What do men need to unlearn to become safe, emotionally available partners—and how does the red pill movement get it so wrong? In this conversation, I sit down with a Alex, therapist who calls himself anti–red pill and uses his TikTok platform to challenge toxic masculinity, outdated dating rules, and the emotional immaturity that keeps men from being good partners.

We talk about what men must unlearn to be truly safe for women to choose—and how our work aligns in helping both men and women build functional, respectful relationships.

We also unpack topics like “body count,” the influence of friend groups on emotional growth, and why emotional safety—not just status or confidence—makes the biggest difference in love. 💬

We talk about:

– What toxic masculinity looks like in dating

– The real meaning behind emotional safety

– Why “body count” shouldn’t define someone’s worth – How male friendships affect growth and accountability

– What both men and women need to stop tolerating

– Why the red pill mindset is emotionally dangerous

She came in convinced that body count matters. "There has to be accountability!" she said, arguing that a high body count is a red flag. She had studies, she had points—but when we really unpacked it, something shifted. By the end of our conversation, she realized that body count mentality is more about insecurity and control than actual compatibility. So… does body count really matter? Or are we just asking the wrong question? Let’s talk about it.

I had an insightful conversation with [guest's name], a guy who’s practicing my No Kissing for 3 Months rule and the Zero-Fight Relationship approach. He shared how he’s been able to set these boundaries without facing pushback from the people around him.

But here’s the interesting part—when women enforce the same boundaries, they often get questioned, criticized, or even pressured to change them. In this video, I unpack why this happens and how it reveals a deeper privilege men have in dating when it comes to setting standards.

I appreciate hearing his perspective, and I also share what this means for women who want to date with intention.

💬 Have you experienced this difference? Let me know in the comments!