“Why So Nervous? Calming the Chaotic Nervous System with Carter Doyle (Part II)

Welcome to Calming the Chaos! Today, we continue the conversation about the chaos of our nervous system. Joining me is someone who can make emotional chaos sound both hilarious and profound — Carter Doyle, a Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner who works with people whose chaos is layered: trauma, anxiety, ADHD, spiritual/identity hurt — and I help them calm the nervous system first so everything else is possible.

Learn more about Carter at https://www.leafpsychiatry.com/

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“Why So Nervous? Calming the Chaotic Nervous System with Carter Doyle (Part I)

Welcome to Calming the Chaos!

Today, we’re talking about something we all have experienced, but none of us fully understand: “The nervous system.”

Our nervous system is chaotic, brilliant, annoying, and somehow still thinks we live in the forest being hunted by wolves — even though the only predator we’ve encountered today is a parking ticket.

So today, we’re going to dive into the absurdity and the tenderness of it — the science, the stories, and the moments when our bodies completely betrayed us at the worst possible times.

And joining me is someone who can make emotional chaos sound both hilarious and profound — Carter Doyle, a Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner who works with people whose chaos is layered: trauma, anxiety, ADHD, spiritual/identity hurt — and I help them calm the nervous system first so everything else is possible.

So sit back and join us as we explore the beautiful disaster that is… your nervous system

Learn more about Carter at https://www.leafpsychiatry.com/

#CalmingTheChaos

#NervousSystemRegulation

#RegulateYourNervousSystem

#CalmYourMind

#MentalHealthSupport

#EmotionalWellbeing

#StressReliefTools

#HealingJourne

#MentalHealthPodcast

#WellnessPodcast

#TherapyTalk

#PsychologyToday

#MindBodyConnection

#TraumaInformed

#ExpertInsights

#AnxietyRelief

#StressManagement

#Overstimulated

#BurnoutRecovery

#FromChaosToCalm

#Overwhelmed

#InnerCalm

#YouAreNotBroken

#HealingIsPossible

#FeelSafeAgain

#CalmIsLearned

#YourBodyKnows

#NervousSystemReset

Your Dreams Have a Message!

How your Dreams Can Calm Your Chaos | Dream Expert Ara Trembly Explains

Timestamps & Topics

00:00 – Introduction: Chaos in the world and finding peace in sleep

Host opens with reflections on Halloween 2025, government shutdowns, and everyday stress — setting the stage for how dreams can offer calm amidst chaos.

01:43 – What do dreams mean?

Dreams as chaos, confusion, and mystery — why they often make less sense than waking life.

02:21 – Meet Ara Trembly, Licensed Professional Counselor & Hypnotherapist

Guest introduction: Ara Tremblay, psychotherapist and author of Dreaming God’s Way, joins to explain how dreams can reveal guidance and healing.

03:19 – Why do we dream?

Ara explains the science and psychology of dreaming — how our brains process sensory overload and solve problems while we sleep.

05:08 – Dreams as problem solvers

Famous example: Golfer Jack Nicklaus discovered a swing correction in his dream — showing how our subconscious helps us improve in waking life.

06:37 – “I don’t dream!” – Why everyone actually does

Discussion about people who believe they don’t dream, how to improve dream recall, and using self-suggestion to remember dreams.

08:23 – Learning from your dreams

How to interpret dreams symbolically and relate them to situations in your daily life.

09:13 – Lucid dreaming and self-discovery

Ara shares a lucid dream experience that helped him overcome writer’s block while working on his book.

11:45 – Are nightmares useful?

How nightmares reveal hidden fears, unresolved stress, and opportunities for personal growth.

13:30 – Dream analysis example: The kitten in the freezer

Live interpretation of a listener’s disturbing dream — exploring symbolism, inner child themes, and vulnerability.

16:22 – The house and scaffolding dream

Symbolism of homes as representations of the mind and feeling “stuck” or disconnected from others.

18:19 – The flying dream

Flying as a symbol of freedom and joy — how uplifting dreams remind us to enjoy life and embrace our personal power.

