In this episode, we dive deep into a topic that often gets overlooked in marriage: the difference between wounds carried into the marriage (pre-marriage wounds) and wounds that arise in the marriage (in-marriage wounds).

If you’ve noticed recurring conflict, cycles you can't seem to break, or strain in your relationship that doesn’t seem to make sense, this one is for you.

We’ll unpack:

• Why simply changing the scenery (new job, new house, new spouse) won’t fix the root of the problem.

• How to identify whether a struggle started before your covenant or within it.

• The difference between trigger and root — what event might have ignited the wound versus what history is actually fueling it.

• A useful diagnosis framework (four questions) to help you trace the origin, the agreement you've made, and where the fruit of the wound is showing up.

• Common examples of pre-marriage wounds: family dysfunction, step-family trauma, unmet father/mother images, old soul-ties, unhealed childhood vulnerabilities.

• Common examples of in-marriage wounds: betrayal or secrecy, poor communication patterns, spiritual imbalance, financial conflict, withholding affection or intimacy, misaligned leadership in the home.

• Practical next-steps: How to steward the wound — for pre-marriage wounds, how to renounce unhealthy vows, rebuild identity, seal the temple and fill the void; for in-marriage wounds, how to walk in ongoing repentance, rebuild governance, restore what’s broken, and remove what’s feeding the wound.

Why it matters:
Many couples think their conflict is only about “what’s happening now,” but the truth is that unresolved issues from before the marriage often surface inside the marriage and get mis-diagnosed.

If you treat the fruit instead of the root, you might keep experiencing the same patterns in a new season.

What you’ll walk away with:

• A clearer understanding of whether your marital pain is rooted in the past or being created in the present.

• A clearer path toward healing: both internal (identity, past wounds) and relational (communication, trust, leadership).

• Practical steps to apply in your life and in your marriage that move you beyond mere avoidance or surface fixes.

• A renewed hope: you don’t have to keep repeating the same cycle. The difference between pre-marriage and in-marriage wounding can make all the difference.

In this episode, we talk about the rise of false brides in the church, the danger of false stands in marriage, and the spiritual deception that’s entering homes under the disguise of faith. Many believers have received salvation, but they’re building their marriages in their own name instead of God’s.This message will shake every spouse who’s praying for restoration but standing from the wrong posture. It’s a prophetic warning for those who are tolerating compromise, idolatry, and self-righteousness — in the name of “waiting on God.”🔥 Topics Covered:The difference between the Designed Divide and the False DivideHow the Refiner’s Fire exposes what was built on the wrong foundationWhy your heart can make you just as guilty as your spouseHow to discern when your “stand” has turned into idolatryThe Hebrew word pictures behind fire, man, woman, and warWhy the church is being infiltrated by false brides and false doctrines📖 Scriptures:1 Corinthians 3 • Luke 13 • Malachi 3 • Isaiah 46 • Matthew 25

The Church is failing marriages...but marriages are also failing the Church.We’ve watched believers show up for service, serve faithfully, tithe consistently and still live in bondage. Why?Because the modern church looks alive, but carries no authority.And marriages keep feeding that same system with unhealed hearts, unbroken pride, and unrepentant patterns.In this episode, Derek breaks down what Jesus actually came to build.He didn’t say, “I’ll build My synagogue.”He said, “I’ll build My ekklesia.”The ekklesia isn’t a building.It’s a governing body of called-out ones, sons and daughters walking in covenant, carrying authority, and legislating heaven’s rule on earth.We expose why so many churches today are spiritually dead:— They avoid deliverance.— They lack discipleship.— They place people in leadership without accountability.— They hide behind programs and personality tests instead of repentance and transformation.But we also confront how marriages have failed the Church, by bringing unclean, undelivered, divided temples into the house of God and expecting revival to come from a place we refuse to purify.This is a call to return.To understand what it means to be the Bride.Because God isn’t just healing your marriage…He’s healing His ekklesia through your marriage.

If you’ve been praying for restoration, fasting, forgiving, and still feel like nothing is changing, this episode will help you understand why. Many spouses want breakthrough in marriage but have never actually encountered God. Without an encounter, we stay bound to the same cycles—bitterness, offense, pride, self-righteousness, and unbelief.This conversation exposes what really keeps couples from transformation. It’s not always the spouse who walked away, filed for divorce, or stopped communicating. Sometimes the real barrier is unrepentant sin, tolerated compromise, or the refusal to let God confront the parts of us that still produce the fruit of the curse.Scripture shows that when bitterness takes root, it defiles everything it touches (Hebrews 12:14–15). When self-protection replaces surrender, we trade the fear of the Lord for the preservation of self. And when we reject rebuke, we also reject the wisdom that could have saved the marriage.This is not about another strategy or technique for communication—it’s about allowing the Holy Spirit to bring transformation through encounter. Because once you truly meet the living God, you don’t just change your perspective on marriage—you change your nature.If you’ve reached the end of your strength and still desire to see your covenant restored, it may be time to stop asking for relief and start crying out for encounter.

