NOTE: This is Part 2 of our conversation with Andrea. Check out Episode 121 for Part 1! In this episode with Dr. Andrea Mata we knock out gentle parenting and expose it's major flaws while exploring and defining how to parent well in this Gen Z world. Andrea ("Dr. Dre") spells out the simple ways we can authoritatively parent and lead better.

If you are the ambitious parent of a go-getter teen athlete or performer, this episode is custom built for you. We hope you enjoy it--let us know what you think by commenting or sending us feedback at createtransformbecome@gmail.com. THANKS!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Intro -- This is Part 2--listen to EP 121 for Part 1

02:31 Emotional Regulation Strategies for Teens

12:20 The Debate on Gentle Parenting

18:45 Balancing Authority and Connection in Parenting

21:41 Common Pitfalls in Parent-Teen Connections

26:08 Embracing Natural Consequences in Parenting

27:26 The Impact of 'Be Careful' on Child Development

29:37 Understanding Obsessive Compulsive Disorder in Teens

31:47 The Importance of Allowing Struggles for Growth

32:39 Connecting with Dr. Andrea Mata: Resources and Social Media

34:38 Thriving with the Stars--Charity/Dance Experience!

37:18 Ohio State Football & Michigan '24: A Diehard Fan's Perspective

43:52 Encouragement for Overwhelmed Parents

Takeaways

-Emotional regulation is crucial for both parents and children.

-Parents should teach emotional regulation skills during calm moments.

-Modeling behavior is more effective than lecturing children.

-Gentle parenting may lead to negative outcomes for children.

-Setting high expectations within warmth leads to better developmental outcomes.

-Listening to teens without lecturing is essential for connection.

-Natural consequences help children learn from their mistakes.

-Overuse of 'be careful' can hinder children's ability to assess risks.

-OCD in teens requires careful management.

-Parents can always develop new skills to improve their parenting.

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!

-Nate & Steve

"Our bad!" We should've recorded this episode years ago! All kidding aside, "my bad" stinks and we'll tell you why in today's episode where we explore the concept of apologies! Particularly focusing on the phrase "my bad" and its implications. We'll discuss the sincerity behind admitting fault and "apologizing," the importance of genuine change, and introduce "The Repair Loop" as a tool for better, more effective apologies. And it will all come down to the role of parents in modeling sincere apologies for their teens and the need for actionable change following an acknowledgment of mistakes.

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Meaning of Apologies

03:13 The Impact of Language on Apologies

06:18 The Psychology Behind 'My Bad'

09:18 The Repair Loop: A Tool for Genuine Change

12:08 Modeling Behavior for Your Teens

13:14 Real-World Examples of Apologies in Action

15:20 Focusing on Your Standards and Values

17:52 Creating Meaningful Change

Takeaways

-Apologies can often be insincere and merely lip service.

-The phrase 'my bad' is a weak apology.

-Sincerity in apologies is crucial for genuine change.

-The Repair Loop consists of acknowledging, analyzing, and acting to repair mistakes.

-Modeling proper apology behavior is important for parents.

-Teens often mimic their parents' apology styles.

-Concrete actions following an apology validate the sincerity of the statement.

-Understanding the underlying values can enhance the effectiveness of apologies.

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!

-Nate & Steve

NOTE: This is Part 1 of 2 with Andrea.

What does it take to break cycles, beat the odds, and build something better—for yourself and your family? In this episode, we sit down with "Dr. Dre" a.k.a. Andrea D. Mata, PhD—clinical psychologist, founder of BrightSpot Families, and unapologetic straight shooter. And should I mention, funny as all get out! From growing up in a gang-ridden neighborhood on Chicago’s south side to reshaping how families fight anxiety, Dr. Dre shares the raw truth about resilience, parenting, and mental health. Get ready for no-filter wisdom! Dr. Dre is in the house!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Introduction to Dr. Andrea Mata and Her Mission

02:06 Dr. Mata's Journey and Background

04:01 The Impact of Dr. Mata's TED Talk

05:17 The Unique Approach of Dr. Mata's Book

07:52 Transitioning to Sports Psychology

09:54 The Importance of Composure Training

12:52 Emotional Regulation in Sports

18:38 Managing Parental Behavior at Games

21:26 Modeling Emotional Regulation for Teens

25:42 Navigating the Conversation Flow

LOOK FOR PART 2 with Dr. Andrea Mata, Ph.D coming soon within the next few weeks! In the meantime if you're looking for more from Dr. Dre here is where you may find her (and if you really want the Coop the Poop bookmark, connect with Andrea on LinkedIn and order the book directly from her--you can also get the book minus the bookmark on Amazon ("The No. 2 Parenting Book: Practical Tips for the Pooped Out Parent":

https://andreadmata.com/

https://www.brightspotfamilies.com/

https://www.youtube.com/@drdremata

https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrea-mata-ph-d-278765225/

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!

-Nate & Steve