20:38 – Turning chaos into clarity

How understanding dream symbolism can help us find calm and meaning in chaotic times.

21:08 – About Ara Tremblay’s book: Dreaming God’s Way

Exploring how to interpret dreams spiritually and practically — with insights that connect psychology and faith.

22:45 – Why dream symbols are personal

Ara explains why dream dictionaries are misleading — your dream symbols are unique to your life and experience.

23:14 – Driving backwards: Lessons from the subconscious

Dream analysis of moving backward vs. forward in life — learning to focus on the future, not the past.

25:39 – Final thoughts: Learning from the unconscious

Using dreams as tools to calm daily chaos, gain perspective, and reconnect with peace.

26:08 – Closing & Thanks

Wrapping up with gratitude and a reminder: even nightmares can bring wisdom.

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Guest Information

Ara Trembly – Licensed Professional Counselor, Board Certified Hypnotherapist, and Author

Book: “Dreaming God’s Way” watch at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JgEk9SFEeSQ

Website: 10-10-hypnosis.com

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Key Takeaways

• Dreams process emotional overload from daily life.

• Everyone dreams — remembering them just takes intention.

• Nightmares often reveal fears and growth opportunities.

• Symbols are personal — meaning depends on you, not a dream dictionary.

• Your dreams can calm your chaos and help you make sense of life’s challenges.

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#dream interpretation #why we dream #nightmares meaning #psychology of dreams, #how to remember dreams #dream

“From Chaos to Clarity – Managing ADHD Effectively” with Ethan Reisboard

Ethan Reisboard has struggled with ADHD (combined type) since childhood. He’s also had debilitating migraines and eye dysfunction as a result of post-concussion syndrome. After years of working with countless professionals and trying various treatment methods without success, he reached out to his Hypnotherapist. Fortunately, Ethan found that through doing Hypnotherapy, he was able to quiet his mind and finally begin the process of recovery.

Currently, Ethan lives in Costa Rica and is a Certified Hypnotherapist with specialties in ADHD and Anxiety. He now devotes his private practice to doing hypnotherapy as a healing method for a variety of mental health concerns.

In this episode, Ethan tells us his story, and how he uses hypnotherapy to help people heal from a variety of different mental health struggles, including ADHD and Anxiety.

Visit Ethan on his website at www.ethanreishypnotherapy.com. He works with people all over the world!

#mentalhealth #attentiondeficithyperactivitydisorder #ADHD

“Betrayal in Relationships – Is Forgiveness Possible?” – with Dr. Bruce Chalmer

Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a Licensed Psychologist in Vermont who has been working with couples for over 30 years. In this podcast, he offers his insights about the topic of betrayal in relationships. Dr. Chalmer explains what betrayal is, why people betray each other, and how to rebuild trust after a betrayal has occurred. Through his teaching, consulting, and books, his ideas have helped thousands of couples and their therapists. Together with his wife Judy Alexander, Dr. Chalmer hosts the podcast “Couples Therapy in Seven Words.”

Dr. Chalmer’s book entitled “Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again,” helps us to understand why betrayal happens in relationships, and how to rebuild trust so that the wounds of betrayal can be healed.

Show Notes:

A substantial number of couples come to Bruce because major relationship betrayals have occurred

Therapy is not a cookie cutter approach to healing relationships

Dr. Bruce defines betrayal as:

1. Something big

2. The expectations you have in a certain relationship (i.e., spouses, family, co-workers)

3. Lies happen

4. Mistrust results

Dr. Bruce’s Structure for Couples Therapy

1. First session: Understand why a couple wants to be together, and 2 sets of needs that need to be met

a. Stability (Knowing how to keep the relationship stable, not pushing buttons)

b. Intimacy (Being open and honest with the ability to tolerate anxiety rather than avoid it)

2. Lightbulbs will go off in the couple’s minds and they will see where intimacy and stability are compromised

3. Treatment goals are made, part of which is to increase both stability and intimacy

4. How will you know therapy is helping?

Why do people betray each other? If intimacy is compromised, then people are more likely to betray each other

The “Oh Shit” moment is when a person realizes that they have contributed to problems in the relationship

Financial Betrayal examples: “I trusted you with something, and this trust that I gave you was not honored.”

