What happens when a precision-timed therapist and a free-spirited adventurer fall in love? In this candid, spicy, and surprisingly hilarious conversation, Bryan Reeves and Silvy Khoucasian pull back the curtain on their own relationship to explore what it really takes to embrace differences—and not just survive them, but grow because of them.

From cultural clashes to conflicting travel styles, sexual pacing to social preferences, they reveal the real stories behind the highlight reel—and how they've learned to navigate those gaps without losing themselves (or each other).

Whether you’re navigating a new relationship or decades into one, this episode is your permission slip to stop fixing, start witnessing, and love without needing sameness.

00:00 – Silvy calls Bryan out.

02:00 – Introducing Silvy: “This is my unmasked version”

03:30 – Speaking alongside The Gottmans at the Real Love Ready Conference

05:00 – Time: Is being late disrespect—or just different wiring?

08:00 – Ireland trip flashback: how they travel at totally different speeds

10:30 – “You’re fast. I’m slow.” – Processing pace in life and relationship

13:00 – Cultural differences: Armenian-Arabic collectivism vs. American individualism

16:00 – Privacy vs. openness: Who gets to tell the story?

18:30 – Affection gaps, erotic blueprints, and the golden retriever dynamic

21:00 – The wounds we bring: neglect, protection, and projection

25:00 – “Willing to disappoint—and to be disappointed”

27:00 – Grieving expectations: Letting go of the fantasy version of your partner

30:00 – Creating clear agreements vs. quiet resentment

33:00 – The dance of individuality and support

35:00 – Navigating transitions and identity shifts over 10 years

38:00 – Why difference isn’t the enemy—it’s the initiation

40:00 – Wrap-up and a preview of more episodes to come

“The problem isn’t our differences—it’s making them wrong that causes problems.” – Silvy

“Your wound is holding hands with mine.” – Bryan

“I grieve my expectations of you so that I may discover your love yet again.” – Silvy

“You’re in my story now. It’s not just mine anymore.” – Bryan

“When it’s hysterical, it’s historical.” – Silvy and Bryan

“Respect can still be late.” – Silvy

“Resentment dies in the land of clear agreements.” – Bryan

Bryan Reeves → https://bryanreeves.com

Silvy Khoucasian → www.silvykhoucasian.com

In this heartfelt solo episode of Bridging Connections, host Bryan Reeves delves into the profound journey of navigating life transitions and personal growth. Reflecting on his own experiences, Bryan shares the challenges and revelations that come with the death of a dream, the practice of grief, and the art of surrender. Join Bryan as he explores the importance of embracing change with grace, finding gratitude in unexpected places, and the enduring power of love and loss. Tune in for an introspective conversation that invites you to reflect on your own life transitions and how you can meet them with more ease and gratitude.

• The paradox of being relational yet introverted
• Grieving the dream of home ownership and fatherhood
• Moving back to Los Angeles after the “great pandemic migration”
• Letting go of material things and the stories they hold
• The practice of grief in a death-phobic, grief-illiterate culture
• The meaning behind Bryan’s tattoo: Command. Surrender. Breathe.
• The flowering of a crepe myrtle as a symbol of unexpected beauty in endings
• A reflection on leaving behind gifts that may benefit others

“It’s not the end of everything. It’s just the end of everything you know.”

“A dream can’t die if you don’t dare to dream in the first place.”

“Grief is the price we pay for love.”

“We are like plants. We need the right soil to thrive.”

“How might you meet the death of a dream with more grace, more ease, and perhaps even more gratitude?”

Bryan invites listeners to consider the dreams they may be quietly grieving or actively resisting. Rather than clinging to what was or what might have been, he offers a profound question:

• Die Wise by Stephen Jenkinson
• The Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis Weller
• Iron John by Robert Bly

For more on Bryan’s coaching, writing, and future episodes, visit bryanreeves.com

[00:02:15] - Introduction to the episode and the theme of life transitions.

[00:05:30] - Brian shares his personal journey of moving across the country and the death of a dream.

[00:12:45] - The importance of acknowledging and grieving the loss of dreams.

[00:20:10] - Reflections on the practice of surrender and its role in personal growth.

[00:28:00] - The story of planting a tree and its symbolic meaning in life transitions.

[00:35:20] - Brian's insights on love, loss, and the enduring power of gratitude.

[00:42:00] - Closing thoughts and an invitation to reflect on personal life transitions.

What does it mean to become fully alive as a man? In this powerful debrief, Bryan and Tait reflect on the transformative journey of Elevate 2025, a year-long men's journey that culminates in a life-changing retreat.

From breaking emotional masks to finding real brotherhood and discovering true purpose—not as a destination, but as a way of being—this episode dives into what happens when men are finally given permission to feel it all and be it all.

This isn’t just another “men’s retreat recap.” This is a raw, grounded look at the healing, aliveness, and lasting connection that unfolds when the right men gather in the right way.

• Why most men are stuck between anger and apathy
• What “being a full-range man” actually looks like in real life
• The power of emotional safety in all-male spaces
• What happens when a man finally says, “I’m f*cked up” and gets met with real support
• The truth about purpose: It’s not out there—it’s right here
• How this retreat created friendships that will last a lifetime
• Why most men don't have people who would fly across the country for their funeral—and how that can change
• The 3 Promises of the Elevate journey: Fully Enlivened, Powerfully On Purpose, Deeply Supported

[03:00] – Why it’s so hard to describe the magic of a retreat

[06:15] – The emotional wiring of boys—and how we shut it down

[07:50] – Anger and apathy: the two emotions men are left with

[10:30] – Real talk: “I’m not okay” and finding support

[14:00] – Becoming a full-range man: Warrior and Lover archetypes

[17:00] – Why purpose isn’t a future goal—it’s a daily choice

[24:00] – Deep support: what real brotherhood looks like

[28:45] – Who would fly to your funeral? The power of connection

[30:45] – Living with men who will hold your grief and your greatness

[32:00] – How to join the Elevate journey + what's next

• You’re a man who feels like something’s missing—even if life looks “successful” on the outside
• You’ve been curious about men’s retreats but unsure if they’re for you
• You’ve felt alone in your struggles and want genuine connection
• You’re a woman who loves a man who’s ready for more depth, purpose, and heart

• Elevate Men’s Journey → https://bryanreeves.com
• Book Mentioned: Real Boys by William Pollack
• Past Retreats: Elevate 21, 24, and now Elevate 25/26
• Upcoming Podcast Series: SEX (Yep—we’re finally going there)

If you’re ready to explore what it means to be fully alive—and deeply supported—email Bryan at bryan@bryanreeves.com to get info about Elevate 2026.

And if you know a man who needs this… send him this episode. It might just change everything.