• Having It All: A Conversation with Dr. Corinne Low
    Dec 2 2025

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.

    I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I provide as an Accredited Financial Counselor and Fair Play Facilitator. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com.

    For today’s episode we welcome Dr. Corinne Low, an Associate Professor of Business Economics and Public Policy at the Wharton School. Dr. Low has spoken to top academic institutions such as Harvard University, Stanford University, and Oxford, as well as to organizations like the New York Federal Reserve, Brookings, and the US Department of Labor.

    Her research focuses on the economics of gender and discrimination. Her first book, Having It All, is a bestseller, and the focus of today’s conversation.

    We discuss the evolving definition of success, emphasizing the need to balance career ambitions with personal fulfillment and lifestyle needs. They challenge the traditional notion of success as merely career maximization, advocating for a more holistic approach that includes financial stability and time management.

    Enjoy the show.


    Questions

    00:00 Introduction

    02:45 Your book argues that women’s unhappiness isn’t a result of “trying too little” but of operating within systems that were never designed for them to succeed. What do you see as the biggest structural change that would make dual-career households more sustainable today?

    04:27 You write that we should “think like economists” when making life decisions. How can couples apply that mindset at home—when deciding how to divide money, chores, and childcare?

    07:23 You describe relationships and careers as “deals” that exchange time, effort, and money for certain payoffs. How can couples assess whether they’re both getting a good deal at home and at work?

    17:10 In your research, you’ve found that even when women are the primary breadwinners, they still do more cooking and cleaning. What does the data tell us about why this happens—and what needs to shift culturally for men to truly share the load?

    21:43 You’ve written that women’s time constraints are fundamentally different from men’s. How can couples design systems—financial or domestic—that make time equity as real a goal as income equity?

    28:48 You challenge the old idea of “having it all.” If we were to redefine success for couples today, what should replace that phrase?

    30:41 You’ve said this book is both a guide and a call to action. What do you hope men, in particular, will take away from Having It All about their role in building more equal partnerships?

    32:51 What is one simple and actionable step you want listeners to take away from today’s conversation?

    https://www.corinnelow.com/: Time Tracking Sheet


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    37 mins
  • Money Together: A Conversation with Experts and Authors Douglas and Heather Boneparth
    Oct 21 2025

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.

    I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com or you can email me at brian@modernhusbands.com.

    For today’s podcast we welcome Heather and Douglas Boneparth, a powerhouse couple blending financial expertise with real-life relationship insights. Douglas, a nationally recognized financial advisor and founder of Bone Fide Wealth, serves on advisory councils for CNBC, Investopedia, and with his wife Heather, serves on our Modern Husbands Advisory Board. Heather is a former attorney and rising voice at the intersection of love, money, and family, now leads business and legal affairs at the firm. Together, they co-author The Joint Account newsletter and are passionate about helping couples build financial intimacy and teamwork.

    In this episode, Heather and Douglas share powerful personal stories, research-backed insights, and practical tips to help couples navigate financial conversations, divide responsibilities fairly, and build lasting trust. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed or simply want to strengthen your financial partnership, this episode offers both motivation and actionable advice. Enjoy the show.

    Show Notes

    00:00 Introduction
    02:14 What inspired you to write Money Together?
    07:30 How are you balancing your professional and family roles?
    12:52 Why do you think money is such a charged topic in relationships? What common myths or fears do you see couples bring into their financial lives?
    24:01 What are some common imbalances you’ve observed in how couples divide financial responsibility?
    28:34 How can couples begin to have fair conversations about labor—especially when one person feels overwhelmed or resentful?
    35:51 What’s your advice when one partner doesn’t want to be involved with money at all? Should they be able to "opt out?"
    42:17 Where can listeners learn more, and how can they start having “money together” conversations today?
    43:10 What is one piece of simple and actionable advice you can share with our listeners?

    Buy their book here: https://domoneytogether.com/


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    45 mins
  • What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't: A Conversation with Rhoda Mills Sommer, LCSW
    Nov 18 2025

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.

    I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com or you can email me at brian@modernhusbands.com.

    For today’s podcast we welcome Rhoda Mills Sommer, who has been helping couples for nearly 45 years, and is the host of the podcast, What Healthy Couples Know that You Don't.

    Today’s conversation explores the root causes behind money struggles, how to improve problem-solving and communication, and practical strategies for navigating hard conversations—especially around major topics like college expenses and shifting money values. Couples will walk away with tools to foster courage, connection, and clarity in their financial journey together. Enjoy the show.

