In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Annette Benedetti—Portland-based sex and intimacy coach, writer, and host of the acclaimed show Talk Sex With Annette—about reclaiming pleasure, power, and connection through curiosity and compassion. Ranked in the top 2.5% of podcasts globally, Annette’s work dives deep into taboo-breaking conversations around kink, trauma, and empowerment, informed by both her professional expertise and lived experience as a survivor.

We explore how cultural narratives and trauma shape our relationship with sexuality, the body, and intimacy—and how healing begins with awareness, consent, and curiosity. Annette shares practical insights on rebuilding trust and sensation after trauma, moving away from performance-based sex toward mutual exploration, and helping men appreciate their own bodies as worthy of pleasure and beauty.

A raw, empowering conversation about dismantling shame, embracing embodiment, and creating space for authentic healing and pleasure.

Key Points:
@ 0:52 Barriers to embracing feminine power
@ 4:39 Navigating trauma and its impacts
@ 9:43 Rebuilding trust and sensation after trauma
@ 16:31 Reframing goals and expectations around sex
@ 47:30 Appreciating the male form and body

Relevant Links:Annette Benedetti Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/Annette Benedetti YouTube:

https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Honey Brooks, a rural Australian mum, top OnlyFans creator, and bold voice redefining modern relationships—about navigating stigma, intimacy, and authenticity in the adult industry. From building a million-dollar business on her family farm to creating content with her husband, Honey shares her journey of creating content with her husband, including the importance of communication, trust, and respecting boundaries when sex and work intersect. We explore subscriber relationships, the responsibilities of adult creators, and the importance of fostering healthier conversations about sexuality. A candid and empowering dialogue on shame, connection, and writing your own rules.

Key Points:

@ 0:00 Introductions and background

@ 3:30 Navigating disclosure and stigma

@ 8:57 Creating content with a partner

@ 27:41 Audience and subscriber relationships

@ 42:39 Reflections on the adult industry

@ 48:43 Closing thoughts

Relevant links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/honeyybrooks/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@honeybrooks_

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak again with Leah Carey—sex and relationship coach based in the US who specializes in supporting people recovering from high-control or narcissistic abuse backgrounds. This time, we explore how trauma impacts intimacy, consent, and sexual connection. She explains how constant stress and lack of autonomy in childhood wire the brain for hypervigilance and fear, reducing creative problem-solving and shaping long-term challenges in relationships. We discuss why common self-care practices like meditation or journaling can be triggering for survivors, and explore trauma-sensitive alternatives that feel safer and more accessible. Leah also unpacks the complexities of intimacy and consent for those with trauma histories, including people-pleasing tendencies, blurred boundaries, and strategies for cultivating safe, pleasurable experiences. A deeply compassionate dialogue on recovery, autonomy, and reclaiming intimacy after control.

Key Points

@ 4:36 Impact of trauma on brain development

@ 12:27 Challenges with common self-care practices

@ 18:37 Navigating intimacy and consent

@ 50:59 Recap and resources

Relevant Links

Leah Carey Website: www.leahcarey.com

Leah’s Substack: https://xoleahcarey.substack.com/

Leah Carey Instagram: @goodgirlstalk