Do your relationships keep triggering old wounds? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wife’s Club, therapist Melissa Lapides breaks down how anxious and avoidant attachment styles show up after divorce—and how to finally heal them.

Whether you’re newly divorced, co-parenting, or opening your heart to love again, this conversation will help you stop repeating painful patterns and reclaim your emotional power.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• What attachment wounds are and how they form in childhood
• How anxious and avoidant attachment styles show up in love and divorce
• Why sitting with emotions leads to deeper healing
• Practical tools to separate real needs from emotional triggers
• How to stop letting old wounds bleed into new relationships

⏱️ Episode Timestamps

• 00:00 Intro

• 02:22 Understanding attachment wounds

• 05:28 Navigating separation & divorce

• 06:21 Healing through self-awareness in divorce

• 08:10 The role of mirroring in relationships

• 09:01 Communicating needs in relationships

• 21:27 Embracing acceptance in relationships

• 22:10 The power of communication & compromise

• 25:01 Nonviolent communication techniques

• 29:13 Building emotional resilience

• 30:48 Self-discovery & personal growth after divorce

• 33:34 Navigating new relationships post-divorce

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What really happens when a marriage begins to fall apart? In this episode, Dr. Becky Whetstone—author of I Think I Want Out—reveals the 5 predictable stages of a marriage crisis and how to know if you should stay, or move on with clarity.

Whether you’re unhappily married, newly separated, or years post-divorce, this conversation offers validation, strategy, and hope.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• The 5 stages of marriage decline (and how to spot them)

• The roles of the “decider” vs. the “leaning in partner”

• Why calming your nervous system is step one in a crisis

• Practical tools for separation, co-parenting, and resilience

• • How self-care turns heartbreak into healing

  
  

  ⏱️ Episode Timestamps

  00:00 Intro
  04:03 Understanding Marriage Crisis
  07:31 The Five Stages of Marriage Deterioration
  14:05 Roles in Marriage Crisis: Decider vs. Leaning In Partner
  22:18 Understanding the Leaning In Partner's Instincts
  26:03 The Importance of Managed Separation
  29:51 Finding Strength in Self-Discovery
  35:14 Embracing Authenticity in Relationships
  40:50 Final Thoughts and Resources

  
  

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  • Website: marriagecrisismanager.com

  • Instagram: @doctorbecky

  • Facebook: Relationship Crisis Manager

  • Book: I (Think) I Want Out

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Co-parenting after divorce is tough—and it gets even harder when a new partner enters the picture. Do you collaborate with your ex’s new partner, or set firm boundaries?

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, I share real stories from both sides—navigating life with a stepparent as a parent, and stepping into the role of stepparent myself. You’ll hear the honest truths about blended families, boundaries, and how to protect your kids’ wellbeing while choosing peace over drama.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• The biggest risks (and benefits) of working with your ex’s new partner

• Why clear intentions and boundaries matter more than ever

• How to handle the “two vs. one” power dynamic

• Tools to manage triggers and choose peace over drama

• Why blended families are the new norm—and how to make them work

Remember: at the end of the day, it’s not about winning against your ex or their partner—it’s about what’s best for the kids.

⏱️ Episode Timestamps

• 00:00 – Intro

• 02:12 – Personal Experience with Stepparenting

• 02:48 – Navigating Intentions and Expectations

• 07:26 – Creating a Co-Parenting Plan

• 09:08 – Challenges and Emotional Triggers

• 16:02 – Mediation and Legal Complications

• 18:40 – Lessons Learned and Final Thoughts

• 20:52 – Setting Boundaries in Co-Parenting

• 22:10 – Creating Clear Boundaries

• 24:20 – The Emotions of Co-Parenting

• 27:46 – Navigating Blended Families

• 30:08 – The Role of a Stepparent

  
  

  🌟 Resources & Links

  The Club: A Divorce Community to Help You Heal & Move Forward
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  The Emotions of Co-Parenting Program
  A self-guided journal + video series to help you anchor yourself, manage emotional storms, and create the stability your kids need.
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