Do you feel like you need to prove yourself?

Who do you think you’re trying to impress?

Today, Jay sits down with his close friend Lilly Singh for a transformative and deeply honest in-person conversation at the Ellie Caulkins Opera House in Denver. Known for being a trailblazer in digital media and late-night television, Lilly reflects on the hidden challenges behind being “the first”, from navigating cultural expectations to battling loneliness and self-doubt. Lilly shares how much of her early success was driven by the need to prove her worth to others, and how she is now shifting toward proving herself right instead of chasing outside validation.

Together, Jay and Lilly explore the inner voices we all carry, from the critic to the voice of compassion, emphasizing the importance of practicing daily self-care to balance high standards with grace. Lilly shares her personal rituals such as journaling, naming her inner voices, and reframing failure as growth, while Jay emphasizes the transformative power of reflecting on the past as proof of resilience. Together, they remind us that even in moments of pressure and imperfection, we are not defined by our accomplishments but by the person we are becoming.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Turn Failure Into Growth

How to Quiet Your Inner Critic

How to Practice Daily Self-Compassion

How to Live with Your Inner Voices

How to Stop Chasing Outside Validation

Every challenge you’ve faced so far has proven that you are stronger than you think, and every step forward is a reminder that you are capable of creating a life that feels true to you.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:59 Growing Up Without Options

09:09 Realizing You Always Have a Choice

15:58 Committing to a Life of Growth

17:25 Learning to Stop Self-Blame

20:23 Breaking Free from Unrealistic Standards

26:17 Why Good Enough Is Enough

29:52 Living Alongside Self-Criticism

35:12 You Are More Than What You Do

39:47 Finding Strength in Past Resilience

42:37 Proving to Yourself You Can

43:08 Choosing to Make Yourself Proud

46:50 Why Women Aren’t Taught About Their Bodies

51:07 Past, Present, and Future Reflections

58:06 Friendship That Stands the Test of Time

Episode Resources:

Lilly Singh | YouTube

Lilly Singh | Instagram

Lilly Singh | Facebook

Lilly Singh | TikTok

Lilly Singh | Books

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Trigger Warning: Suicide & Self-Harm

If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call or text 988 (U.S.) or contact your local emergency services.

Have you been feeling down lately?

What’s been weighing on you the most?

Today, Jay sits down with Dr. Matthew Nock, Harvard psychologist and one of the world’s foremost experts on suicide prevention, to unpack one of the most urgent and misunderstood issues of our time. Together, they dismantle common myths about suicide, revealing that it’s rarely about wanting life to end, but more often about escaping overwhelming pain. Drawing on decades of groundbreaking research, Matthew explains how suicidal thoughts take shape, why they don’t always lead to action, and how depression, anxiety, impulsivity, and social disconnection can shape someone’s experience.

Jay and Matthew also look at how culture, gender, and age shape risk, uncovering why men are more likely to die by suicide, why adolescence is such a vulnerable stage, and how isolation later in life can intensify struggle. They examine the double edge of technology and AI, from the dangers of online bullying to the hopeful potential tools that can predict when someone may be most at risk. The conversation underscores the lifesaving power of open dialogue, especially between parents and children, while dispelling the myth that asking about suicide will put the idea in someone’s mind.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Talk About Suicide Without Fear

How to Support a Friend in Crisis

How to Spot Risk Factors in Adolescents

How to Create a Safety Plan at Home

How to Use Technology Safely for Mental Health

How to Break the Stigma Around Suicide

How to Strengthen Hope and Connection

You are not alone, and your presence in this world carries more value than you may realize. Hold on to hope, and know that even in the darkest moments, there are pathways toward light, growth, and renewal.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

03:13 Why Mental Health Conversations Are Limited

04:24 Suicide Awareness Saves Lives!

05:09 Debunking the Biggest Myths About Suicide

06:02 What the Data Really Reveals About Suicide Rates

08:40 Understanding the Stages of Suicidal Thoughts

12:06 Who Is Most at Risk for Suicide?

16:55 How Men and Women Differ in Suicide Risk

18:30 Why Adolescence Brings Higher Risk

20:02 Should We Teach Suicide Awareness in Schools?

22:19 The Promise and Perils of AI in Mental Health

26:06 Why Good Intentions Aren’t Enough

27:36 Bullying Is Still a Serious Risk

30:03 Why Parents Should Talk About Suicide with Their Children

33:57 What If Kids Don’t Want to Talk About It?

36:40 What Steps Should You Take Next?

38:52 Why Men Are More Likely to Die by Suicide

42:06 Why Science Must Guide Suicide Prevention

44:02 New Mothers Experience With Suicidal Thoughts

46:01 Most Effective Therapies For Suicide Prevention

47:53 Do Suicide Survivors Regret Their Attempts?

49:23 How Mental Disorders Increase Risk

50:07 Can We Predict When Someone Will Act on a Suicidal Thought?

52:39 Predicting Who’s at Risk And When

54:00 The Shame Around Suicidal Thoughts

55:41 Careers Linked to Higher Suicide Risk

57:50 Losing a Close Friend to Suicide

59:41 How Do You Begin to Heal After a Loss?

01:01:29 The Impact of Losing Someone to Suicide

01:02:55 You Are Never a Burden

01:04:30 How to Use Social Media Safely and Responsibly

01:06:05 Suicide Is Rarely Sudden, It Builds Over Time

01:07:48 The Future of Suicide Prevention

Episode Resources:

Matthew Nock | X

Nock Lab

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Do you find it hard to decide?

What usually makes it hard for you?

Today, Jay dives into two of the biggest roadblocks that keep us from living the life we want: overthinking and procrastination. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck on a decision for weeks, second-guessing every choice, or waiting for the “perfect” moment to act, you’re not alone. Jay reminds us that chasing absolute certainty, readiness, or approval often leaves us standing still. The reality is, confidence comes from taking action, not the other way around, and real transformation rarely feels comfortable.

Jay breaks down the seven steps to making smarter, faster, and more aligned decisions. You’ll learn to protect your mental energy by reducing decision fatigue, sort decisions so you stop treating small choices like life-or-death moments, and learn to trust your emotions before engaging logic. Jay introduces practical tools like the 10/10/10 game to shift your focus from short-term impulses to long-term clarity, regret simulations that guide you to choose integrity over fear, and identity questions that align your decisions with the person you want to become. Above all, Jay shows that the quickest way to reduce anxiety is not certainty, but action.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to Clear the Mental Clutter to Make Better Decisions

How to Tell the Difference Between Big & Small Decisions

How to Trust Your First Instinct Without Regret

How to Stop Letting Fear Make Your Choices

How to Stop Hesitating and Start Moving Forward

No matter what decision is weighing on you right now, remember this: indecision is still a decision, and staying stuck costs more than trying and getting it wrong. Take the next step, not when you’re ready, but so you can be ready.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

01:13 Stop Overthinking, Catch The Noise!

03:38 How Often Do You Make Decisions?

06:08 Tip: Make Big Decisions Early In The Day

07:23 Label Decisions Based On Importance

13:32 Feel First Then Think

16:20 Label Your Emotions & Decide With Clarity

17:54 10-10-10 Rule

18:57 Regret Simulation

20:27 The 3 Identity Questions

21:50 Decide Then Move Forward

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