In this episode, Derek and Jordan go deep into what it means to prepare for your new marriage.

Most spouses interpret distance, silence, or delay as God being against them—but few recognize that He’s actually reordering them.

Before restoration comes reformation. Before covenant is rebuilt, the individuals within it must be remade.This conversation walks through three critical areas God refines before He restores:1️⃣ Preparing Your Emotions — Learning to discern between conviction, pain, and pressure. Training your emotions to submit to truth before the next attack ever comes.2️⃣ Preparing Your Relationships — Understanding how God reorders access and connection. Some people were for your season, but not your assignment. Learn how to discern covenant, seasonal, and prophetic relationships that align with restoration.3️⃣ Preparing Your Intercession — Moving from emotional prayer to spiritual governance. Intercession isn’t performance—it’s representation. Standing before the throne room of grace on behalf of your spouse and family, with the posture of a reconciler, not a reactor.This episode carries deep revelation for any husband or wife walking through the process of becoming.You are on assignment.You are being prepared.Don’t mistake the process for punishment—this is God’s mercy at work.Scriptures referenced: Matthew 15:1–15, Matthew 25:14–30, John 15:2–6, Luke 13:6–9, Proverbs 24:30–34, Romans 1:21–25, Ephesians 4:19, Exodus 32:32, Romans 9:1–5.

In this episode, we dive deep into a topic that often gets overlooked in marriage: the difference between wounds carried into the marriage (pre-marriage wounds) and wounds that arise in the marriage (in-marriage wounds).

If you’ve noticed recurring conflict, cycles you can't seem to break, or strain in your relationship that doesn’t seem to make sense, this one is for you.

We’ll unpack:

• Why simply changing the scenery (new job, new house, new spouse) won’t fix the root of the problem.

• How to identify whether a struggle started before your covenant or within it.

• The difference between trigger and root — what event might have ignited the wound versus what history is actually fueling it.

• A useful diagnosis framework (four questions) to help you trace the origin, the agreement you've made, and where the fruit of the wound is showing up.

• Common examples of pre-marriage wounds: family dysfunction, step-family trauma, unmet father/mother images, old soul-ties, unhealed childhood vulnerabilities.

• Common examples of in-marriage wounds: betrayal or secrecy, poor communication patterns, spiritual imbalance, financial conflict, withholding affection or intimacy, misaligned leadership in the home.

• Practical next-steps: How to steward the wound — for pre-marriage wounds, how to renounce unhealthy vows, rebuild identity, seal the temple and fill the void; for in-marriage wounds, how to walk in ongoing repentance, rebuild governance, restore what’s broken, and remove what’s feeding the wound.

Why it matters:
Many couples think their conflict is only about “what’s happening now,” but the truth is that unresolved issues from before the marriage often surface inside the marriage and get mis-diagnosed.

If you treat the fruit instead of the root, you might keep experiencing the same patterns in a new season.

What you’ll walk away with:

• A clearer understanding of whether your marital pain is rooted in the past or being created in the present.

• A clearer path toward healing: both internal (identity, past wounds) and relational (communication, trust, leadership).

• Practical steps to apply in your life and in your marriage that move you beyond mere avoidance or surface fixes.

• A renewed hope: you don’t have to keep repeating the same cycle. The difference between pre-marriage and in-marriage wounding can make all the difference.

In this episode, we talk about the rise of false brides in the church, the danger of false stands in marriage, and the spiritual deception that’s entering homes under the disguise of faith. Many believers have received salvation, but they’re building their marriages in their own name instead of God’s.This message will shake every spouse who’s praying for restoration but standing from the wrong posture. It’s a prophetic warning for those who are tolerating compromise, idolatry, and self-righteousness — in the name of “waiting on God.”🔥 Topics Covered:The difference between the Designed Divide and the False DivideHow the Refiner’s Fire exposes what was built on the wrong foundationWhy your heart can make you just as guilty as your spouseHow to discern when your “stand” has turned into idolatryThe Hebrew word pictures behind fire, man, woman, and warWhy the church is being infiltrated by false brides and false doctrines📖 Scriptures:1 Corinthians 3 • Luke 13 • Malachi 3 • Isaiah 46 • Matthew 25