four, letting go of identity and future myths

42:00 Rebuilding traditions without self-betrayal

46:00 Phase five, moving on without erasing the past

49:00 Why healing happens faster in community

52:00 Trusting the process when you’re still in the pain

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Divorce doesn’t just end a marriage.

It dismantles an identity.

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica is joined by certified life coach and retired attorney Meagan Norris for an honest conversation about what it really takes to rebuild life after divorce, without repeating old emotional, financial, or relational patterns.

Together, they explore why so many women remain stuck in survival mode long after the divorce is finalized, how nervous system dysregulation quietly drives decision-making, and why healing after divorce requires more than insight, it requires embodiment, emotional resilience, and self-trust built through experience.

Meagan shares her four foundational pillars for post-divorce rebuilding, emotional resilience, financial sovereignty, lifestyle design, and vision-based decision-making. These pillars help women move out of fear-based choices and into intentional living that aligns with who they are becoming, not who they had to be to survive.

This episode dismantles the pressure to “fix everything at once” and offers a grounded, sustainable path forward, one focused decision, one stabilizing choice, and one self-trusting action at a time.

You’ll learn:

• Why divorce often requires letting go of an old identity, not just a relationship
• How survival mode shapes post-divorce decisions without you realizing it
• What emotional resilience actually looks like in real life
• How nervous system regulation supports clarity and self-trust
• Why money struggles after divorce are often about identity, not income
• How comparison fuels scarcity, regardless of how much you earn
• Why focusing on one priority accelerates healing and momentum
• How lifestyle design helps you embody your future self now
• What vision-based decision-making really means after divorce
• Why self-trust is built through action, not affirmations
• How to stop outsourcing decisions to fear, statistics, or outside voices

We talk about:

00:00 Why divorce is an identity shift, not just a legal process

02:30 What it means to divorce the old version of yourself

05:00 How past beliefs recreate future emotional patterns

06:30 Emotional resilience and nervous system regulation after divorce

09:00 Financial sovereignty and scarcity thinking

12:00 Comparison, money, and attachment patterns

15:30 Rebuilding trust with yourself through aligned action

18:00 Why trying to change everything at once leads to burnout

21:00 Choosing one priority and stabilizing the rest

24:00 Lifestyle design and reclaiming physical space after divorce

28:30 Vision boards, energy, and embodiment

31:00 Vision-based decision-making versus fear-based choices

36:00 Letting go of statistics, judgments, and “good enough” thinking

41:00 Designing a future that feels expansive, not reactive

45:00 Why your vision evolves as you evolve

48:00 Falling in love with the long-term rebuilding process

The Defining the New You Blueprint is a 90-minuteguided mini-retreat for divorced women ready to move beyond survival and step into their next chapter. Through grounding reflection, vision casting, and self-reconnection rituals, you’ll rediscover who you are now, create emotional clarity, and begin consciously designing a life you love. Come home to yourself— one breath, one revelation, one rise at a time.

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If divorce has left you irritable, numb, exhausted, or feeling like you don’t recognize yourself anymore, this episode is for you.

In this special episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica shares audio from a live Divorce Detox Hour inside her membership, The Club. This is not a traditional podcast conversation. It’s a guided nervous system reset designed to help divorced women step out of survival mode and return to steadiness, clarity, and self-trust before entering the new year.

Through intentional breathwork, grounding practices, visualization, and symbolic release, Erica guides listeners through closing the emotional chapter of 2025 and consciously choosing what does and does not come with them into 2026. You’ll be led through a powerful “theater of your new year” visualization, a release ritual for what you’re done carrying, and a future-self encounter that helps clarify who you are becoming without pressure or forced goal setting.

This episode is not about fixing yourself or rushing healing. It’s about creating safety in your body, honoring what you survived, and making space for a version of you that isn’t built around endurance or emotional overfunctioning.

If you’re post-divorce and feel stuck in fight-or-flight, unsure who you’re becoming, or afraid of repeating the same emotional patterns in the new year, this episode offers a grounded way to reset and move forward without dragging the past behind you.

You’ll learn:

• Why divorce often keeps women stuck in long-term survival mode
• How nervous system regulation supports emotional healing after divorce
• Why “new year, new you” pressure can actually slow recovery
• How breathwork creates safety before emotional processing
• What it means to consciously choose what you carry forward
• How to release resentment, shame, and self-blame without rehashing the past
• Why healing requires embodiment, not just insight
• How to reconnect with your future self after identity loss
• Why choosing qualities matters more than rigid goals
• How community accelerates healing and prevents emotional isolation

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We talk about:

00:00 Why post-divorce irritability and numbness aren’t personality traits

02:00 What a Divorce Detox Hour is and why it works

04:00 How survival mode shows up after divorce

06:30 Grounding the body to create emotional safety

09:00 Breathwork to calm the nervous system

12:00 Moving out of the head and into the body

14:00 The “Theater of Your New Year” visualization

18:00 Witnessing what you survived in 2025

20:30 The Release Box ritual and letting go of emotional weight

23:30 Choosing who you are becoming in 2026

26:00 Meeting your future self and receiving guidance

28:00 Making promises and boundaries that support healing

30:30 Why community matters during identity rebuilding

33:00 Releasing the past without erasing it

35:00 Closing the session with steadiness and self-trust

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Divorced women don’t need another “new year, new you” speech.You need a clean break.