(Social Expectations, and types of Family betrayals)

What do we do if we are the Betrayed or the Betrayer? Forgiveness

1. Forgive yourself

2. Forgive the betrayer

3. Forgive God (or, understand that betrayals do indeed happen)

If you’re in a situation where you are still being hurt, it may not be safe for you to stay in the relationship

If it’s a case of infidelity, they both need to restore / rebuild trust

If a betrayal happens, the relationship as you knew it is not the same…and you can build a new and sometimes better relationship

Website: https://brucechalmer.com

Books:

Dr. Chalmer’s book “Betrayal and Forgiveness” https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/

Dr. Chalmer’s book “It’s not about Communication – Why Everything you know about Couples Therapy is Wrong” https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-About-Communication-Everything/dp/1667871935

Podcast:

Dr. Chalmer’s Podcast with his wife Judy Alexander called “Couples Therapy in Seven Words” https://couplestherapyinsevenwords.com/

The seven words are: Be Kind, Don’t Panic, And Have Faith

Social Media:

YouTube: @brucechalmer

#mentalhealth #betrayal #forgiveness

“What do I want to do with my life?” – Sourcery 101 with Justin Shaw

Author Justin Shaw describes himself as “A little bit Deepak and a little bit Tupac.” Justin is a former stand-up comedian with an inspiring story of overcoming trauma, emotional / mental issues and heavy drug addiction using a system he developed called Sourcery, which uses source energy to heal trauma and manifest a thriving new life. Now, he teaches these concepts to others using his book “Sourcery 101: 13 Rungs to a Higher Elevation of Consciousness.”

Timestamps:

5:00: Justin tells his story

11:55 Sedona and the development of Sourcery

“It all, like a beautiful mind, came to me in pieces.” “It’s all for a purpose and has meaning.”

13:05: Tracy chimes in about family of origin and Sedona

14:05: In Sedona, Justin asks the vortexes in Sedona, “What do I do with my life?”

16:10 Justin’s “Dumpster Fire” and explaining “The Shadow was driving my car.” Using mind, body and spirit to heal

18:29: “What made the body heals the body.” Trauma and Calming the Chaos

19:18: Western Medicine vs. Eastern Medicine (discussion with Justin and Tracy)

“You do want therapy…with the right therapist.”

“The easiest way to give away your power is by thinking you don’t have any.”

23:28: The Sourcery method and how Justin reconciled his new found spirituality with Christianity at the point where he lost his mother

“Fear is the number one way to control people”

“I had this true religious experience when I dropped my religion.”

29:00: “I’m not even confident of MY salvation!” Christianity and stepping outside of it into a whole new world

30:33: Tracy explains the difference between rigidity and flexibility, and the advantages of gaining psychological flexibility in mental health

31:27: Justin goes more into what Sourcery is

“Spirituality unites….religion divides. Spirituality is found…religion is taught.”

“When you replace panic with love, you find bliss.”

33:35: Justin’s near life experience. “If more people had them, we’d have less chaos.”

34:34: Tracy: Is love, joy and bliss the medicine we need? The answer to calm the chaos?

35:19: Justin: “Attack the situation with love, and peace will follow.”

37:09: Justin “I’m trying to make this the last time.” Tracy “Oh my gosh, that’s what I’ve been saying for years!”

38:33 The 13 Rungs of Sourcery as compared to the 12 steps of AA

“A bird has a better perspective of things than a worm.”

40:35: Tracy introduces Justin’s book: “Sourcery 101 13 Rungs 13 Rungs to a Higher Elevation of Consciousness.”

42:39: Will Justin become a Shaman? Will Tracy become a Shaman or an Astrologer? Stay tuned!

44:24: The fool and Tracy – “You can learn from your shadows.”

46:02: Justin: The first rung is the shadow. “Healing trauma should be fun, too.” References to M&M, (Marshall Mathers, the rapper)

Social Media Links:

Website: www.awakenthesourcerer.com You can get a free session with Justin!

