Dr. Curt Thompson has a saying "Pay attention to what you pay attention to." We discuss, in this episode, how it may look like we are doing one thing while our mind is somewhere completely different. We want to pay attention to what may be running in the background and having an impact on our relationships, behavior and ability to connect with God. We want to encourage our listeners to join us in having an aggressive curiosity to our thought life. Living on "autopilot" is a common theme for many of us but it leads to feeling numb, stuck and unable to connect well with others.

In this episode Emily engages Todd's story from his childhood where a simple moment of being missed has had lifelong effects which can be healed.

Loyalty structures are patterns that develop in childhood as a means for staying in good favor with our families of origin as well as peer groups. These structures are often very influential in how we show up in the world and they usually include aspects of our glory. However, when undetected, they wreak havoc in our adult lives as we still operate according to their design. In this episode we unpack the concept of loyalty structures and how identifying them in our lives begins the process of healing from their grasp.