In this New Year’s Eve episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica guides you through a powerful emotional closing ritual for 2025 and a grounded, realistic way to step into 2026 without dragging old identities, survival patterns, or unfinished grief with you.

This episode is not about fixing yourself or forcing goals. It’s about retiring what you’ve outgrown, honoring the lessons of the past year, and consciously choosing what comes next.

Erica breaks down why 2025 marks the end of a nine-year cycle, why endings after divorce often feel heavier than expected, and how the “Year of the Snake” has been quietly asking you to shed roles, relationships, and stories that no longer fit. She then introduces the bold, forward-moving energy of 2026 and explains why this is not the year to play small, rush healing, or live by default.

Through reflection, journaling prompts, and a flexible mind-mapping framework, you’ll learn how to gather the gold from the hardest moments of 2025, choose a guiding word for the year ahead, and take aligned action without pressure or overwhelm.

If you’re entering a new year post-divorce feeling emotionally tired, uncertain about who you’re becoming, or afraid of carrying the past forward, this episode will help you close the chapter with clarity and step into what’s next with confidence.

You’ll learn:

• Why “new year, new you” advice often fails after divorce
• What it actually means to create a clean emotional break
• Why 2025 is an ending year and why that matters for healing
• How to stop dragging old identities and survival patterns forward
• Why discomfort and vulnerability are signs of growth, not failure
• How to consciously retire roles, relationships, and expectations
• What the Year of the Snake teaches about shedding and release
• Why 2026 invites courage, freedom, and forward movement
• How to dream again without pressure or rigid goal setting
• A simple mind-mapping method to call in what you want next
• Why alignment matters more than hustle after divorce
• How community accelerates healing and prevents emotional recoil

We talk about:

00:00 Why divorced women don’t need “new year, new you”

02:00 Setting intention and closing the container on 2025

03:00 The end of a nine-year cycle and post-divorce identity shifts

05:00 Reflecting on how far you’ve actually come

08:00 Why we judge years too harshly and miss the gold

11:00 A guided reflection through each month of 2025

14:00 Choosing the feeling and frequency you want in 2026

16:30 The Year of the Snake and shedding what no longer fits

20:00 Outgrowing roles, relationships, and old expectations

23:00 From snake energy to bold forward momentum

24:30 Why 2026 is not the year to play small

27:00 How to set intentions without overwhelm or pressure

30:00 Using mind-mapping instead of rigid goal setting

33:00 Calling in alignment without forcing outcomes

36:00 Why community matters during transformation

41:00 What’s coming next and how to stay supported

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The holidays after divorce don’t just feel different.They hit deeper, harder, and in ways no one prepares you for.

In this solo episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica breaks down the emotional reality of surviving the holidays after divorce, especially when you’re navigating grief, comparison, loneliness, co-parenting transitions, or your first holiday without your kids.

This episode goes beyond surface-level advice and gets to the truth about why the holidays amplify emotional pain after divorce, even years later. You’ll learn why healing isn’t linear, why you’re not behind, and why feeling unsettled, emotional, or exhausted during the holidays is not a sign of failure, but a sign of deep transition.

Erica explores the unspoken parts of post-divorce life, the quiet moments when the house is empty, the pressure to create “magic,” the comparison to intact families, the financial stress, and the internal voice that says you should be over this by now.

If you’re asking yourself why the holidays after divorce feel heavier than expected, why emotions resurface when you thought you were doing fine, or why peace feels just out of reach this season, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening and how to move through it without abandoning yourself.

This is a permission slip to stop rushing your healing, stop judging your timeline, and find peace inside the season you’re actually in.

You’ll learn:

• Why the holidays are so emotionally hard after divorce
• The hidden reason grief resurfaces during holidays, even years later
• Why healing after divorce is cyclical, not linear
• How comparison and money anxiety intensify holiday stress
• What no one warns you about the first holidays without your kids
• How to navigate loneliness without letting it define you
• Why you’re not failing, falling behind, or doing this wrong
• How to create emotional safety during the holidays after divorce
• Why mindset shifts change emotions faster than changing circumstances
• How to find peace when everything feels different

We talk about:

00:00 Intro

03:42 Navigating Holiday Comparisons

08:18 Embracing Alone Moments

14:38 Balancing Grief and Joy

24:23 Reflecting on Wins and Growth

28:15 Looking Ahead to the New Year

30:25 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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