Actions alone are insufficient for healing after betrayal. Today we're talking about the importance of genuine connection, the impact of childhood experiences on emotional safety, and the necessity of self-awareness and self-care in the healing process. A person who has been betrayed has to prioritize their emotional safety and seek deeper, more meaningful connections in their relationships. Let's talk about how...

Key Takeaways:

• Healing requires more than just actions; it needs genuine connection.
• Box checking can create an illusion of safety but lacks depth.
• Emotional safety is often rooted in childhood experiences.
• Resentment can undermine efforts to rebuild trust.
• Real healing often disrupts appearances and requires vulnerability.
• Self-awareness is crucial for understanding emotional needs.
• It's important to communicate needs clearly in relationships.
• Surface-level compliance can lead to deeper feelings of loneliness.
• Creating safety starts from within and requires self-compassion.
• True connection is built on mutual respect and understanding.

More from me:

• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Today I'm going to share a personal experience of navigating some complex emotions during my daughter's wedding. Let's talk about the importance of making room for all feelings, including joy and grief, and acknowledge the societal expectations surrounding emotional responses to significant life events.

Key Takeaways:

• Emotional maturity involves holding multiple truths at once.
• It's okay to feel both joy and grief simultaneously.
• Cultural expectations can create pressure around how we should feel during significant events.
• Mixed emotions are a natural part of the human experience.
• Self-judgment can intensify emotional struggles.
• Making room for all feelings is essential for healing.
• Emotions are not problems; they are experiences to be felt.
• You don't have to wait for the hard times to celebrate the good.
• All parts of you are welcome in your emotional journey.
• Healing involves embracing complexity and allowing all emotions to coexist.

More from me:

• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode we talk about how important it is to focus on personal growth after infidelity rather than fixating on the actions of the partner. We need to prioritize self-healing, understanding the true nature of remorse, and the significance of moving forward rather than trying to return to the past.

Key Takeaways:

• Focus on personal growth rather than the partner's actions.
• The decision to stay or go should not be the first question.
• Remorse from a partner does not equate to personal healing.
• Healing is not contingent on the partner's regret or recognition.
• Self-care and personal needs should take precedence over monitoring the partner's change.
• Moving forward is essential; returning to the past is not an option.
• Trusting oneself is more powerful than surveillance.
• Liberation from dependency on others is key to healing.
• Ask yourself who you are becoming in the healing process.
• This experience can sharpen important aspects of your character.

More from me:

• Sign up for the class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles