Why Emotionally Unavailable Men Create Obsession

How Distance, Uncertainty, Scarcity and Hot-and-Cold Behavior Trigger Desire, Attachment and Obsession

By: Roberto V. Bertarelli

Narrated by: Virtual Voice

Some people do not attract through warmth, consistency, or emotional closeness.
They attract through absence.

Why Emotionally Unavailable Men Create Obsession is not a dating guide and not a book about “fixing” unavailable partners. It is a psychological examination of how distance, uncertainty, and emotional unpredictability alter perception - and why desire intensifies precisely where access is restricted.

This book explores a counterintuitive dynamic: emotional unavailability does not weaken attachment. Under certain conditions, it amplifies it.

Drawing on psychological observation, historical correspondence, and real relational patterns, the book examines:

• how emotional distance is mistaken for depth

• why uncertainty sustains fascination longer than reassurance

• how intermittent attention conditions fixation and preoccupation

• why effort and empathy often increase imbalance instead of closeness

• how obsession forms without intention or choice

Obsession does not arise because someone is special.
It arises because the mind is forced to fill gaps.

This book traces the quiet loops that turn attraction into anxiety, longing, and mental occupation - not through manipulation or games, but through the structural effects of emotional scarcity.

It is not about becoming unavailable.
It is not about chasing validation.
And it does not offer strategies.

Instead, it reveals why clarity dissolves obsession, why emotional availability restores balance, and why some connections feel intoxicating precisely because they never stabilize.

For readers who have felt pulled toward someone distant, confusing, or impossible to fully reach, this book explains what is happening beneath the desire - and why the pull feels so strong.