Is there something from childhood you still carry?

How do you think it still affects you today?

In this special compilation episode of On Purpose, Jay revisits some of the most transformative conversations on trauma, healing, and resilience. Featuring insights from Dr. Gabor Maté, John Legend, Oprah Winfrey, Dr. Bruce Perry, and Anita, Jay uncovers how unaddressed wounds can quietly shape the way we live, and more importantly, how we can begin the journey toward understanding, growth, and true healing.

From Dr. Gabor Maté’s wisdom on the unseen toll of suppressing our authentic selves, to John Legend’s candid reflections on grief and loss, each conversation uncovers a unique layer of what it means to hold pain and still pursue growth. Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce Perry invite us to shift the question from “What’s wrong with me?” to “What happened to me?”—a powerful reframe that transforms shame into compassion. Anita’s story of releasing inherited fears reminds us that even generational wounds can heal when we bring them into the light.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Recognize Hidden Trauma

How to Grieve Without Losing Connection

How to Reframe “What’s Wrong” Into “What Happened”

How to Understand the Impact of Childhood Neglect

How to Transform Inherited Fears Into Strength

How to Begin Healing Through Awareness

Healing is never a straight line, but every step you take toward understanding yourself is a step toward freedom. When you give yourself permission to feel, reflect, and release, you begin to transform what once held you back into a source of strength to move forward.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty.

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:45 Choosing the Pain That Frees You

05:55 Free Yourself from Outside Opinions

08:15 Trauma Is an Unhealed Wound

10:28 Learning to Carry Grief with Love

15:05 How Childhood Neglect Shapes Adulthood

18:29 Building a Grounded, Centered Self

20:40 The Power of Asking “What Happened to You?”

25:15 The Hidden Impact of Spanking Children

30:38 Maternal Stress Can Transfer to Children

35:47 Choosing to Break Generational Trauma

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Have you ever felt taken for granted by a friend?

Do you find yourself always making the effort?

Today, Jay dives into the delicate line between real and fake friendships, revealing the subtle cues that help us identify who truly has our best interests at heart. He explains that genuine friends honor your boundaries, celebrate your authenticity, and encourage your growth, while superficial friends may pressure you into compliance, keep score, gossip, or feel threatened by your success. Drawing on psychological insights around attachment styles, envy, and social debt, Jay highlights how friendship dynamics are less about labeling people as good or bad, and more about recognizing behaviors that either uplift or drain us.

Jay reminds us that true friendship is grounded in honesty, generosity, and shared growth. Real friends don’t keep score, they celebrate your wins as their own and stand beside you through every change. Most importantly, Jay challenges us to reflect on how we show up for others, emphasizing that being a genuine friend requires patience, compassion, and courage. This conversation isn’t just about recognizing fake friends; it’s about becoming the kind of friend who makes others feel seen, valued, and safe..

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Spot a Fake Friend

How to Protect Your Boundaries

How to Handle Envy in Friendships

How to Know If You’re “Too Much” or “Not Enough”

How to Build Friendships That Grow With You

How to Be a Real Friend

When we surround ourselves with people who celebrate our growth, and choose to show up for others in the same way, we build friendships that not only endure but also bring out the best in who we are meant to become.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:07 Are Your Friendships Genuine?

02:20 #1: Watch How They Handle Your Boundaries

08:50 #2: Are They Keeping Score?

12:39 #3: Share Your Good News and See How They React

17:48 #4: Do They Make You Feel Like You're ‘Too Much?’

19:43 #5: Observe How They Talk About Others

23:04 #6: Do They Want the Best From You or For You?

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