Relativism has a seductive force behind it. It offers you short-term relief for your problems - internally, relationally, and professionally. And the worst part is that it works. For a while anyway.

But relativist thinking also comes with a brutal, long-term cost:

It separates you from reality!

This separation is subtle. Most don't realize it until the consequences can't be ignored - and that takes a while. And perhaps the hardest thing to wrap your head around is that it becomes more alluring the smarter you are.

In fact, this loss of calibration with reality uses your own intelligence against you!

And it all starts from a simple assumption: Everyone has their own truth.

The good news is that it's possible to free yourself from this slow and inevitable fracture from reality. But it won't be easy.

In today's episode, you'll discover how relativism separates you from reality, why it's more tempting the more intelligent you are, and the one question you must answer to realign yourself with reality again.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• How to better discern reality from the narrative stories your mind feeds you (This one mistake ends marriages, chokeholds growth, and turns stress up - learn how to avoid making it at) (1:45)
• The innocent, yet deadly mistake of thinking that truth is relative (and why it slowly wrings the life out of you) (3:47)
• A cognitive safeguard that disappears from your cognitive toolkit the very second you believe that truth is relative (7:05)
• The strange reason the most intelligent people are the most susceptible to the "Perverted Truth" mind virus that slowly distorts reality (7:24)
• Why your growing confidence might actually be a hidden threat (8:50)
• How short-term pressure-relief strategies work at first, but then fester underneath the surface waiting to explode (15:00)
• How clarity fades without obvious warning signs (and how to spot when you're in this process sooner to avoid complete collapse) (19:03)
• One question (that's not sexy or dramatic) to help pull yourself out of the loss of calibration that happens when judgment degrades (21:46)

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Feeling like success in one area of life has come at the expense of another?

Maybe you've crushed it in your career, but your relationships feel strained. Or you've built the life you thought you wanted, yet there's still something important missing.

I've put together a free 3-minute assessment to help you see what's really holding you back. Answer a few simple questions, and you'll get instant access to a personalized masterclass that speaks directly to where you are right now.

It's fast. It's practical. And it could change the way you approach leadership, love, and fulfillment.

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A tragedy occurs when you reach a certain level of achievement: The mind starts to reorder itself for destruction instead of growth.

Worst part?

This happens so subtly that it goes completely unnoticed… until it's too late. As achievements accumulate, decision quality erodes. Feedback arrives later and later, so mistakes don't get corrected. They get built into systems and culture. By the time the error becomes clear, reversing it is costly or impossible.

That's the bad news. The good news?

There's a simple (but not easy) solution to this… but you might not like it because it forces you to finally slow down. And, the unfortunate reality is that this becomes far harder after success.

When you let your true values guide you (instead of letting achievement become your governing value), you can avoid the fatal consequences that success brings. Again, it won't be easy - but it's the ONLY way to recover from the Tragedy of Achievement.

That's what you'll learn how to do in today's show.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• The "Lost Ship" trap that explains the subtle way success corrupts your decision making (0:30)
• How success tricks you into co-opting your values and quietly distorting them (2:10)
• The insidious, step-by-step way that achievement reorders the mind (without your realizing it) (3:38)
• 3 distortions that happen in your mind when you value achievement too much (and how each of these distortions plant the seeds of destruction - personally, professionally, and emotionally (5:35)
• Why intelligent and principled (but successful) people drift away from their values without even noticing until they're smacked in the face by a mid-life crisis (7:29)
• How treating values like courage, compassion, and integrity as "ethical decoration" instead of the key to growth in every aspect of your life is the single biggest mistake high achievers make (8:39)
• Why losing playfulness fills you with a deep sense of humiliation and shame that results in developing blind spots that create more damage (15:09)
• The cold, hard truth about why the most dangerous mistakes are made by people who move too fast (not people who hesitate too much) (18:43)
• How experience only not only fails to protect against misjudgment, but in many cases, it actually makes it WORSE (20:38)

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Feeling like success in one area of life has come at the expense of another?

Maybe you've crushed it in your career, but your relationships feel strained. Or you've built the life you thought you wanted, yet there's still something important missing.

I've put together a free 3-minute assessment to help you see what's really holding you back. Answer a few simple questions, and you'll get instant access to a personalized masterclass that speaks directly to where you are right now.

It's fast. It's practical. And it could change the way you approach leadership, love, and fulfillment.

Take the first step here → https://dtphd.com/quiz

There's a pattern that's so ingrained in the human psyche that Ancient Daoism noticed it long before psychology had language for cognition. It's a pattern that sneaks up on almost every high achiever who tastes enough success. And it subtly erodes your judgement and strangles your emotional intelligence without your realizing.

Worst part?

The more intelligent you are, the faster your mind crumbles your judgement.

And while this pattern doesn't usually cause immediate failure, it can lead to something far worse down the road.

Here's the good news:

In today's show, you'll discover exactly how this pattern works, how it uses your own intelligence against you, why your instincts about how to solve aren't only wrong (but actually the exact opposite way to restore judgment), and how your emotions are your ultimate weapon against this insidious pattern.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• The counterintuitive way success trains your mind to slowly degrade your judgement (2:24)
• How the mind under domination feels like progress and clarity (even though it's silently unplugging all your decision-making wires) (7:06)
• A step-by-step explanation of how judgement degrades without your noticing it (this pattern is so ingrained in the human psyche that Ancient Daoism noticed it long before psychology had language for cognition) (8:31)
• Why the same disruption that can make billion dollar corporations collapse is probably happening inside your body right now (10:30)
• How your intelligence works against you in the crumbling of your judgement (especially if it seems like your intelligence is protecting you) (14:13)
• The psychological reason behind why some of the smartest and most successful people are the most miserable (14:32)
• Why your "maturity" is holding you back from growth in your career, closer relationships, and a deeper sense of fulfillment (18:15)
• How your instincts betray your growth (and what to do to "outsmart" your instincts) (22:31)

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Feeling like success in one area of life has come at the expense of another?

Maybe you've crushed it in your career, but your relationships feel strained. Or you've built the life you thought you wanted, yet there's still something important missing.

I've put together a free 3-minute assessment to help you see what's really holding you back. Answer a few simple questions, and you'll get instant access to a personalized masterclass that speaks directly to where you are right now.

It's fast. It's practical. And it could change the way you approach leadership, love, and fulfillment.

Take the first step here → https://dtphd.com/quiz