That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding

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  • Hoarding disorder is stigmatised and people who hoard feel vast amounts of shame. This podcast began life as an audio diary, an anonymous outlet for somebody with this weird condition. That Hoarder speaks about her experiences living with compulsive hoarding, she interviews therapists, academics, researchers, children of hoarders, professional organisers and influencers, and she shares insight and tips for others with the problem. Listened to by people who hoard as well as those who love them and those who work with them, Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder aims to shatter the stigma, share the truth and speak openly and honestly to improve lives.
    © 2023 Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with @ThatHoarder
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  • #184 What if we actually felt the feelings? An honest conversation about trauma, hoarding, and allowing yourself to feel
    May 2 2025
    Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticketSubscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribePodcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ This week, I talk about what happens when I actually let myself feel the tough emotions instead of shutting them down - a pattern that's shaped my life and my struggles with hoarding, self-harm, and eating disorders. After a thought-provoking conversation with Anna Sale on Death, Sex & Money last year, I started questioning whether avoiding feelings has helped or hurt me in the long run and have been trying to process that ever since! I share what it’s like to sit with big emotions, experiment with messy ways to cope, and why feeling the feelings might just be a way forward. Avoiding FeelingsRealisation that I tend to do anything rather than feel difficult emotions.Recent personal reflection and processing feelings over the past few months.Impact of mental health and a PTSD flare-up on my ability to manage feelings.Connecting Coping Mechanisms to AvoidanceExperience with PTSD, self-harm, anorexia, and bulimia as different forms of not feeling or avoiding emotions.Insights from an interview with Anna Sale on Death, Sex & Money that linked these coping together as forms of avoidance.Acknowledgment that these strategies were more than just avoidance - also punitive, protective, and multifaceted.The Cost and Pattern of Emotional AvoidanceCompartmentalising as a lifelong coping skill and its negative long-term consequences.Difficulty breaking the habit of not feeling and the impact on my sense of identity.Recognition that suppressing feelings can be as damaging as (or more damaging than) the feelings themselves.Actively Facing and Processing FeelingsEngaging in therapy, journaling (both resentful and creative/collage style), and reading poetry to access emotions.Talking more openly with friends as a supportive measure.Forcing myself to do enjoyable activities (like getting outside), which helps counteract avoidance.Community, Connection, and SupportImpact of Trauma and Suppression on Daily LifeHow PTSD and unprocessed sadness began affecting sleep, revealing that suppressing feelings is no longer effective.Discusses the challenge of letting oneself feel emotions, both by choice and when overcome involuntarily.The risks of being overwhelmed and the delicate balance between feeling and avoidance.Learning and Conversations About Emotional AcceptanceRevisiting lessons from previous podcast guests about the counterproductivity of suppressing or over-intellectualising feelings.The concept that suppressed emotions may “come out sideways” through other behaviours, like self-harm or hoarding.Nuanced view of coping mechanisms - not labeling them as purely negative since they served protective purposes.Vulnerability, Shame, and Deepening RelationshipsGradual willingness to share deeper, more distressing moments with friends.Examining the reasons behind the instinct to hide intense distress.How vulnerability leads to stronger, more meaningful connections.Positive Effects of Feeling the Hard StuffDiscovering that feeling hard emotions increases the capacity to feel positive emotions more deeply.Finding deeper love, joy, and beauty in everyday experiences.Recognising the importance of support systems when exploring difficult emotions.Reflection and Encouragement for ListenersEncourages listeners to be curious about their own patterns of avoidance and coping.Cautions that intentionally feeling emotions is difficult and requires support.The hopeful observation that allowing feelings can be cathartic, gratifying, and healing—even if it’s uncomfortable. Links My interview on Death, Sex & MoneyPodcast ep 182: What are “towards and away moves” and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan EppingstallPodcast ep 169: Compassion-focused therapy for grief and hoarding with Dr Chia-Ying ChouPodcast ep 172: Harriet Impey on clearing out her parents’ very full home, through family belongings and personal growth, in the film Where Dragons LiveDeclutter Hub podcastCome to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking FormWebsite: Overcome Compulsive HoardingBecome a Dehoarding DarlingSubmit a topic for the podcast to coverQuestions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestionsInstagram: @thathoarderpodcastTwitter: @ThatHoarderMastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.onlineTikTok: @thathoarderpodcastFacebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That HoarderPinterest: That HoarderYouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That HoarderReddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder subredditHelp out: Support this projectSponsor the podcast
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  • REMIX: How to declutter when you're really busy: dehoarding in tiny time slots and other tips
    Apr 25 2025
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  • REMIX: The little-known Hummingbird Method for tackling avoidance in dehoarding
    Apr 18 2025
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Enjoying your podcast very much.

It is better to do this together. My biggest issue is giving away things that has something to do with my kids. My thinking: ‘I think maybe my sister could use this with her kids if she will ever have any down the road…oh I love this my son played so much with this!’ Or ‘ I could sell this.. this was so expensive!!’….just sad!.. I need you… Thank you!

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Could not do this alone

My partner of 5 years left me, partly because of my hoarding and partly for other ptsd and ocd related difficulties. I fell into a pit of despair and shame and felt so alone. It catalyzed my taking in the hoard. It’s been deeply disheartening, alienating, and just so heavy. I found this podcast and for the first time in my struggle I feel so seen ❤️‍🩹 she has such a deep self awareness and brought to my art the weight of the emotional and psychological aspects of hoarding. I’ve made so much progress and when I get stuck or my roommate launches me into a downward spiral of negative self talk by refusing to see the progress I go to this podcast.

I’m almost at the point of self acceptance that I’m considering speaking out about it on social media and extending my hand to anyone else in my community who fights this secret battle. It’s been so hard to feel like I can’t talk to anyone about it or ask for help and if I ever get through this I want so badly to help others as this woman has helped me.

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Informative, compassionate, and proactive.

This is such a fantastic podcast. I appreciate the compassion, humor, reflection, the topics and proactive outlook. The presentation is so well organized and so helpful. It's just so refreshing to hear representation by someone who experiences the disorder rather than being the passive subject of others scrutiny and analysis. This podcast is exactly the kind of dialogue that is needed to destigmatize hoarding disorder.

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