Your marriage pain isn’t random.Every disruption, every cycle, every unanswered prayer — it’s not God ignoring you. It’s God positioning you.But here’s the hard truth most people don’t want to hear:👉 Without purification, there is no restoration.👉 Without holiness, there is no healing.👉 Without consecration, there is no Kingdom positioning.In this episode, we dive deep into:The 5 truths that expose when a marriage is out of position.Why a fractured soul (mind, will, emotions, morals) produces broken marriages.How the enemy exploits chaos to keep your covenant stuck in cycles.Why God uses disruption as love to pull you into consecration.The biblical foundation for why your marriage must be purified before it can be positioned for Kingdom work.This is not just about fixing fights or ending the pain. This is about becoming whole in Christ so your marriage can carry the anointing, calling, and assignment it was designed for.“Come close to God [with a contrite heart] and He will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” — James 4:8

Most people in the church, in counseling, and even in marriage ministries don’t realize the truth: DISC, Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, and the Temperaments are not harmless tools—they are rooted in doctrines of demons.In this episode, I expose the origins of these popular personality systems and show you why they are so dangerous for marriages and families. These tests may look like “wisdom,” but their roots come from occult practices, pagan philosophy, and New Age mysticism.What’s at stake?— Your God-given identity.— Your covenant as husband and wife.— The Spirit-led fruit of your marriage.When spouses start identifying more with personality labels than with the image of Christ, they open the door for division, deception, and destruction. But God has called us to something higher: image-bearing, sonship, Spirit-led gifts, and Kingdom assignments.🔎 In this podcast, you’ll learn:The dark origins of DISC, Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, and TemperamentsWhy these systems are infiltrating churches and counseling roomsThe biblical warning against doctrines of demons and false wisdomHow Satan steals identity to kill marriagesThe true way God defines His sons and daughtersThis is a counter-cultural teaching, but it’s one every marriage needs.

Marriage is under attack—and most husbands and wives were never taught how to fight for it.In this episode of Prophetic Spouses, Derek exposes the false foundations that have whitewashed marriages and calls spouses back to God’s prophetic design for covenant, order, and restoration.No one prepared you for the real demands of marriage. No one showed you how to engage in spiritual warfare for your family. No one taught you how to integrate your marriage into a community that calls you to God’s vision. But there is hope.👉 In this episode, we’ll cover:Why so many marriages are sick at the heart—and how God restores themWhat Ezekiel says about false peace and flimsy foundations (Ezekiel 13:10–12)How Satan uses marriage as the vehicle to attack your family and future generationsWhy God is restoring the five-fold gifts (apostle, prophet, teacher, evangelist, pastor) to marriagesThe prophetic promises over your marriage, your family, and your futureThis is not the time to be strong in your own power. This is the time to be humble, submitted, and filled with the Spirit of God. The prophetic call is clear:✅ Gospel-infused husbands✅ Gospel-infused wives✅ Gospel-infused marriagesYour marriage carries a prophetic promise—and when husbands and wives walk in unity and gifting, they don’t just change their homes…they shift the church, the region, and even nations.📖 Scriptures referenced:Ezekiel 13:10–12, 1 Timothy 1:18, 2 Corinthians 3:14–18, Ephesians 4:11–12

In this episode of Submission Part 2: Boundaries, Triggers & Traumas, we confront one of the greatest deceptions shaping marriages and families today.Our generation is obsessed with therapy trends, self-protection, and man-made fictions. We’ve traded God’s design for psychological language that soothes the flesh but never heals the spirit.👉 Full disclosure therapy leaves you suspicious instead of healed.👉 Generational “no-contact” preaches estrangement instead of honor.👉 Boundaries have become fortresses of fear instead of standards of righteousness.But here’s the truth:God did not design you with triggers.Boundaries without the Spirit are strongholds.Sons and daughters of God should not be governed by trauma, but moved by the Spirit.We are raising up a culture of believers discipled by psychology instead of transformed by Scripture—and it’s leaving homes out of order, marriages broken, and covenants without peace.In this episode we unpack:✅ Why boundaries are today’s language for strongholds✅ Why unclean spirits and fools are the only ones “triggered” in Scripture✅ How submission is about consecration, not control✅ How to stop studying your spouse’s sin and start walking in God’s peaceThis is a prophetic warning and encouragement: your boundaries are giving power to your spouse’s sin. But the blood of Jesus has the final word.📖 Key Scriptures: 2 Timothy 1:7, James 3:18, Proverbs 3:5–6, Galatians 5:16, Philippians 4:6–9, 2 Corinthians 10:4–5