When Everyone Knows That Everyone Knows . . .

Common Knowledge and the Mysteries of Money, Power, and Everyday Life

De: Steven Pinker

Narrado por: Fred Sanders

From one of the world’s most celebrated intellectuals, a brilliantly insightful work that explains how we think about each other’s thoughts about each other’s thoughts, ad infinitum. It sounds impossible, but Steven Pinker shows that we do it all the time. This awareness, which we experience as something that is public or “out there,” is called common knowledge, and it has a momentous impact on our social, political, and economic lives.

Common knowledge is necessary for coordination, for making arbitrary but complementary choices like driving on the right, using paper currency, and coalescing behind a political leader or movement. It’s also necessary for social coordination: everything from rendezvousing at a time and place to speaking the same language to forming enduring relationships of friendship, romance, or authority. Humans have a sixth sense for common knowledge, and we create it with signals like laughter, tears, blushing, eye contact, and blunt speech.

But people also go to great lengths to avoid common knowledge—to ensure that even if everyone knows something, they can’t know that everyone else knows they know it. And so we get rituals like benign hypocrisy, veiled bribes and threats, sexual innuendo, and pretending not to see the elephant in the room.

Pinker shows how the hidden logic of common knowledge can make sense of many of life’s enigmas: financial bubbles and crashes, revolutions that come out of nowhere, the posturing and pretense of diplomacy, the eruption of social media shaming mobs and academic cancel culture, the awkwardness of a first date. Artists and humorists have long mined the intrigues of common knowledge, and Pinker liberally uses their novels, jokes, cartoons, films, and sitcom dialogues to illuminate social life’s tragedies and comedies. Along the way he answers questions like:

• Why do people hoard toilet paper at the first sign of an emergency?
• Why are Super Bowl ads filled with ads for crypto?
• Why, in American presidential primary voting, do citizens typically select the candidate they believe is preferred by others rather than their favorite?
• Why did Russian authorities arrest a protester who carried a blank sign?
• Why is it so hard for nervous lovers to say goodbye at the end of a phone call?
• Why does everyone agree that if we were completely honest all the time, life would be unbearable?

Consistently riveting in explaining the paradoxes of human behavior, When Everyone Knows That Everyone Knows… invites us to understand the ways we try to get into each other’s heads and the harmonies, hypocrisies, and outrages that result.

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Pinker takes us in an intellectual journey

Clear, engaging, cogent. you follow along because it's fascinating. Then you see the world like never before. Pinker is always great for this

Tiny review of another great collection of ideas

Do yourself the favor of buying the Kindle version of this book when you have listened to it a time or two. The citations are worth reading.

Like Pinker, I feel the loss of Dennett. Hurley, Dennett, and Adams wrote "Inside Jokes" in 2011. I like their particular subtype of the incongruity theory of laughter: "So there has to be a policy of double-checking these candidate beliefs and surmisings, and the discovery and resolution of these at breakneck speed is maintained by a powerful reward system—the feeling of humor; mirth—that must support this activity in competition with all the other things you could be thinking about." This dovetails nicely with Pinker's points on common knowledge. The superiority theory of laughter, which Pinker leans into in this book, arguably emerges from the underlying reality sorting tool that evolution cobbled together.

Laughing and crying are sometimes simultaneous, and the distinction between uncontrollable "Duchenne" laughter vs. social laughter is worth noting. I made the mistake of reading "The House of God" by Shem on an airplane flight shortly after completing a residency in medicine. I was wracked with spasms of laughter, tears streaming down my face (I know, I'm probably a terrible person) and apologized to the stewardess who approached me after I had several fits. It turned out, another passenger wanted to know what I was reading. I let her know, but the material was hilarious for one group's common knowledge, which outsiders would likely find shocking or in poor taste.

Buy the book. Every book Pinker has written is worth reading.

an interesting way to think about culture

an interesting way to think about culture. Also has some humorous examples . this review must contain 15 words

Interesting content narrated well

It got a bit detailed at times, but there were some great stories a jokes along the way.

I thought a lot about this throughout my life and it was good to hear framed in this way

it was very challenging to listen to even though I've thought a lot about this, but there's no easy answers for being a human being :-)

Phenomenally deep insights

Clear examples pointing out behaviors and cognition we don’t even register but are clearly true; seems to explain a lot of our behavior more parsimoniously than I’ve previously thought possible

Salient and Thought-Provoking

This book allowed me to better understand the extent to which others consider likelihoods and risks of events outside of their own control.

My brain always defaulted to a "do not care" cycle, even as I grew older; as an adult, though, the significance of knowing that someone knows that you know what they know, and so on — as goofy as that sounds — has become increasingly clear.

I had a wonderful time listening to this. Several chapters, especially the ones on blushing and cancel culture, really threw me for a loop.

I can't believe that I almost overlooked this one. The best compliment that I can give to Dr Pinker is, "his writing gets better and better with each new entry".

Sir, you have a life-long fan in me. Please do take care, and stay off social media as long as you can muster! We need more deep thinkers and focused writers of pertinent subjects such as this.

Terrible narrator

I wanted to rate this higher because the content was good but the delivery is sooooo monotonous I couldn’t even finish it.

Not enough facts, way too much opinion.

This entire book is the author preaching his personal beliefs at the reader. It’s presented as interesting facts about human behavior.
The presentation sounds like someone reading bullet points without any engagement.
I was hoping to learn more about the human experience, not the authors dislikes in the world.