Have you ever been told you're too sensitive? Too emotional? Too intense? Too much? Maybe you learned to monitor how much you talk in conversations, always holding back. Maybe you apologize for having needs, or you've gotten really good at making yourself small so others feel comfortable around you.

Episode Description

In this episode, we explore the "I'm Too Much" barrier and discover that you were never too much—you were just in spaces too small. Through stories of transformation, including the revelation that "enthusiasm" literally means "having God within," you'll uncover how religious environments fear female power and authentic expression. This isn't about becoming more demanding—it's about understanding that what you were told was "too much" was actually God's Spirit expressing through your unique design.

In this episode, you'll discover:

→ How the "I'm Too Much" belief gets installed through messages that your emotions are excessive, your needs are selfish, and your passion is prideful

→ Why you weren't born with a problem—you were born with a size eight foot but given a size seven shoe (or smaller)

→ What this barrier is costing you in your relationships, spiritual life, work, and even in your physical body

→ How real love—divine love—doesn't ask you to shrink but invites you to expand into bigger spaces

→ One brave action this week to stop apologizing for your fullness and step into spaces big enough to honor who you are

Healing Truth

You were never too much. You were divinely designed. The fire in you, the passion, the deep emotions, the big dreams—none of that was ever the problem. What you were told was "too much" is actually God's Spirit expressing through your unique gifts. You didn't need to become smaller. You needed bigger spaces, bigger relationships, bigger containers that could honor your divine design. Real love doesn't require you to be less—it celebrates you being fully you.

Ready to go deeper?

Discover your personal healing path: Take our free Religious Trauma Assessment at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com and uncover which of the 12 hidden barriers might be shaping your relationship with God, yourself, and others. You'll receive a personalized report plus my complete Essentials Starter Kit—including my book He Is Enough, Truth Over Tradition mini-course, live reading circles, and access to our supportive community—all completely FREE.

Transform your story completely: Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com—a six-month guided experience to unravel religious trauma, instill God's truth, and create your new story alongside women who truly understand. In Milestone 10, learn to navigate authentic relationships with divine boundaries and step into containers big enough for your authentic self.

About Debra

Debra Shafer is a spiritual healing coach for Christian women and the creator of the Coming Home Journey—a gentle, soul-level pathway to help women untangle religious trauma, rebuild trust in God, and find peace without walking away from their faith. As the founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle, Debra brings together decades of experience in personal ministry, Biblical psychology, and trauma-informed mentoring. She knows what it's like to love God deeply while wrestling with fear, shame, and silence. Known for her voice of gentle clarity, healing, and truth, she now walks women home to the God they always hoped was real.

Listener Love

If this episode helped you see that you're not too much, would you share it with someone who needs to hear this truth? And a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women discover that their needs aren't too much and their presence is a gift.

This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, spiritual healing, and the ability to trust God completely. Through addressing generational trauma and nurturing true connection, we help you experience God's love in the deepest way. Strengthen your relationship with a safe, loving God.

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to give to everyone else... but when it comes to receiving—whether that's rest, support, money, or even joy—something inside you freezes up? Maybe you undercharge for your work, or buying yourself something beautiful feels almost... sinful.

Episode Description

In this episode, we explore the "I Don't Have" barrier—a deep-rooted belief that there's never enough for you. Through Tekyia's transformation story from fear-driven obedience to love-based trust, you'll discover how scarcity thinking gets installed through religious messaging and infects both your material and spiritual life. This isn't about becoming materialistic—it's about understanding that God's pleasure is to give you the Kingdom, and you were always meant to flourish.

In this episode, you'll discover:

→ How religious environments confuse scarcity with holiness, teaching you that wanting more means you're selfish

→ Why "I Don't Have" is really about unworthiness—the belief you don't deserve abundance from God, others, or life itself

→ The connection between material scarcity and spiritual scarcity, and how both keep you depleted and afraid

→ How to shift from serving everyone from emptiness to serving from overflow and God's provision

→ One practical step this week to start receiving God's abundance without guilt or fear

Healing Truth

You were never meant to live in scarcity. God delights in your thriving. It is your Father's good pleasure to give you the Kingdom—not His reluctant obligation, but His pleasure. You're not selfish for wanting rest, not greedy for desiring provision, and not spiritually immature for feeling depleted. God isn't glorified by your depletion or honored by your exhaustion. He came that you may have life to the full—and that fullness includes both spiritual and material abundance.

Ready to go deeper?

Discover your personal healing path: Take our free Religious Trauma Assessment at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com and uncover which of the 12 hidden barriers might be shaping your relationship with God, yourself, and others. You'll receive a personalized report plus my complete Essentials Starter Kit—including my book He Is Enough, Truth Over Tradition mini-course, live reading circles, and access to our supportive community—all completely FREE.

Transform your story completely: Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com—a six-month guided experience to unravel religious trauma, instill God's truth, and create your new story alongside women who truly understand. In Milestone 9, discover how to live from God's abundance and serve from overflow instead of depletion.

About Debra

Debra Shafer is a spiritual healing coach for Christian women and the creator of the Coming Home Journey—a gentle, soul-level pathway to help women untangle religious trauma, rebuild trust in God, and find peace without walking away from their faith. As the founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle, Debra brings together decades of experience in personal ministry, Biblical psychology, and trauma-informed mentoring. She knows what it's like to love God deeply while wrestling with fear, shame, and silence. Known for her voice of gentle clarity, healing, and truth, she now walks women home to the God they always hoped was real.

Listener Love

If this episode helped you see that you deserve abundance, would you share it with someone who needs this truth? And a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women discover that their needs aren't too much and their presence is a gift.

This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, spiritual healing, and the ability to trust God completely. Through addressing generational trauma and nurturing true connection, we help you experience God's love in the deepest way. Strengthen your relationship with a safe, loving God.