    Show Notes

    00:00 Introduction
    01:35 What do you believe is underneath the struggles that couples have over money?
    03:15 What does it mean to share power?
    08:50 What is one big thing that interferes with couples problem solving over money?
    11:25 What can help relationships improve their problem solving abilities?
    13:38 What is one quality that husbands & wives can both embrace to help financial success move forward?
    17:55 What can couples do to find their courage to have conversations about money?
    20:20 What can improve hard conversations?
    22:29 Your thoughts about spending money for kids on college?
    32:55 Would you address money values changing over time?
    34:32 What should couples watch out for that can easily derail money conversations?
    36:31: Actionable advice for your life


    Rhoda Mills Sommer LCSW
    Blog & Website: therapyideas.net
    Twitter & Instagram: @rhodaoncouples
    Podcast: What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't


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    39 mins
  • Breadwinners: A Conversation with Melissa Hogenboom
    Nov 4 2025

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.

    I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com or you can email me at brian@modernhusbands.com.

    For today’s podcast we welcome Melissa Hogenboom, an award-winning journalist and editor at the BBC who is the author of Breadwinners.

    In this episode of the Modern Husbands podcast, we delve into the intricate dynamics of gender roles and economic anxiety. We explore the challenges faced by female breadwinners, the psychological impact of economic instability on men, and the evolving expectations of masculinity. Through insightful discussions, we uncover how societal norms and financial pressures shape relationships and individual well-being. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of these pressing issues and discover actionable steps to foster equality and resilience in modern partnerships.

    Show Notes

    00:00 Introduction
    02:44 What motivated you to write the book, Breadwinners?
    04:36 Can you define what it means to be a breadwinner, and distinguish between sole and primary breadwinners?
    07:49 Why do some men experience anxiety and stress when their wives are the breadwinners?
    09:46 What are the traits and attitudes men possess that lead to high marital satisfaction when he is married to a female breadwinner?
    13:29 Why is it that women who earn more often feel the need to overcompensate at home?
    17:54 Can you explain the concept of 'exchange-bargaining’ and how money becomes a bargaining chip in domestic labor?
    22:09 Can you describe financial control as a form of power that can easily veer into manipulation?
    27:53 How do societal expectations differ for same-sex couples when it comes to earning and domestic responsibilities?
    32:05 What does the science say about the benefits—for children and couples—of dads taking on caregiving roles?
    37:03 What are the traits of the men who stay home and take advantage of parental leave, or do not have problems when their wife is the breadwinner?
    40:50 What are the consequences of one partner with a low sense of power in the relationship?
    42:48 You mention that too little power creates stress, but too much reduces empathy. How can couples find the right balance of shared influence in their relationship?
    46:39 What are the small, actionable steps listeners can take today to start shifting power imbalances in their own relationships?

    Purchase the book: https://melissahogenboom.com/breadwinners-2/


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    51 mins
  • Work-Life Balance Starts at Home: Managing the Invisible Load Together – A Conversation with Dr. Julie Wayne
    Oct 7 2025

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.

    I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com.

    For today’s episode we welcome Dr. Julie Wayne, a Professor of Management at the Wake Forest University School of Business, specializing in work-family scholarship. Her research focuses on how work and personal lives intersect, examining work-family enrichment, the meaning and measurement of work-life balance, and the "invisible family load". Wayne has been recognized with the 2024 Kanter Award for Excellence in Work-Family Research for her significant contributions to the field.

    In this episode, Dr. Wayne breaks down the concepts of mental and emotional load—and why they so often go unseen in relationships. She explains how these hidden responsibilities impact men and women differently, and shares practical strategies for couples to notice, share, and reduce the invisible load at home. Whether you're managing careers, kids, or both, this conversation offers actionable insights to strengthen your partnership. Enjoy the show.

    Questions

    00:00 Introduction
    02:05 Where does your passion for your work originate?
    03:32 What exactly is the “mental load,” and why do people call it invisible?
    06:02 What does the mental load have to do with the intersection of work and home?
    13:02 How does it generally show up differently for men and women?
    18:17 How does the emotional load differ from the mental load, and why is it particularly challenging?
    22:37 What are some practical ways husbands and partners can notice, share, or reduce the emotional labor at home?
    31:17 Beyond the household, how can workplaces, policies, or broader societal expectations help men and women balance mental and emotional responsibilities more equitably?
    35:49 What is one piece of simple and actionable advice you want to share with our listeners?


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    38 mins
  • Does Making Less Money Mean You Enjoy Spending Less? A Conversation with Dr. Olson
    Sep 23 2025

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.

    I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com or you can email me at brian@modernhusbands.com.

    For today’s podcast we welcome Dr. Jenny Olson, an Assistant Professor of Marketing at Indiana University's Kelley School of Business. Dr. Olson just released research examining how people predict happiness from buying something, what actually happens, and whether how poor or rich you are impacts how we feel about it. Enjoy the show.

    Show Notes

    00:00 Introduction
    01:00 Fast overview of her previous groundbreaking research on joint bank accounts
    03:45 Judging people in poverty who spend money
    07:45 The findings from her research
    09:50 What her research has to do with our basic needs
    13:00 How to interpret the research and suggestions
    14:32 How do common misconceptions about income levels affect people’s expectations from happiness from their experiences
    17:05 What can dual career couples do to enhance their own happiness
    19:46 The line between spending and compulsive spending for happiness
    21:05 Examples of consumption experiences that she found drive happiness
    22:03 Self care: people prioritize the self care of others before themselves
    25:27 How has your research influenced your own views
    29:09 One piece of practical advice people can use now in their lives based on your research


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    30 mins
  • The Man Box: How Societal Norms Shape Men's Lives A Conversation with Dr. Gary Barker and Dr. Taveeshi Gupta
    Sep 9 2025

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.

    I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com.

    For today’s podcast we welcome Dr. Gary Barker and Dr. Taveeshi Gupta of Equimundo.

    Dr. Gary Barker is the CEO and co-founder of Equimundo and a globally recognized leader in engaging men and boys to advance gender equality, with over 30 years of experience across more than 50 countries.

    Dr. Taveeshi Gupta is the Senior Director of Research at Equimundo and a global expert on masculinities and gender with over 15 years of experience leading research on structural inequalities and their impact on youth and development.

    The research at Equimundo was the origin of the evidence used by the Congressional Dads Caucus for proposed legislation.

    Our conversation will center around Equimundo’s State of American Men 2025, a groundbreaking new study that offers an unflinching, data-driven look at the emotional, economic, and cultural pressures facing American men.

    At a time when narratives around masculinity are increasingly divisive and distorted, their annual study cuts through the noise with a clear, compassionate message: Men are not in crisis because of who they are — they’re in crisis because of what they lack.

    Perhaps that is a driver behind their finding, an absolutely terrifying statistic that 57% of men, and 52% of women, believe that the US would be a better place with a strong leader in charge who doesn’t bother with elections. The stakes of what is occurring in our country right now couldn’t be any higher.

    Link to research: https://www.equimundo.org/resources/state-of-american-men-2025/


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    48 mins
  • What’s On Her Mind: A Conversation with Dr. Daminger
    Aug 26 2025

    Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.

    I’m Brian Page, founder of Modern Husbands. Sometimes our listeners want more support than a podcast can give, individual or couple support, which I now provide. Details can be found at modernhusbands.com or you can email me at brian@modernhusbands.com.

    For today’s podcast we welcome Dr. Allison Daminger, an assistant professor of sociology at UW-Madison and the author of What's on Her Mind: The Mental Workload of Family Life, forthcoming in September 2025. Daminger's research is focused on how and why gender shapes family dynamics, particularly the division of work and power in couples. Her award-winning scholarship has been featured in outlets including The Atlantic, The New York Times, and Psychology Today. Daminger also writes a weekly newsletter, The Daminger Dispatch, about the intersections between gender and family life.

    Today’s discussion is laser focused on the mental load and what’s on the mind of working women. Enjoy the show.

    Show Notes

    01:00 Introduction
    01:55 Let’s start with the basics. What exactly is “cognitive labor,” and how is it different from other types of household labor?
    05:02 You break down cognitive labor into four tasks: anticipating, identifying, deciding, and monitoring. Can you walk us through what those look like in everyday family life?
    16:28 One of your findings is that even in households that believe in equality, women tend to carry more of the mental load. Why is that, and how does it persist even with good intentions?
    25:36 How do early childhood experiences shape the way men and women learn (or don’t learn) to do cognitive labor?
    28:44 Your research includes same-gender couples. What lessons can different-gender couples learn from how cognitive labor is handled in those relationships?
    32:11 Let’s talk about solutions. What can couples do if they want to move toward a more equitable distribution of cognitive labor? Where should they start?
    38:14 You write that many men want to help but feel unsure about how to jump in. What advice do you have for those men to begin showing up better?
    43:21 In the book, you describe how unequal cognitive labor can impact a woman’s identity, stress levels, and even career. Can you share a story or example that really stuck with you?
    45:32 Where can our listeners learn more about you and purchase your book?
    46:03 What is one piece of simple and actionable advice you want to leave our listeners with?

    Click here to learn more about Dr. Daminger and buy her book.


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    47 mins