Instagram: @sourcerer_13 A free follow in Instagram!

#mentalhealth #addiction #spirituality #healing #mindbody

Life with A Thousand Paper Cuts – What PTSD Feels Like with Cole Grace

June was Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) awareness month. And yes, even though it is now July, I am airing this interview with Cole Grace, who shares his story about what it feels like to have PTSD, and to recover and experience calm despite having a life going through chaos.

Bio:

Cole Grace had a difficult early childhood. His parents divorced when he was four years old. And although he was never physically or sexually abused, and never lost anyone tragically, he didn't think he had childhood trauma.

Cole joined the Army National Guard and went to Iraq as a combat engineer responsible for IED route clearance and convoy security in 2005. He was attached to multiple units and low ranking because he got in trouble for smoking weed. So he got the worst of the worst jobs. Through this, Cole repressed his emotions in the moment, but later realized he had trauma from his childhood and his combat experience.

Cole went back to school and ended up getting a high paying job for the government in 2012. He thought that meant that he was healed from the stomach episodes he suffered from while in Iraq, some of which led him to go to the emergency room after returning to the United States in 2006. When he worked for the government in 2012, it was in the midst of the opioid crisis. So that meant when he went to the hospital, many times they wouldn't give him pain medicine anymore. So he self medicated and eventually became addicted to opiates in 2015.

Cole went to rehab in 2017 and learned about childhood trauma, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and started reading self-help books and books about trauma. He started trying different healing modalities and eventually putting together the outline for the book Internal to External - Calming the Chaos Within.

“Your external world can change in an instant, but you can’t take away the internal things.”

Timestamps

7:30 Cole tells his story

10:00 The Army / Combat Experience

14:00 Radiation Exposure in Iraq

16:20 “I just checked off this whole checklist and I still don’t feel good.”

19:10 “Unlearn your Pain and Depression” book by Howard Schubiner at https://unlearnyourpain.com/unlearn-your-pain-book/

21:47 “The Body Keeps the Score” and “7 Habits for Highly Successful People” and other self-help books helped him connect to the subconscious

23:30 What Cole does to monitor his subconscious mind

1. Awareness and Acceptance of Unhelpful Beliefs

2. Reframing these beliefs into truthful / helpful ones

3. Embracing more positivity

4. Breathwork, affirmations and gratitude practices, personal mission statement

27:00 Tracy says to focus on what’s both truthful and helpful when reframing beliefs and doing affirmations

Cole agrees…and adds, “What you say has to have the possibility of being truthful”

28:33 Tracy’s way of approaching Trauma with clients, and the benefits of addressing trauma that can benefit you in the long run

29:36 Why should we even address trauma, anyway?

31:32: “Between the stimulus and the response is a choice”

Cole tells how he’s done the work, and yet still has some challenges, he deals with them

“Heal Your Body” book by Louise Hay https://www.amazon.com/Heal-Your-Body-Louise-Hay/dp/9394613846

In his life, Cole had to push through a lot of fear, justifications, and excuses to publish this book. But he did it. He believes that the book is inspiring and that it gives practical ways and “tactics” to improve your quality of life without the expectation of perfection.

“I do not have it all figured out, and I don't pretend to. So I believe that makes me more relatable than some other people that write on the subject of mental health and PTSD.”

39:40 Cole’s Book...

Amy Vincze is our guest today on Calming the Chaos. She is an Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) coach and she and I really agree that Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT or "Tapping") helps people process emotions that could be causing emotional distress or chaos.

In this podcast, Amy uses EFT on me to help me process my emotions of fear and sadness at what is going on with the Los Angeles Riots / Protests.

I hope you stay till the end, where you will learn new skills to manage your emotions in these chaotic times.

Amy's website is www.soarwithtapping.com You can download Amy's apo called "Soar With Tapping" on iTunes, Apple and Android apps.

Here are some videos Amy has that can teach you more in depth about how Emotional Freedom Technique / Tapping works https://soarwithtapping.com/eft-tappi...

Take care!